How do you deal with friends with bad body images?
@justnikkihere (107)
Australia
May 21, 2007 5:44pm CST
In high school, i was best friends with this girl who had a really bad body image of herself. She used to ask me if she was fat and being the good friend that i was i would always tell her no she wasnt, even though she was.
After about 3 years of telling her she wasnt fat and listening to her say she was, i got sick of it, simply because she never did anything about being fat like exercising and eating right, so i told her one day she was fat.
What i would like to know is how would you have delt with this situation?
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@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
21 May 07
I would have told her right away she was fat, what motivation would there be to exercise anyways if apparently you're not fat according to the friends you would trust most in this, your friends.
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@justnikkihere (107)
• Australia
22 May 07
yeah ur right, i really should have told her straight out, but i thought i was being a friend... silly me! lol
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
22 May 07
Well, i guess i had the same problem..
But now, the girl and i are no longer friends...
I mean shes one whom noone wants to be friends with...
Coz of her arrogant and like what u said...
yet, i thought we could become the best of friends...
Gradually, she took me for granted and think that the whole world likes her...
sad to say, tts the exact opposite...
she told me that she actually hates me alot, if not for the friends i have around me...
tt is certainly killing...
so saddening...
i mean how could she, i took her as a friend...
but yah, now alls over...
n it happened quite some time, im immune to it...
@justnikkihere (107)
• Australia
22 May 07
Its sad to hear you are no longer friends with someone you were really good friends with... and i am glad to hear you are fine now! Keep smiling mwah!
@mwalidji (200)
• Philippines
22 May 07
i think the best way to answer a friend is to tell her the truth... if she is really your friend she can understand you... and it hurts more if she hear it from other person at least when you were the one telling her the pain is lesser and you can help her about the problem.
@lucgeta (924)
• France
21 May 07
I would tell her that she might improve, can't really tell because don't know her. I would try not to say something different than I think or tell her that the important is how she feels and slowly give guidance or call her to exercise or talk about books about nutrition or tips "seen on tv".
Or wait for the right moment like holiday season or before summer - she would be just another one in that situation :)
Tell her something for her to feel good or to avoid confrontation is my last option.