dead beat husband

i know that it will not be him!!!

He better git his puckerstring fitted with anti lock brakes or there is going to be a lot of skid marks in his underwear.

lol yes I know!! but for some reason he seems to think that he is on vaction with full maid service and 24 hour open kitchen with his own perfional chef.

mrbranan you have never spoken truer words. Why have to pay for an extra mouth that is not willing to help put the food on the table. At least your children have an excuse and even then they still help out around the house in most cases. Thank You for taking the time to respond.

thanks..but i just had to put my foot down with him...i told him to stick a fork in me cause I was done with his bs....so eventually your friend will come to that point as well before it's to late......

One could only hope. I really hope she does come around and I hope that she does it very very soon. No need for anyone to put up with that kind of beghavior and have to leave with that. Take care and I hop you are doing alot better now.

to be honest I really dont know!! And you go girl!! Way to go for you!!

She may never get an answer. But it sounds to me like she knew what she was getting into when she married him seeing as he owes back child support? Come on now. How good of a man could he really be if he isn't paying his child support? sounds like there are even deeper issues of him just being a deadbeat with no job.....

Selling off things. Good idea. If he had anything to say I would be like well it is either food or cable? And I need food to feed OUR child.

she has asked him why he quit and he will not give her an answer. as far as putting stuff in her name she does not mind because she can afford them with out him and he has really bad credit due to back child support.

I belive that 2 if it were my hubby his butt would be sleeping on the porch with no pillow or blanket.

well, they have tried counseling before and i guess it did not help. She came to me with advice and some more of our close girlfriends asking for our opions, help and support. I have even offered to watch her son if she plans to kick him out no need for a child to witness that!! I am just trying to give her as much feed back as possible so she can make the right choice for her!!

Thank You she really is a very dear friend and I hate to see her go through this again. but I really do think it is time for her to move on. There is 18 years diff between them so I know she will find someone else she is still young and very attractive as for him on the other hand maybe he deserves to be alone for a while maybe he learn how to treat a women and do things for himself for a change.

You are a very good friend. SHe is lucky to have you. I wish her well in this situation. I know it must be hard.I hope she takes you up on your offer so maybe they can work something out without the child witnessing it. Best of luck for her, and you for helping out.

she should either refuse to get a sitter (which is costing money no doubt) or tell him to leave unless he is going to be a house husband or full time worker. he can't have it all his own way, life just doesn't work like that.

bobbyjoe143 she does work and she is currently looking for a second (night) job. he does stay at home but refuses do anything that does not involve sitting on the couch with the remote controll glued to his hands. She still has to hire a sitter while she is at work because he is not getting off that couch for anything.

i will and yes all he does is runs the bills up (grocery, eletric and water) and sits at home all day!!

nope you hit the nail on the head with that one!!

Oh yes he knew what he was doing. Men like that typically pick younger women who are not as experienced in life and trap them into a relationship with them, then make them feel as if there is nowhere else to go but to stay with them. Then they feel they can do whatever they want, it appears he is doing those things, such as quitting his job and leaving the responsibility of working and supporting the family to her. That is awful for her and it has to be a terrible burden. I went through this myself. I have had so much happen to me in my 35 years! I finally decided hey....if I am going to work my butt off and never see my daughter I can do it alone and not have to feed the third mouth. I was a lot happier and my stress level was high because of all of the problems of a single mom, but not near as high as it was when I had the third boob in my house. I hope she sees the light and can make the move to get him out of her life. She will never find true happiness for her and her daughter until she does.

me 2!! I think the sooner the better!! the longer he stays around the worse it is going to get!!

Yes she does!! No, He does not pay his child support he actually owes more than he will ever make in the rest of his life in back child support!! Well, I think he definattly knew what he was doing she is 12 years youger than him.

i think it would be for the best if she kicked him to the curb. good ridense

at least my partner thinks that since im the one working and he gets to sleep at night especially if im working on night shift, he tend to really give me all the rest i can get...he does all the cooking and wakes me up just to eat...hope he then realizes that he is the one who should be and its his will to do his part since he doesnt have a job for the moment.

yeah you would think he would be happy to help (yeah right) he acts as if he is on vaction.

Yes, but unfortally he does not do any of those things. he just sits there and watches tv and eats and runs up the eletric bill!!

she would be better off and no she still has to hire a sitter while at work and she has started to look for a 2nd job now!! i dont think the relationship is worth it!!

maurs99 I guess every woman is different. I am so glad that you told your man that is it. I think it is important as women/mothers to stand up for ourselves and to make sure we can always take care of ourselfs and our children with a man or with out them. I wish your sister all the luck and I hope she will soon see that this is no way to live and she should not have to work so hard and should be able to enjoy life and not be working all the time. Good Luck!!

yes, I think if he were my husband he would be sleeping on the porch already!! heck with couch!!

she does have a job and is curretly looking for a 2nd. He is a good father just not a very good role model he is very active in their sons life but as far as the others they do not live around here ( hint hint 1st wife packed all her crap up and went far far away).

oh thank you she is going to need it!!

thank you!! i told her the same thing but she is still hesitant!! What for I have no clue she will end up going broke if she waits to long!!

now theres an idea

yes this is right!! he want have to worry about clean clothes behind bars!!