Are you ready to settle down and start a family?

you are so lucky.I want to marry but we have no money,we can not settle down now.I and my boyfriend all want to marry now,but we are so poor,and we have to go on our study,if marry,then it may decrease our study time.

At this moment of my life I feel I'm ready to settle down and start to create my own family. Unfortunately my boyfriend don't feel the same way with me. He never proposed to me yet until now. I feel frustrated for it, I wanted to but he didn't. Sigh.. Anyway, maybe he's just not ready financially. I would try to understand him as much as I can. In your case I can see clearly that you're not that ready to marry your boyfriend. Goodluck to both of us!

I don't think you're ready either - i don't want to sound rude but you think you'll lose freedom & enter a commitment but you shouldn't think of it like that. The fact you have a boyfriend that i assume you have been with fairly long term, means there is already commitment there. As for the freedom part, well what would that piece of paper change that differs from the way you are now? Technically you're no different now than you would be when you're married. I guess you need to look at how long you've been together & if you want to stay with him coz marriage is usually the next step. I have already settled down - although i am not married, i have a loving partner of 9 years, a gorgeous baby girl & a home, that's about as settled as you'll get! Deciding to get married is entirely up to you but you already said you would marry him so what difference would it make to you or the relationship if you did it sooner or later??? Good luck!

At this time..I am not really ready entering to marriage or heading another step for our relationship...Not only being ready as "ready" means but before getting marry I want to know the "me" first..I want to discover more about life..I want to be really ready enough when I would be in that situation..Like the values that I would be teaching to my kids and not just being a mom, a mother but ready to be a wife , a partner in life to my husband..That day would come that I want my husband would be thankful and proud that I would become his wife because I have everything that a man would dream to become their own..And it is a long time relationship that you should really be sure and prepared about it..=]

I guess that age does matters... Perhaps im only 21, i think that im already ready to settle down... But the eacutal fact is that me and my bf cant because we are not financially stable... We very much love too... I guess having plans pays an important part too... So start planning and saving up for the rainy days... To me, we are trying to save up, but it really gets pretty tough at times... =) I hope in the near future we can settle down... Good luck and all the best o u too...

If you are having doubts.. do not accept his proposal.. You must enjoy first your freedom.. Getting married means having to see him everyday and spending your whole life with him.. Are you ready for that? It means you cannot behave like a single chick when you got married.. Marriage comes with full responsibility, are you ready for that too?.. If not, then don't.. There's a right time for everything, and if that comes you will be ready and not having doubts..

Indulging oneself to something sacred such as matrimony has to be taken seriously. One just doesn't need to have second thought about it but a million times or even more. We all know that marriage is a gift from the One who created us. Once we marry someone, ideally, we are expected to sustain that relationship through thick and thin no matter what will happen. We vow and we solemnly pledge under the reign of God during the ceremony and we should be keeping it throughout our existence. It's really not easy to affirm or to negate a proposal especially when it was done by your special someone. Of course, it's expected that you will have mixed emotions towards the act. One couldn't understand if he/she is to feel glad, sad, excited, worried, or whatever. But one thing that should be kept in mind, just as for me, that's TRUST! If one would say that he/she's ready, then she really is. There will be no hesitations in mind. NO IF'S NO BUT'S. If one is ready, he/she is firm in having such decision and is not thinking of anything else except to just let everything flow if that's gonna' make him/her happy. Now, I can say that you're not yet ready to settle with your boyfriend. Don't take everything in a rush, just move forward one step at a time. And let's say you'll finally come to the point that you don't have second, third, or zillionth thoughts about getting tied on your boyfriend - then, that's the time that you could answer your loved one's proposal. ME? I really don't have any plans yet. A lot of things are still to be done. I am not yet ready in all aspects whether emotionally, financially, spiritually and everything so as my partner. I have a target date on when to get married but I just hope I can grant that!

It's hard to take that step! I wouldn't know from experience but I can imagine going from having that freedom to making such a big commitment! My boyfriend and I have already decided that there is no point in getting married - I mean both our mothers have been married a few times. I think that having children is a bigger commitment and is another way to show your love. We've discussed it and I think we're both ready to settle down now.... :0)

Hi Tala! When i was your age i didnt think of getting married yet. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, remember there's no divorce here in the Philippines. You're still young, if your boyfriend really loves you he will consider thinking of your future together. Better finish college first and save money. Talk to your boyfriend to give you at least 3 years, enough time for the both of you to graduate, work and earn money then decide to tie the knot together. Don't rush things or might end up blaming each other. Ask for your parents opinion. Be open minded with what they will gonna say. I believe that parents knows best :) also pray, it helps :)

You should get married when you're ready. With what you've written, it is clear that you are not ready to settle down. When I decided to tie the knot, I was 101% sure that I will build my world around my husband and children. It is the most rewarding experience in a woman's life. The fullfilment of a dream. Then again, it's a personal choice. How will you know when you're ready? You just will.

Oh, I understand how you feel. I'm not exactly sure what I'd do when I get kids either. I've seen my parents have trouble taking care of my youngest brother back when he was still a baby, and they both looked so stressed. People say having children is the best gift, and I agree, but it really does suck the freedom out of you.

Hi...Getting married is commitment..You can postpone your marriage because once if you get married na you cannot regain your freedom in bachelor life...So think a while and plan yourself.

Here's the thing...marriage is something that is very situational. I got married for the 1st time when I was 24. I had the fairytale wedding and everything. I got divorced, married again and had my son with my 2nd husband. He and I divorced when our son was 2. All is awesome now for all involved, but make sure you are TOTALLY COMFORTABLE when the time comes...marriage is delicate.

i remember my boyfriend asking me to marry him and i was feeling the excact same as you. i ended up telling him that i wanted a long engagement to make sure that we were really as happy as we thought and he agreed. so far i been with him for 10 years now and we are only just talking about getting married as im now pregnant (although that sounds terrible. i personally think that it doesnt matter about a bit of paper

i have been with my boyfriend 6 yrs. we have a little girl together who be 5 in october i want to get married but he was married once before and says once is enough no more we have been happy living together as my boyfriend says it just a piece of paper.so im waiting to see if he changes his mind . go with your feelings if your not ready then your not ready

How old are you, and how long have you and your boyfriend been togheter?

Yes, very ready.LOL!but no man seems interested to pop a magic question that requires a "yes" answer, so how could that be?

we are already married ,but waiting for a kid. he is well settled before marriage and i don;t have objection before marriage for waiting also. he only told to get married soon and so we married and just want to plan for our future.