Abusive partners???

they take them back because they believe the abusive partner who says he will change. that is the biggest reason and of course their are many others, - financial reasons - raising the kids - love - low self esteem - thinking that they are unloveable and nobody else would want them.

I;ve been in two seperate abusive relationships, one was physically violent and the other was solely mental/emotional....A physically violent relationship is ALSO mental/emotional though...but bottomline its about an abuser breaking down the victim over time into being a shell of a person with nothing but low self esteem, shame and fear in them....Leaving is sometimes in fact IMO more often than not too scary for one reason or another...Thats why we tend to stay...It took me moving out of the blue from one region to another to get away from my kids father, if I hadnt, our relationshp would have continued on for many more yrs I dont doubt...Getting out of the first one was me having to call my brother and his father and they came and got me becuase I was terrified for my life... Being in any sort of domestically violent/abusive relationship is a very detailed thing which ppl on the outside looking in usually arent aware of...Its not a matter of just "getting away"..a situation like that is a very very traumatic and detailed one....its never JUST hitting or name calling, its an entire mind f*ck on the victim..

i think when a person is first hit, they will be emotionally blackmaled in to staying put. After this, self esteem will be reduced to the extent that the person being beaten begins to believe they are worthy of little more. They often stay because they begin to believe it is their fault blessed be

I think they are so brain washed by the partener that they cant see that they can make a better life for themselves if they can just get way away from that person took my daughter 5 years and she finally listened to me now she has a feller who loves her very much!

It is a control issue. These women are most often beaten down emotionally and physically. It is the fear of leaving, their partners tell them anything to keep them in the home/relationship. Most times it is fear of leaving, that the leaving will be worse than the staying and dealing with what it is. I was in an abusive relationship in two seperate occasions and both times I was very scared to leave, because they threatened me that they would kill me or make my life much worse. They often said they were sorry and cried and made me feel guilty...was it something I did? How could I be better for him, they make you think crazy things to turn it around on you. Now I know it is them, it is their control and anger issues, you can't change them or make them better.

I think it all comes down to their self esteem. Some women think it's better to be in an abusive relationship than to stand their ground and be on their own. My ex marriage was this way. He wasn't too abusive, but he did get that way. I tried changing him and it didn't work. I think all women should get out of those situations but I know that many wont.

I think it is a little bit of all of what you've mentioned and I think sometimes, those women don't have the courage to stand up for themselves and be heard.

these women can take the beatings. they may appear to be complaining so much about it, but actually there is something wrong with their minds. they love being beaten because, they can complain about it and then get everyone's attention for it. they get allies to their side. these women will only be cured of their demented state by going through and having professional help.