Am I cheating the guys?
By Daffodil20
@Daffodil20 (1754)
India
May 23, 2007 3:26am CST
I chat a lot on the net, and I've got many so-called "boyfriends" online. I chat with all of them. I flirt too. So am I cheating all these guys. Do you think that I am wrong? Moreso, I personally feel that I am single in the real world.Do you agree? After all internet is a virtual world and every interaction is purely on a mental level. Should I feel guilty?
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8 responses
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
23 May 07
everything depends on you. you don't need to listen to other people. it's only you who can decide for yourself if you are cheating on others or not... better yet.. if you are cheating on yourself, too.
i met my boyfriend online. i met other guys just right before i met him. but i did not flirt. everything was in a friendly level. i got to know them before falling inlove. and that's when i met my boyfriend. we emailed each other a lot before we finally decided to chat. and months later, it's when we finally fell inlove.
i did not have any other online boyfriends because i don't think i need to fake them just to make myself happy. i just wanna be true to myself. and now, i am happy with the man i love. and i am glad i did not flirt and gave false promises to other guys.
happy myLotting!
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
24 May 07
thank you daffodil for not taking my point negatively. i know you are a nice person and people will easily fall inlove with you. so, just take things slowly. i was there before and even if i did not do it intentionally, men thought i was inlove with them and they expected a lot from me... mostly ended up as me hurting them and their feelings. so, since then, i always try to watch what i say and i had always been careful from that time on. take care!!!
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@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
23 May 07
thanks you for the reply mary. even i dont give false promises to anyone. i personally feel that flirting with someone, especially after hinting to them that its purely for entertainment is harmless. still some guys take it to heart. i dont actually "play" with their emotions. although i do have crushes....n mostly the guys too have crushes on me. i dont fake anyone. i just have many friends those who are boys. and since we are of the opposite gender, we dont mind being flirty.
but yeah, i got your point mary. i will try not to fool any guy, not even unintetionally.
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@jkgao801 (15)
• China
23 May 07
Obviously you shouldn't feel guilty for this act. as your pint, you just chat with them on the net, net is a virtual world for everyon on it.everyone does what they want to do, say what they want to say, this is internet, there are no other stuff could achieve it like net .so,you know,you have no fault.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
23 May 07
well, even if it's just internet, there are real people behind it. and we need to feel, too. if not, there's no point in chatting to people since it will just be a waste of time in the end.
anyway, it's none of my business i guess. just wanna share my thoughts about it.
have a nice day.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
31 Oct 07
Well The name Daffodil made me accept your invitation to be your friend it once.Beautiful name.I went I saw the profile.It showed a female. Well so it occurred that a lady choosing a beautiful name and asking smart questions is worth having friendship.But I don't know yet whether you are a girl or a boy and it doesn't matter too as long as the interaction is interesting.That is what I feel.
@sallyxu126 (1184)
• China
23 May 07
I think if you can stop to this ,it is better for yourself.
maybe you are not serious to that so-called "boyfriends" on internet, and they might be not serious to you.
but if one or several of them are serious to you , when they know you don't love him in the real life, he will be hurt .
and you lose a friend
hope you have a good time on internet.
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@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
23 May 07
yes thats true. in fact i started this discussion because i was feeling i am wrong in doing so. but i never befool them. in fact i always tell them that im just flirting with them. most of them like me cause of my frankness lol. so in a way i never encourage them to get attached to me.
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@fazelath (1174)
• India
23 May 07
there is nothing to feel guilty about it,how can you say the guys you are chatting with do not flirt with other girls other than you,or they don't have girl friends,you can't trust any one on net,i don't think you are doing something wrong,i am on your side,as i too love making more friends on net
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@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
23 May 07
lol. thats nice to know that im not the only one who is so flirty.thank you for responding.
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@luckyteja (14)
•
31 Oct 07
Hi, I don't say that its a big sin....but i regret it...since might be these virtual relations would show impact on your real life...Might be as an indian...my way of thinking is like this....since we brought up in such an environement that our parents even allow us to have a boy friend (i am from southindia where the restrictions are more...that too from a village)...but i think its allways better to have the healthy and real world relations...rather than having virtual.... and that too in the current materialistic environment.... I am sorry if i hurt u....
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
28 May 07
I don't think you should at all because it is online and not in real life. So, don't worry about it. You're fine.
