What would you do in my situation??

I have a cousin who found herself in a VERY similar situation. I don't know what advice to give you, but I'll tell you how it turned out for her. She tried to accept the new girl and for a while it was fine, but then the same crap started again (talking behind back, spreading rumors, etc) and they were enemies again. My cuz is very vocal on her opinions. End result? The father picked the girl over my cousin and kicked his OWN kids out. They now live 14 hours away with their extended family. It's a sad situation because that was my favorite family.

I think you should be polite, NOT intimate, but polite, cordial and distant with his girlfriend. Sometimes a little distance can do wonders for a relationship. Don't get into arguments with or about her- treat her as you would a guest- in time your father will find out the truth about her. in the meantime try not to do anything which will damage your relationship with your father. Ok, that's enough preaching for one day I think :)

If I were you I will honestly tell my father everything. How she changed when she learned about you, how you feel, and what you have been hearing. Just let it off your chest, then try to forget the whole issue and get on with your own life.

If you and your father are close it would hurt him if you did not go to the wedding. If it was me I would try to put aside my feelings for this one day. It would be hard but to make your dad's wedding day a good one I would try. I would stir away from the women he is marring because especially after she is married she could try to stir up trouble between you and your father. Don't let her ruin any feelings you and your dad have for each other. Remember you have only one dad and before you know it he could be gone.

Well,this is really difficult to deal with.You say your father treated you very well,and you like him also.So i think the most important thing is to make sure the woman she will marry him can bring happiness to him and to let him have a happy and peaceful life.If she is really that kind of bad women,i think at all means,you should let your father know the truth.If she is not so bad and your father loves her very much,you will have to make some compromise with her.Cuz i know you really want your father happy.

I'm sorry to hear that.I don't have that experience.But,I believe COMMUICATION is the key or the best solution.you can firstly tell your thought to you father,and then let your father play the role of the accommodator,or have a family meeting,put it on the table sincerely for the peace of the family.If all of them don't work.ok,let us put the whole trouble things out of our chest,just for our own life.

sorry to know that you are stuck in such a very difficult situation. but i hope you get to talk to your father, too about this issue. i really believe he'll be listening to you. as of now, just keep calm. atleast the gossips this lady is telling about you isn't true anyway. she's just making up stories to hurt you. just stay strong.

I honestly would have a talk to your father about this. You need to sit him down and tell him whats been happening and how it's made you feel. How can it ever be solved if you don't let your father know whats going on? Explain to your father that she's making you feel uncomfortable to the extent that you don't really want to go to his Wedding. Of course, it's also important to stress that you're not trying to split them up, and that if she makes him happy, that you're happy for him, but let him know also that this crap has to stop. Maybe he will talk to her and let her know that what she's doing isn't acceptable. She might even listen to him. Either way, I feel it's important to at least try.

I'm sorry you have to face such an issue StrawberryKisses. Do what's in your heart to do. Ultimately, the decision will be yours. Look at the issue from a logical point of view instead of an emotional one, if you can. You say you have children. Reverse the issue and turn it around to what would you want your children to do if the situation was about you? While that might be hard to imagine, put yourself in your dad's place. If it were me, I wouldn't let her bully me like that. I would leave your dad out of it. He will hear about it soon enough. Maybe you could speak your mind to her, in front of him so there is no doubt as to what you say to her, but I would tell her point blank, without a doubt, exactly how I feel. Don't give her the opportunity to play games. That's why I suggest saying what you have to say in front of him. That way, she can't go to him all hurt and manipulating and tell him lies. He will hear it for himself from you. Don't give in. Stand up for what is right. Your other option is to completely ignore her. It's evident she has psychological issues. Your dad will choose to deal with them at some point, now, or later but that should be up to him. The truth will be uncovered. It only takes time. Don't play games. You wouldn't want your children to play those kind of games. Set a good example for them. They are the ones who will benefit or suffer, depending on how you handle the issue. I've always said, 'It's not the issues in life that the problem. It's how we handle them.' Good luck. I know you'll do what's right for you and your kids.

I think it's better if you tell your father what is really happening between you and his girlfriend. It's up to him to decide if he will believe you or not. Try not to mind his girlfriend anymore. Eventually, she'll grew tired.

I would go to your 'father' and tell him how you are feeling. Then it is up to him to decide how he will deal with it. Let him know you wish him the best and that if she is making him happy then you are glad it's happening. Tell him you will be there for him no matter what if that is how you feel, and that if something comes up about you, to please go to you and find out from the source. At least that is how I would handle it.

I think the best thing you can do is be honest with your father tell him how she's changed , and how you feel but you be prepared for his reaction. He may not believe you right away or not WANT to believe you. A lot of people can't handle hearing the truth soemtimes. So just be prepared that things may be a little rocky between yu and your father but you have to be honest with him. She's going to be a part of your family and he needs to know EVERYTHING before she does. Good luck!

I still think you should talk to her. Not to argue, but to set boundaries and limitations. Try to be calm in talking to her and always put to mind that in that situation, YOU KNOW BETTER, you should be patient. You must understand that maybe she was shocked about the information she got and maybe you need to let her breathe and take it slowly. If you're concerned about the bad things she's done, well that's really tough. Okay, maybe you just think about it this way, you love your stepdad and he loves her, as hard as it could be, he'll really appreciate seeing you trying hard to reach out to her. It won't be a loss to try. Give it time to really settle and just to what is right. Sometimes its really hard to do something when you feel bad about certain things but its in doing things you don't want that proves how loving you are to your dad. Goodluck!

you should talk to him about this problem let him know what is going on, give him a chance to try and fix whatever problem her and you have.Then you have to ask yourself if this is something you can live with and your children if so stay around to be by him if not let him go and live your life.