When Your Own Worst Enemy is Yourself

Well wolfie, you already know how i feel. i told you in my email to you. its how i feel and i cant change it. You may not believe me. though But its true. I'm sorry you have depression. I know its hard for you. I will always be here for you. I'm not sure what else to say. You already know so nothing more to say XX

First off, congrats on 5,000! That's quite the myLot milestone. I am usually not too hard on myself. I try to make sure that I apply enough pressure on myself to continue to try and improve, but in no way do I beat myself up or criticize myself when an inevitable mistake happens. I don't want to do anything that could kill my own self-esteem. I expect perfection from myself, but I don't overkill when it doesn't happen. Hopefully you are able to get past those demons in your own life. Your recognition and ability to understand is the first step... Good luck!

sometimes I do pal yes , Ross and hubby get on to me and always say I am too hard on myself , with my worries at the moment I have felt myself going quiet( unusual for me) and I wanted to stay in bed ( couldn't because I have to many people to take care of , and I was crying for nothing , I realized I was getting depressed ( the signs of anyway ) so I am trying to be positive pal , You are right when you say you have a lot of good friends pal and I count myself as an old one God Bless and take care xxxx

Am too hard on myself. Like I blame myself for almost everything. I oblige myself to understand everyone. I am my biggest critic next to my Dad. I blame myself for not being understanding enough and I cannot forgive myself for not being the person I ought to be. I know it's not right so I am trying to change this. I am learning to appreciate the things that I can do and the gifts that I have.

i am not too hard on myself and never have been. i just mainly laugh things off

Guilty as charged! I have realized that things I overlook & let slide for others I will pick on about myself. I think it is a bad thing though. I know I need to realize that no one will accept you until you accept you. Ya know. I know its easier said than done. But I really need to work on that.

ya i feel i am too hard on myself despite knowing my strength and weaknesses better. but can't help being too idealistic for myself. i have my own targets to achieve and set standards to be met..it sometimes makes me self centred and always competing with self

Yes, I think I am my harshes critic. I can be very hard on myself, and then have a tendency to withdraw and lick my wounds. I had a rough week last week too, my friend, when someone I thought was a good friend said something I don't think I will be able to forgive. She was very critical, and frankly I have enough of that in my own head and can do without any extra. Feel better.

When your worst enemy is you, it means that you dnot have control over your body. Your mind doesnt listens to you isnt it? Like my mind tells to study..tommorrow is exam, but still i hate to sit down and study! That is when i say that i have become my own enemy! Do you have any such experiences? have a nice day! Happy mylotting!!

Sometimes when you have nailed yourself with hatred others good talks doesn't matter. Have you ever held a beautiful rose in your hand and did this bring a smile to you face. A moment of happiness. Why dont you use the same theory to your life, do something good which will make you happy and your heart will reflect the light of happiness. Simple. Just do the right thing.

I'm so guilty of this it isn't funny. I'm constantly beating myself up, telling myself I can do better, taking all the harsh criticisms I receive to heart and feeling like I'm a failure. I don't know how to break free of this. There are a lot of people in my life who think I'm doing things wrong, that I should be doing something else, that I'm not smart enough and all of that. . . I can't seem to bring myself away from that negativity.

I think we are just alike. I have no enemies, per say, but I'm probably harsher on myself than anyone else ever has. I probably beat myself up more than I should, but it's something I've been doing forever. Even if it's something little, in my head I keep repeating how stupid it was or how dumb I am for it. Even when I receive compliments, I don't believe them. It's just a habit I can't break out of.

I don't blame my self being like this cuz thats the way I am. Im just wondering if everything i do is perfect it means im not normal. Even if I tried harder to change my behavior I keep on doing it. So if you will take it seriously by blaming yourself, that will be the darkest moment of your life. You need to relax and try to change it step by step, if not then do what ever you want to do, its your life enjoy it --- life is short.

yeah i am very guilty of my mistakes and i punish my self a lot for my mistakes...and mainly my anger is my worst enemy,i commiit a number of mistakes with anger... i often go into depression due to my mistakes... but i get support from my parents and friends.... so i am still normal.... i enjoyed responding to your discussion and i actually liked it.

I always try to look on the bright side of life.I have been going through a tough time lately financially.I choose to be happy....No matter what!. Can I suggest you try a little experiment?. How about whenever you feel down or negative you stop yourself and try to find something that makes you happy.It could be a pet,a flower,an inspiring book.Anything that makes YOU feel good.Trust me,it's just a matter of reprogramming your thoughts and before long you will feel happier.It's just a suggestion...take it or leave it my friend.Whatever makes you happy!

we all have a dark side, yeah you are right, our worst enemy is sometimes is ourselves.

It's great to hear from you, mate! I'm glad you're feeling a bit better in yourself. I'm probably a natural depressive too, as I'm always looking to see what I've done wrong and how I can improve. I suppose we can take consolation in the fact that we'll be better people in the end, as we always strive to be better, and make an effort to become so?! Just remember to look back once in a while and enjoy your achievements. It's healthy to look ahead and see what needs to be done, but it's just as important to look back once in a while and enjoy the things you've gained or achieved.

One of my children was going of the rails and was causing me quite a lot of stress, i looked into myself and couldn't find anything to blame myself for but thats not enough i have taken some time of work to help him sort himself out. I'm the sort of person who listens and tries to help, things are now getting back on track! i try to look on the bright side rather than dishing out blame to myself or others, hubby is different he has a good go then he's ok lol he knows i'm the one who can get through to my children You know you have loads of friends hon everyone makes mistakes but stop beating yourself up

I'm kinda the same. Though I've gotten better these days..it's hard to stay 'better'. It's a mind-frame, looking more toward the positive and filing the bad and the shames away under "Stuff not to think about unless I really need to". It sounds easy, but it's the most freaking hard thing in the ENTIRE world lol. But if one works hard enough, doesn't give on it..sticks to it as long as it takes, it can be done. It's hard to maintain too, but not nearly as hard as ahcieving it to begin with. We're people not machines. We may have programming, but it changes as we does, enhances upon itself. Revises, edits, polishes, demolishes..but we ultimately get the last say. If we think it's inevitable then it becomes inevitable. It's a matter of the mind lol. I'm hard on myself quite often, though not nearly as often as I used to be. I'm thankful for the good things when they happen, and yeah I focus alot on the bad things..but if things were constantly rainbows and sunshine I'd probably go insane nearly instantly from boredom. But I wouldn't mind a day like that an occasion more often.. It's just one of those tough things. It's basically a matter of your own life and why or why not you consider it worth living. And trust me, there's always reasons why life's worth the effort..sometimes it just takes some findin'.

Hello wolfie, I'm glad to see you again. I am currently reading a book titled "When Hope Is Lost." The book is all about depression. It talks of what depression really is, signs and symptoms, causes, factors, of giving up and of recovery. I can understand very well what you are feeling and going through. I do not like to think of my past anymore. There is no sense beating myself for every mistakes and decisions I made. I don't criticize myself in everything I did. It is my surrounding that's giving me all those negativity. It is "other people" that's causing me to revert to my own world. I know you will understand what I'm saying. I don't think I need to elaborate more.