When do you know it is time to leave a marrriage?

Starting over is always hard. But it is time for you to do it and you will do fine. God has a plan for you and now you just need to find it. Moving out is a start. Since your wife has moved on, you are only hurting yourself if you try to hang on. Good luck, just be strong, and have faith.

I made this same mistake, I was married for 10 years before I left and we got divorced. Truthfully it should have ended much sooner then it did, I stuck around for the same reasons, kids and finances. Continuing with your life will be much easier than you think it will be. At first it's hard, setting up a new place to live and learning new routines. Once you get all of that settled do some things for you. Make sure you talk to your daughters about the whole situation and make sure they know that they did nothing wrong, sometimes kids begin to think it was them. Don't rush out trying to meet a new lady, it will happen in time, trust me i know and now i have a great girl and I couldn't be happier.

I am with my husband because of the kids and have been for the last 7 years. We do not have a healthy relationship and he annoys the BLEEP out of me and I really should get my own place....Being a single mom of 5 children isn't no easy task though and I don't want to hurt my children by taking their father away...it sucks and I don't know the answer...lol Good Luck... :-)

starting and starting over are probably the most difficult in anything that we do. we actually wouldn't know when a relationship/marriage is over until it's really over and your partner is no longer a vital part of your life. some relationships/marriages ended long before the physical separation. i guess it's time to leave a marriage when you could no longer stay because you wanted to. there are things we could have done earlier but didn't, and couldn't. well that's over and done with. the first step now in starting over is having the ability to recognize that your previous partner has moved on and so should you. if you think it's going to be difficult... it will be. just think that your life doesn't end there... and you have the rest of your life to choose to be happy. :) goodluck!

i want to married in 25 years. now i am 20 years. it means 5 years later i will have married. because now, i want to enjoy my life, doing something do i like, and have fun with my best friend...

Starting over.. I wouldn't consider it starting over. You already had your life, even how wonderful, or bad it was. You have two children, who still needs you. You don't have to go off and find a new love of your life soon as your marriage ends. Let loose, do what you normally done. Allow the time to flow more. =)

First I want to say...how sorry I am. I have been with my partner for 14 years...and have a 14 year old son..so I can relate. I understand how you feel like holding on for the kids and finances. I guess you know it is time to move on when you truly stop loving the other person. I am sorry your wife moved on. Did you try counselling...etc. I know you feel starting over will be difficult. I am almost 40 myself...however my partner and I aren't married. I would like to get married some day. I think you just have to get out in the world..and try and meet people. If you are meant to meet someone..then you will. They say things happen for a reason...and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger...I wish you much luck and happiness....

My mother should have left my father long before she did, but she didn't "for the sake of the kids" (my sister and I, four years apart). Finally when Dad's emotional abuse of all of us almost cost us my older sister (she'd had it and was doing angerious things to try and escape) Mom knew the only way to save us all was to end their marriage. It was a bitter end (my father was bitter) but now we are all happy living our own lives.

Marriage is a gamble. You have to work hard on it to make it works. You have gone that far in your marriage, I don't know why you have decided to call it quits. Don't give up as yet as your children need both parents to be around. I believe once you're married you'll stay married forever and the question of when you think is time to leave a marriage does not arise. Thrash out your differences and try to see and solve the internal conflicts that caused this breakup. Try to patch up things. It is not impossible to start over again at your age but I feel there is no point to do it as history might and can happen to you. So it is better to hold on to the present one which you know best.

Starting over is always hard, no matter what age you are. The past is just that - the past. And it's okay to remember the past, but hanging onto the past will only make it harder for you to move on. That being said, you'll know when the time is right for you to move on. Trust God and be strong. He won't let you down. Good luck and God bless you.

Im sorry to hear this... Its pretty sad whenever i hear couples break up or over a broken marriage... As such, im not a believer in marriage... But u sure are strong... Dun think too much... Look around u, u never noe, u might have ur next spring around? Meant to say that its never too late... As long as u r willing to... Right? Its ur ex wife loss that she lose u... Be glad that u had two beautiful daughters and be glad that all this happened... Afterall, u still have ur daughters, right? Be strong k? I wish u the best of luck...

Hopefully, you never have to make that decision. But people do fall out of love and outgrow each other. And even though many people "stay together for the children", I think children may be better off with their parents separated than to be in a house where the marraige is cold and there is no true affection and love between the parents. Yes, children do need both parents, but there is no reason they cannot have them even if the parents are in separate houses. Each parent can still be a vital and important part of their children's lives. Each parent just has to make the effort and both agree to cooperate.

am sorry for that, this your condition is critical,well you just have to cheer up and live life again cause it is not over until it is over.

This is my 1st time on here, my mother thought this would be good for me to talk with new people about real things that go on in everyones life. I am sorry to hear that after 13 years together that it had to end, but I hope it was for the better. I am starting over myself from nothing and going on 30 but that is a whole nothere story there. If you can really look at yourself and feel you gave your all 100% on your marriage and your children and your life, then it is time to move on cause you did what you know was right at all times.I know that in alot of ways you were hurt from all this but life will go on I hope you are always you in evey thing you set out to do in the end it is worth it.

I have been there, golfproo, it is indeed difficult whenever a relationship fails...for whatever reason....having children together makes it that much more difficult...we all want the best for our children so we often try to hold a marriage/realtionship together for the children.... I was raised in a divorced home and often times resented it when I was growing up.... My husband's parents have been married for almost 50 years...but they disagree freuently.... Now that I am older and have children and grandchildren of my own....I do not think that it benefits the children for a couple to stay together...just for the children...they are often witnesses to the unhappiness and tension between the parents...even if you are conscienious about not "fighting" in front of them....they see, hear and feel the tension in the home. I am sorry that you are having to begin again...but it may be the best thing...now that you do not have too deal with the personal issues between you and your ex-wife...you are free to concentrate on your relationship with your children... When the issues between you and your partner affect every day in a negative manner...even if it just makes you "feel bad"...it is time to go....