What caused your divorce?

Wow, great topic. A much-needed one to get things out in the open. I don't have this particular experience to talk about yet, as I've not married yet. This is because I am timid to (although engaged). For good reason too, my mom is on her 5th marriage, my dad is on his 4th. Anyone else just as timid as I for the same reasons?

I know I was part to blame. But I also believe that he was more to blame than myself. But to paint a different picture...I was also only 16 years old when we had gotten married. I was just a baby! And as I got older and matured, I became a different person. He and I just were not meant for each other anymore. But would you believe that even though we are divorced, we are still living together as partners? Well, we have seven children together...so there is good enough reason. ha ha

The root cause of my divorce was that we were too young and to be honest we only got married because we knew it would drive our families crazy. Originally we were just going to live together but they all made such a fuss I think we just thought "right - we'll REALLY tick them off now!!" Madness. We were both 17 when we got married and were divorced by the time we were 21.

My first marriage ended because my husband cheated on me. Twice. No, I didn't forgive him the first time. I found out about both women at the same time. A guy he worked with told him that if he didn't tell me he (my husband) was cheating that he (our friend) would tell me. So, my morom (now ex) husband told me about his affair. The problem? He told me about the wrong one! When I talked to our mutual friend and told him thank you for making him confess to cheating with (#1), he said who? He didn't know about #1, he only knew about #2, so my now exhusband actually told on himself! He didn't check with our friend to see which girl it was that he actually knew about. That was all it took for me. I was devistated to learn that he had cheated, but when I found out there were at least two different girls I went from upset to furious. Of course, during our divorce, he tried to tell me that he hadn't actually cheated at all, with anyone, he just said that to get a reaction out of me. Yeah, okay. Whatever. I am now happily remarried to someone I had been friends with before I met my first husband. We had remained friends (my exhusband hated him). We've been married for over ten years now. :)

I no longer felt that I could trust her, and she had become very abusive and loud. There was no pleasing her, and she didn't like the amount of money I made, and I had a pretty good career. She became very hard to live with, and I was finally fed up with her male bovine biological byproduct. I had a choice, either divorce the stupid cow or strangle her. I opted for the divorce.

I think my divorce happened mostly because my then husband found a much younger girl. He claimed there was nothing to it, but last I heard the two were getting married. I didn't let it get me down though, I went back to school and in the fall I will begin work towards a Master's degree. Personall, I think I benefited from the divorce more than he did.

I have seen divorces people's problem in my local. The reason is because of lacking of warm love to each other. One partner is away. The second is not having enough to clear the debt. The third is s*xless.

Having a husband who thought I was the dumbest woman in the world (of course I'm not) and who yelled at me for everything he didnt like for up to 45 minutes at a time did it for me!

I know what caused my divorce it was my ex husband cheating on me. And then he had the nerve to leave me for the woman he cheated on me with. I could of killed both of them at the time but it was mainly her I was mad at. Being as she was suppose to be a friend of mine. But I later learned it takes to to tango so I did eventually get over it and boy let me tell you was I happy when the two of them got a divorce.1 LOL

I think that the reason for my divorce was the abuse; in every form and fashion that can be conceived except he did not manage to kill me...although I thought he was going to a few times.... I blame myself for not having the strength to get out sooner....I do feel that I taught my children that this is not the enviroment to raise children and I am proud of that fact... I must take some of the blame though....I blame me for having allowed it to happen for so long and that I did not leave earlier...did not prosecute him to the fullest letter of the law......

I think that my ex-husband and I got married way too young (I was 19 at the time). I didn't really know who I was or what I wanted back then. He was so devoted to his work that I almost never got to see him which did not help things. I am the one who asked for the divorce and he blamed me for the marriage turning sour, but it takes two to tango, doesn't it?

marriages start out great..then before you know it your both lose the joy of being with each other. children, jobs, boring routines, jealousy, parents and friends interfering, is all part of losing the joy of marriage. Men marry hoping their wives will never change Women marry hoping to change their husbands All too soon the responsibility of the marriage with the bills and work commitment comes crashing down on both the wife and the husband and it can take the happiness and joy out of marriage. Soon you try to find relief from this presssure that is forced on us..and men start to stray..looking for some comfort in booze, buddies, and easy???. Women get tired ..as after they say "I do" they soon learn when I said "I do" it did not mean "I do EVERYTHING"...men expect their women to treat them like their MOMMY... as a lot of men are spoiled by moms and sister who cater to them..I am guilty! So to make a long story short..we had an "open marriage" and then we had "no marriage"...we both did not gain from straying..it is the first real step to divorce and loathing your partner...Yes, I would have not married a women with children and little education and little self confidence in herself..but would rather stay single then live this "open marriage" arrangements...Marry someone who has high morals and has high standards..

My dad cheated on his first wife. That's why they ended up getting a divorce, that and my brother was on the way...I think that kind of tipped off my dad's ex.

my divorce is coming about because my husband choked me into unconciosness with my daughter in my arms and my son watching. I refuse to put up with that kind of behaviour. If the person that I am with feels that they cannot trust me then they should not be with me. Likewise if they cannot accept me for who I am.

I had 4 kids from the ages of 6 to 13 and a fifth one that seemed to never grow up. Every thing that ever happended to him was my fault even if I wasn't around. Then he was continually lying to me about stupid stuff. It was like he was the fifth littlekid and I decidedthat 4 was enough to be raising. The day after the devorice was granted all he could say was I just wanted a little money. He was always changeing checks so that a check ws always bouncing. I tried a lot of different things but he just didn't want to grow up.

I blame my husband cheating on me because his ex wife came back serching for him and we didn't know each other to well and I now that know this. If I ever get married again it will be along time of getting to know someone before I do.

At first glance, anyone would say physical abuse...no doubt. But there was more to it than that...We didn't take the time to get to know each other, he was spanish and spoke no english and I didn't speak any spanish and I was 16 and didn't have a clue. Looking back it was the stupidest thing I have ever done...the only thing I can be thankful for is that we never had kids. LIVE IN PEACE

the caused of divorce when they dont love each other anymore or when they have no trust anymore to each othe that also cause of jealousy.And after to make misunderstanding, then fighting, and then no love exist anymore.

My ex husband was very controlling. He wanted to tell me who I could be friends with, what I could wear, etc. He was also constantly unemployed. While I was working 40 hours a week at one job and 20-30 a week at a second job, he was sitting on his @ss at home all day playing Tomb Raider and Ultima Online. He got a job at the mall one year in November. At the end of the first week he was complaining about how busy it always was and saying that he was going to quit. I was p!ssed, to say the least. At the time, my sister lived with us. I paid 1/2 of the rent while they were each responsible for 1/4. I also paid all of the utilities, my car payment, mine and his car insurance and my sister and I split the groceries. Even when my sister was unemployed, she came through with her share. If he was unemployed, he expected me to cover his share. While we WERE married, it would have been nice if he had contributed to paying the household bills a bit. So after a year of marriage I told him I wanted a divorce. The final decision was made one night when we were going out to talk things over at his favorite restaurant. En route he said "You know, sometimes I'd just like to throttle you." So I asked what 'throttle' meant in this instance. His response? "Grab you by the throat, slam you against the wall and shake the sh!t out of you." That was the moment that I decided absolutely that there was going to be no reconciliation.

I blame myself for marrying someone I didn't know enough about. We married 3 weeks before our daughter was born, so this was the issue of why we rushed into marriage. I gave it my best for the first 6 months, but he cheated, lied, was emotionally distant, physically uninterested in me. After the 9th month he told me to get a boyfriend because he was not in love with me or interested in being intimate with me..I did not do that..not at first anyway..by the 18th month I was so lonely I did turn to another man for affection..but I filed for divorced very shortly after that relationship began..it was just the shove I needed to make my decision to end it..not because I wanted this other man..but because I wanted a better way of living. I didn't get married to be pushed away like that, but that is just what can happen when you marry a stranger!