finding a soulmate

I can only imagine that it hgets harder the older you get. But you look pretty good (if that's you in your picture) so I can't imagine you'd have big problems :-)

I think it gets harder as we get older. Ive been single for 12 years now (Im 43) and altho ive had the odd relationship in that time, for the most part, ive been on my own, which i dont mind. I think it gets harder to go out and meet guys, and ive tended to use the internet for the last 4 or so years. Im quite happy on my own, but I dont want to spend the rest of my life on my own, so for me, its finding a balance. I do believe in fate and that there is someone for everyone, we just have to be patient!

First off, welcome to mylot! :) I think it becomes hard to have a relationship at the thirties age because women have grown wiser and smarter by experience and are more into the long term relationship than short term and meaningless ones. This is where most of us search and wait for our ever after. Men, on the other hand takes a lot of years to mature and to commit to a single person. They know that women in their thirties are seeking for deep and lasting relationships that will eventually lead to marriage or domestic partnership that's why most of them stay away and just play it safe. Some internet relationships do work, but it's not for everyone. I've been single forever lol (I'm 34 years old with a five year old ) and I still believe that there's someone out there for everybody. When the time is right, the one meant for us will come and it will be worth the long wait. Goodluck to the both of us! :)

I have recently become single again so I am experiencing the single scene in the thirtysomething age group as well. I suppose it is more difficult as you age, but I am not sure why that should be so. As for Internet relationships I have heard that they are actually successful and the "thing of the future". I will reserve judgement on that. I am surprised you have been single for 7 years...what's wrong with those guys in the UK?

Iam also want to have a mate of age between 30 to 35. But I could not find it till now. I am also in searching for that. I am in the opinion that the Internet will help to sort out this problems. anybody whishing this is hearly welcome.