Pregnancy...what were you afraid of?

i was fine with being pregnant but absolutely terrified of giving birth. Im scared of pain. This morbid fear made me put off having having kids for the first 8 years of our marriage. When i fell pregnant with our first child i was scared but was so suprised when it didnt really hurt at all. I was in labour for 12 hours and got bored more than anything else. After my labour, giving birth actually happened very quickly, lol what a relief blessed be

One thing you have to remember is that every pregnancy is different. I am 30 now and have had three kids already and each pregnancy was different. Also remember that the more nervous or anxious you are, the harder it will be to get pregnant. If you have specific fears or questions, you need to go over them with your doctor. Another good thing to do is read good books that will walk you through each stage of your pregnancy; this will be handy when you are actually pregnant too, you can know what to expect or what to watch for in case there is a problem. Going into my first pregnancy I didn't have any fears, but I was also 18, married for six months and eager to be a mom. My first pregnancy I had terrible morning sickness, but I think I did that to myself, every morning I would dwell on it and every morning I was sick for months. My second pregnancy, I had hardly any sickness, I kept a positive attitude and it was easier. Being pregnant was joyful for me, I absolutely loved it, there isn't anything like it. Another thing to remember is the end result! After you hold your child in your arms, everything else fades away. My first daughter was over nine pounds and the birth was a bad experience for me, remember I was young and not as prepared as I thought I was. After she was born I swore I wouldn't have any more kids but my second daughter was born less than three years later - I got pregnant on purpose again. My third child was a "surprise" but still so wonderful. His birth was sudden and I didn't have time for pain medication which was real bad, I won't lie to you. Again, I said I was done, no more, and yet again, I am craving the feel of a baby to hold and care for and my son is not yet two. Pain is temporary, love lasts a lifetime.

Here's a list of my fears that I had:birth defects, dying of childbirth, hemmoraghing, miscarriage, cord wrapping around the neck and not knowing it, stillbirth, water breaking somewhere embarassing, not losing the baby weight, having multiple babies at once, that's all I can remember lol. It's perfectly normal to have fears. I now have a healthy bright toddler, nothing bad happened.

I was pregnant before, so I understood your feeling. First of all, I was worried whether my baby was healthy. Then I was worried about the delivery as I was scared of the painess. I was also afraid whether I would be a good mom. Being a parent needs responsibility. I shall make sure my baby can grow up happily. I have to care about my baby and I have to give up my interests. My time is all with the baby. Did I prepared for it well? I didn't feel the morning sickness was a problem for me. I didn't vomit and I still worked and ate what I liked during my pregnant period. Doctors said the seafood is good for release the morning sickness. I think I often eat seafoods like shrimps, so perhaps this is why I wouldn't vomit like other pregnant women? Please feel relax. All will be gone and you will be glad with your baby. Stay well and wish you a good day!

if i would have pregnant, i don't afraid anything..., because i will be so happy if i had pregnant...i just hope, my baby will be healthy, nothing lose about him/her. what about you? Do you afraid? what do you afraid about pregnancy? Don't worry, you will be fine. Congratulation..., be a good mom, OK!

all i can say is forget the fear n get pregnant.... happy pregnancy... ;-)

I think we have the same fears. I'm 26 going 27 and I am so afraid of having a baby, the pregnancy and the responsibility after that. My clock is running out, we are planning to have our baby at the age of 28-29 and i feel it's too soon. I'm torn of wanting to have a baby and fear and passing years. Pregnancy? I think the feeling of having your big stomach and the labor...that's scares me a lot and other things are the complications on the way..I'm not a healthy person.

I conceived 6 months after my marriage at the age of 29. We actually did plan to have a baby too. I did not experience any morning sickness at all so I was very fortunate. From what I could remember, What I was afraid of was that the baby may be abnormal and that I would not be able to make it to the hospital in time to deliver my baby, and yes,of course the labour pains :)

Hey hun, chill and relax a little. Your fears are perfectly natural and normal, and your fears will lift once you find you are carrying a baby. Morning sickness doesn't last very long, if at all, some of us didn't get morning sickness. :-) My only fear was that as an older first time Mum my labour would be a long time. 12 hours and it was all over, and my son was a lovely healthy baby

don't be afraid about getting pregnant. those morning sickness do not last too long. it will only be for a few days. those days are mostly confined to the first trimester only. you will have some food cravings. do not think that it is necessary to give in to all of them, but if it is easy to comply with, then just do so. your tummy will slowly grow bigger and bigger but there is nothing at all painful about it. the doctor to guide you during your pregnancy days and he will give you all the advice that you will be needing in the process. childbirth might be painful, but once the baby is out, all the pain is gone and the bliss is all that you will feel upon seeing that kicking child. go, have that pregnancy if you want to have a child of your own. your fears are all unfounded.

Yes, me too I'm afraid of that. Because of my experienced with my two kids. When I know that i'm pregnant, the worst thing that I'm scared of is the morning sickness. I thought it's only when i get up from bed that i feel bad, for me it's not. I experienced it more than five months of pregnant. I feeling dizzy, lazy that I don't want to take a bath, combing my hair, i feel so tired even if don't have anything done. Something like that, all I want to do is always lay in bed and take note I resigned from work because of that. So what i did is bed rest. I don't even eat anything and don't drink water that leads me to dehydration because of nausea (constant vomiting). So, after five months of struggle that's the time that I always keep my stomach full, eat lots and lots of food, fruits. After that, I'm afraid of delivering the baby. The pain when period of contraction, a pain when you cannot explain but after the moment when you gave birth, the pain disappear like magic. How beautiful to see a child to think that it comes from your womb. Don't be afraid, that's life. Pain and suffering comes first but experience pleasures forever.

I know exactly what you mean. I'd like to have a child before 30 too. that's the ideal but I'm not sure whether I'm ready. some people say that it doesn't matter. when u get pregnant you will be ready. after all i guess there's 9 months to get ready. I'm not so freaked out about the pregnancy per se. more of having a child. it's a 21 year responsibility at least. and there are all the horrible things in teh world to protect children against. and one wonders about whether the child will be healthy. will i be able to cope with one who isn;t? that is my greatest fear. the pain I've heard is momentary and the discomfort ultimately not significant. women are stronger than we give ourselves credit for. i think you should not worry so much. just relax, talk to friends who have kids. and think more on the fact of having kids and the awesome responsibility. that your life will change drastically after children enter your life. sure there will be many joyful moments. and children are truly a gift. guess the most difficult part might be the night feeds after that. instead of the pregnancy.

Heyy breathe! :-) Im 23 and I havent been pregnant (thank God!) But when I get there, i know ill be as terrified as you are! :-) but for now, all i can give you is some positive side! or something to make you smile (i hope!) Try to see beyond the pain.. or betteryet, accept the pain because with it comes a beautiful gift! :-) Isnt it amazing that there will be a life inside you? A human being totally dependent on you! And with your love and care...he will be perfect! :-) Goodluck! :-) Enjoy the moment okay? You are fortunate to be given that chance, others want it badly but are not given any! So before any fear, thank God first and then ask His help! :-) You'll be fine! I know it! He won't give you anything you cant handle! :-)

I have given birth once. I have had the same gnawing fears too. The thing is you really have to stay positive about this. Your fears might carry over to the point in time when you are already pregnant. Unborn children get psychologically affected by their mothers' fears. I would agree with our friends who have responded that you have to work hard on keeping a positive attitude and keeping your self healthy. I can tell you honestly that although i was also really afraid about giving birth, my baby is all worth the trials and the morning sickness. she is such a great joy to be with. focus on that and you will forget your fears.

I never thought about it. I only thought about wanting a child. Everyone is different though. You just have to decide if it is worth the risk and it is a risk. Just make sure you see your doctor. That should give you some reassurance.

Hi, i'm not speaking from experience but thought htis discussion really spoke to me a lot! i have never been pregnant and would love to have chikdren with my fiance. The issue is I am 25 and terrified of the birth. i feel i would enjoy being pregenant, i can see that as an enjoyable time but also feel that my experience would be marred byt the fact that at the end of this wonderful experience I could be torn and really injured while giving birth! this is what holds me and I feel will continue to keep me from allowing myself to fall pregnant!!! it's so bad I have thoguht of seeing a therapist about it. i am terrified of needles and hospitals and nurses and never go see a doctor when i am ill voluntarily! Everyone keeps saying it will be amazing and I will love being a mom and giving birth but the thought of it all put me off anything related to having and making a child!!! i hope this makes you feel better that you aren't alone int your fears.

What you are feeling is very normal, but really, try not to worry and think about it too much. Being pregnant is a beautiful experience, and every pregnancy is different, you might not get morning sickness, theres no point in being anxious about something if you dont know what the outcome is. For me, being pregnant was exciting and fun, I was lucky and never sick, what terrified me was the actual birth, but you just go with the flow and its all worth it in the end when you are holding this innocent little angel in your hands. Best of luck with it, I wish you happiness.

hey, don't be afraid! pregnancy is one of the most enjoyable events in a woman's life. some women claim to have never experienced morning sickness or food cravings during pregnancy but for me who had a terrible nausea and vomitting on my first trimester, i can honestly say that the discomfort is quite tolerable. just enjoy all the attention that you'll get from your excited soon-to be dad partner.

What I was afraid of when I was expecting my first child was basically the unknown. I had heard so many horror stories and it looked that as I got closer to the due date the more people felt compelled to tell me the worst stories LOL I was scared because I didn't know what to expect. Which is normal because all people fear the unknown. Had I know how it was before I would have been much more relaxed throughout the whole time :)

no fear. be free with that