HELP New Dog Problems

Honey Scared to Come Out - Sad little baby!
United States
May 28, 2007 10:15am CST
I have had a new female chihuahua "Honey" for exactly 2 weeks today and I am really wondering what kind of life she has had. She is about 1 year old honey colored and very scared and skittish. She has (thank heavens) made friends with my other two (Pepi and Schatzie). I am having some problems with her she was extremely obese weighing in at 11.5 lbs, is now on a diet, follows me around looking for food, but will not come to me me when I call her she acts scared as if I was going to hit her. She will come and sit by me when all is still in the house. She has NEVER been outside!! She was scared of the wind, would not walk on the grass and does not do her business outside! Supposed to be paper/puppy mat trained..NOT! My other two spend all day peeing on top of each other's pee so I thought if I put her outside with them she would do the same..NOT. So please HELP me housebreak her any tips would be appreciated. I have never had any problems before and I have had many, many dogs.
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@Lifez2short (4962)
• United States
28 May 07
I really dont know much about dogs. But I always thought that those kind of dogs are scared of everything anyway. I guess I could be wrong about that but that is what I always thought. I wish you great luck with the potty traning though. GOOD LUCK!
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• United States
28 May 07
How wrong you are my alpha female, she is the smallest of the three and is the absolute boss. Afraid of nobody and certainly no other dogs. She think she is a great dane so I have to keep my eye on the bossy little Prima Donna!
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28 May 07
oh dear, sounds like this little dog has been miss used! such a shame for that to happen, especially if ur intentions are to give this dog a new life! all i can suggest is that u take ur time, if its scared, treat it nice, be patient and understanding, if u were a child and got beat everytime u looked at the grass, later on would u look at it? although its not fair on ur other two dogs, to drop wot ur doing to attend to ur new dog, but it needs to be done, spend more time with this dog, let it get to know u, and when it feels safe enough, hopefully its distant memories will become a blur! sorry if its not much help! but this is through personal experience
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• United States
28 May 07
Thank you for your help
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@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
29 May 07
Gosh she sounds about like the breeding female this elderly man in Dodge City gave my husband a few years back. She was kenneled all the time and was afraid of all of us (the old man was the human contact she ever had).Snowflake was afraid of everything like yours seems to be .It just took us time and patience for us to get her over that,but she finally came around and made a wonderful family dog. She even learned to love the kids and that is something for a Chihuahua raised with no children around.I wish you luck with your new baby . Her picture is gorgeous.
• United States
29 May 07
I am am so please to hear you "rescued" a bredding dog. Some of the breeders are so inhumane to their animals as they only keep them alive to breed and make money. What a happy life she must have now!
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@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
29 May 07
Maybe she will just figure it out as she get's used to things and finds out she is not going back in the crate. She probably has been traumatized by all the things going on and being shuttled here and there. The poor thing must be so confused....:( Good luck I hope you find something that works. I would take her outside with the other dogs...even if you have to carry her out and then sit outside with her for a half hour a couple of times a day until she gets used to being outside...if you have the time. She may just get the hang of it from the others...Good luck she is a cutie.
• United States
29 May 07
That is exactly what I have been going. The other two pee themselves dry and Honey does seem to notice them. I guess I'll just have to keep on trying and hope for the best.
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• United States
29 May 07
Oops meant "been doing" not "going"
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
29 May 07
The poor thing. It appears as though she has been abused, as it's the only way I can account for her behaviour. I really can't think of much to help in this case, except time. tIme & patience. She will beed a lot of confidence building. When she has this confidence she will do her wees & poos in the right place. Is she just scared of being with a new family? It sounds more than that thought. I once had a very nervous cat, that I ended up taking to an animal specialist, & that helped a bit. Sometimes, if the problem is extreme, the vet may put a very nervous pet on tranquilisers for a litrtle while. Just enough time to help get her confidence back, & teaching her where to do her business. When she is confident enough to have her photo taken, I wouldn't mind seeing it.
• United States
29 May 07
Honey Being Brave! - It's not too bad out here!
Jenny I have just posted some comments of what she has been through as I got some info on her yesterday. Wonder of wonders i got her to go outside into my yard yesterday afternoon. I am so please . Here is a photo I took of her. Photo: Honey being brave
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
29 May 07
I rated your very cute photo & wrote a comment. Now I will look for your discussion about her, as the notification hasn't come through yet.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
29 May 07
Ohh, I think your mean your reply to Mommymo above. I misuderstood & was looking for a discussion. It's getting late!
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@mummymo (23706)
28 May 07
Well I am so glad Honey has found a good home with you! Was she a rescue dog? It really does sound as though she may have been badly treated in the past - I have known other people who have had dogs with similar problems and I think in most cases with a bit of love and patience they settle down! I'm sorry I have no real advice for you as I have never experienced this problem myself but I do hope that you have success with training Honey and making her feel safe and secure! Happy days ahead! xxx
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• United States
29 May 07
Actually is a sad story. Her owner is a 32 year old female (a friend, of a friend of a friend) who has terminal cancer and is in a hospice and little Honey has been shuffled around from place to place, kept crated, given large bowls of food and a water dispenser, nothing else doesn't seem to have had any love or caring for sometime.
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• United States
29 May 07
Thank you Mummymo it does give me a better understanding of what she has experienced and perhaps she was afraid of me thinking she was going to be caged again.
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@mummymo (23706)
29 May 07
That is a really sad story - it makes you feel for her former owner and realise the impact that such a tragic event has on pets! t does explain a lot of the problems she seems to be suffering with - espescially for a breed of dog that thrives on attention and tlc ( I know they all do but chihuahuas seem to need it more!) I am sure as time passes and you show her the love and attention she needs she will become more confident and easier to train! I know you will make her feel loved and secure! xxx
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@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
28 May 07
Just going to take patience, persistance, & preserverance on your part. Take her outside a few times a day. Put her on a leash, and just start out by walking her around the yard for a minute or two at a time, then slowly increasing it. Give her a treat afterwards as well and praise the heck out of her saying good girl you went outside. That should help her know what "outside" is and she gets rewarded for going out there. If you can get her paper trained inside, eventually move that outside for her to potty on. But I'd still keep taking her outside so she gets used to walking on the grass and just being outside. Poor thing, good luck with her!
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• United States
29 May 07
Good ideas, thank you.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
28 May 07
Hmmmmmmmmmm that is a bit strange has she come from a bad home All I can suggest is that you ease her outside by taking her on the Lead and walk her round I hope you will get the poor thing sorted
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• United States
29 May 07
Gabs I just found out yesterday what she has been going through. See my comment to mummymo's response. Thanks for caring. Hope you are feeling better today. xxx
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@irisheyes (4370)
• United States
29 May 07
Sorry, I can't help you with the housebreaking problem, Whiteheather. Our cats usually train each other and it sounds like this isn't working for your little gal. Maybe she just needs a little more time? I had to chuckle when you said she was obese. She weighs several pounds less than my biggest boy. (By the way, she is adorable) Anyway, I'm sure glad to hear she is getting along with the other dogs. We will be acquiring a new cat in the next few weeks. He is a beautiful, healthy yellow tabby and his owner was threatening to have him put to sleep because she couldn't take him to her new apartment. (Can you believe it?) We are hoping the other two cats will take to him. I think Humphrey probably will but Peesh is a little twerp and he might not like the new guy. LOL
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• United States
29 May 07
Good luck with your new addition I am sure he will be "purrfectly" happy!
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@raydene (9871)
• United States
31 May 07
My neighbor raises chihuahuas and trains hers to a paper also.It gets so cold her in the winter and so much snow that it would be hard to take them out.She has 5 of the little cuties.She has a litterpan with litter in it and cuts a small square of newspaper and puts it on top of the litter.They go and she scoops it into the toilet.She has since stopped putting the paper in and they now use the litter.They do not poop as big as her cat and the cat uses the same pan so it works out well.When she got the first two she couldn't train them to use outside so she now has the next best thing.@ of hers have to come to me then I can pick them up but I can not just scoop them up unless I'm sitting and they are like that with everyone.They are not even related.One is a puppy she had born in her house and the other came from another home.Neither have ever been abused.It's just their personality. Good Luck. oxxoxo
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• United States
1 Jun 07
Thanks raydene, I do know that chihuahuas seem to be harder to housebreak than other breeds. I can imagine they don't like to go out in the snow. Mine dont mind the cold weather but they all hate rain, seem to think they will melt but have no problem playing in the garden when I am watering. LOL
• United States
28 May 07
I don't have dogs because they are so hard to train. Having taken an older dog you don't really know what kind of previous training they have had. The only thing I can suggest is maybe give her a separate area to do her business. If she has been mistreated you are going to have a hard time gaining her confidence totally. Dogs have a long memory when it comes to being mistreated.
28 May 07
there really not that had to train, as long as you know what u want from the dog, and your confident, it will sense this from u, and obey!! practise makes perfect
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• United States
28 May 07
I know that it is hard, but it will just take some time and some patience I think. We adopted a daschund from the pound and did not know anything about his background. He was very skittish and very defensive when we first brought him home. He still, even after a year, has a big problem with people putting their hands near his neck. I think that he was abused, but do not know for sure. We just let him follow our other daschund around, and it took a while but finally he began eating(he was very thin) and he began to use the bathroom outside. He is a wonderful dog now, and I am glad that I saved him, he was going to be put to sleep the day I adopted him. We still have some control issues, he still seems to think he can go out of the yard and into the street, but we are working on it.
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• United States
29 May 07
I am so glad he found someone like you to love him and give him a good home. This little one is way over weight I don't thin she had any excercise but has been beginning to move around a bit.
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@mizrae (587)
• United States
29 May 07
What a beautiful face. I have a Pomeranian and have had her since she was 6 weeks. She is very afraid of being picked up by anybody. When she was 11 months, she broke both her front legs from jumping out of one of my son's friends arms. She is 5 now. I would hazard a guess something just as traumatic happened to your Honey. As with everyone else I think patience will be the key to Honey's coming around. Perhaps, too being around your other two dogs, she will end up doing her "business" outside with them eventually. Somewhere I heard if you keep a dog in a cage during the night, they will not go where they have to sleep. You then take them immediately outside upon release of the cage and let nature take it's course so to speak. I had a pretty decent size wire cage, not the small traveling plastic thing. I can tell you from experience my dog did not do anything in that cage.
• United States
29 May 07
Thank you. She does have a beautiful face and once she trims down she will be just as gorgeous as my other two.
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@Nykkee (2522)
• Canada
29 May 07
Maybe try her one a cat litter box. I have a pitbull mix that is 6 years old, I have had her since she was 4 weeks, I had some trouble house breaking her at first because we moved around alot and lived with roommates, so she had a hard time getting used to where the out door was to bed at and would often just pee near any door. I used a kennel to get her to stop peeing in the house, and it worked 98%. She does not like bad weather, and even into doggy adulthood would poo on the floor while I was at work if she knew it was raining or snowing, in an attempt to not have to go outside. I tried and tried to break her of this, by making her go out when I got home anyhow, but she kept it up, she just hates bad weather. Then, when she was about 3 and a half I got her a cat, (this may sound nuts but a pet psychic told me she wanted her own cat), she loves the cat, but that's not the point, the point is she saw the cat go in the litter box (which happens to be made from a rabbit cage and is big enough for her to step into) and now she will just pee in there if seh has to. She hasn't pooped in the house since we got the cat but I think that's just a self-conciousness thing, she also can't poop outside if a cat is watching her.
• United States
29 May 07
That is comical because my other female thinks she is made of salt and will dissovle in the rain but runs and plays in the sprinkler...??!! I am hoping whe will copy to other two. Thanks for your help.
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@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
29 May 07
you just take your time with her, and if you show her the same attitude and not raising your voice (any time even when she outside and your inside) and have a nice tone etc even to the other pets, and try giving her a pat when you give her food as to say good dog. hope that makes sense, i have seen a few dogs in this state a few times and its very horrible to think that someone could hurt a dog that bad to make them terrified
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
28 May 07
I am afraid you are in for a long hard time of of being patient with her. Try a kitty litter box see if that help she had to go somewhere before and some times small dogs like kitty boxes. Hope this helps. And just be patient with her she should come around after while hoping for you.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
29 May 07
your welcome and thanks! hugs
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• United States
29 May 07
Thanks Lakota, you are such a good friend
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@gardengrrl (1445)
• United States
1 Jun 07
Hi heather! Bless you for taking this poor little pork chop in! She is adorable! I think the other chihuahua owners hit the nail right on the head when they spoke of how high-strung the breed is. Since you've no way of knowing how much nervousness is her nature and how much is nurture, your only choice is slow and steady, calm voice, no sharp moves, and lots of encouragement! My Basset Hound was difficult to housebreak, I've been told that two years to fully broken isn't uncommon with the breed. It was worth the wait, but I wanted to murder her sometimes! For the nervousness, a small crate with no door might satisfy her basic doggie need for a little place to call her own, a little hidey-hole. Maybe if there's no door she won't feel afraid of being moved. If you put it in a spot that's out of the main traffic paths, but close to where everyone hangs out, it might help her adjust to the ebb and flow of the house from a safe spot. For housebreaking, I'm afraid there's no substitute for confining the space she has to move around in. Have you seen those doggy playpens, they're about 6 feet across and 2 feet high? They look like a group of babygates connected together to make a circle. That might confine her enough to make her "don't pee near your bed" instinct kick in, if you put her bedding on one side of the circle and some papers on the other. I had to laugh reading about your Alpha girl. I have a 115 lb Black Lab-German Shepherd-Great Dane mix who is apparently irresistible to small dogs who like to act big! I've seen the syndrome countless times, I call it "Lionheart Disorder"! Good luck and a long happy life with your sweeties!
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• United States
1 Jun 07
I love the "Lionheart Disorder". I have not had any problems with the other two being high strung but the Honey is getting more confidence day bt Day even is not quite so cowed with my bossy Schatzie. Thanks for the good luck.
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@jinggay46 (263)
• Philippines
29 May 07
It's a good thing that you have "Honey" now. Maybe she was sort of "maltreated" before that's why she's acting that way. you just need to spend some more time with her in order to get her trust. Once you have succeeded in acquiring her trust, she'll realized that things will be different from now on and she'll be showered with a lot of TLC.
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• India
29 May 07
hello friend , i know that is very serious problem . but i have not knowlage about dogs . so i can't help you . but i can suggest that go to the animal's docter . if you love you dog .
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