Feeling shut out by a friend.

Maybe it isn't you that's being shut out. Sometimes people are faced with things that they need to process all alone. Maybe your friend is going through something like that right now. The best thing you can do is give your friend the space that he/she may be needing right now to process whatever it is. I'm sure that, if this is really a friend, the person will come around when the time is right and things will be back to normal between you two.

I think you have answered you own dilemma when you said: "What more can i do when they are clearly unwilling to deal with the subject?" You have done all you can to make the effort to patch up the slightly burnt bridges you have with your friend. If it were me in this situation i would just leave it to them to decide if they want to contact me as you have done all you can to make things up.

This really sucks when it happens, i guess now you know who your true friends are! you should just try confronting them and see what they say. tell them you have noticed and if they deny it then tell them that obviously they aren't as good a friend as you thought they were.

I have somehow gone through a situation like this before with my high school friends. There was this time when I got closer to another classmate of ours since we go to an after school tutorial for our physics class together. Then there came a time that my friends were making plans without including me in it, then I asked them about it and why they are shutting me out, they later explained that they were kind of jealous of how I am being close with another person and it seemed like I was having more fun with her company than me hanging out with them. So they figured that I didn't want to be with them anymore so they weren't even bothering to include me in their plan. But then, everything was a misunderstanding and I explained my side of the story and luckily they understood my situation, that I ws just making that other friend not feel alone, that was why I was trying to stick with her and do stuff together.

I understand what you are saying. This friend does not value your friendship enough to deal with the issue. Let her be the agressor. If she does not bother with you, she is not worth it. Look for other friends who value you and your time.

I have dealt with this situation before and it really hurts I know, because you have no idea why. Because you already asked there isn't much you can do. I would let it go, even if it hurts:( It may be something they are going through and it has nothing to do with you or they really are shutting you out for unknown reasons, but were they really such a good friend to begin with if they are doing this?

Oh, yes definitely. Most of the time it is not anything you have done. I have a friend like that. She just has a lot of drama in her life and she's always busy with her family. She wouldn't even make a date to go out with me for her birthday and I bought her a special gift and everything. Later, our other friend told me our mutual busy friend was talking to her on the phone and our other friend started telling our busy friend about some gift I got her and the too busy friend asked why, she had forgotten it was our mutual friends birthday and wedding anniversary. I have to admit that made me feel better, knowing it wasn't just me. Every once in awhile I will hear from this too busy friend and she will always talk to me for a long time if I call her, but it gets tiring feeling like you're always the one who has to call. When this happens I just stop calling. Then I'll hear from her again. Our other mutual friend said that she might be embarrassed to see me, because she gained a lot of weight. So don't assume it's something you've done.

No, it's not too vague, for anybody that's been in a similiar situation. My best advice to you is that you keep trying to communicate. Your friend may be going through something that they're not willing/wanting to talk about right now. Just b/c they might act like they don't want to be around you right now, doesn't mean that it's a forever kind of thing. They might need you to be there in a couple of days, or a couple of weeks. Don't give up on them, if this friendship really means a lot to you. All I can really say is hang in there. I know it's tough and that you probably feel abandoned too, but just hang in there. Sooner or later it will get better, or eventually, they'll tell you what's wrong.

if i am experiencing this problem, i will immediately these people in total oblivion. why should i worry about poeple who do not care? there are still others around who will be happy to have me. in fact, i will still survive in this world even if i have no friends. when i was born, these people were not around me. there was my mother, me and those who attended to my birth. meaning, for as long as there are one or two people to support me, everything will just be fine. if these people have left the world ahead of me, at least, i have me for myself.

I have felt this way before. I have a friend right now that is shutting me out. I know she has a lot of problems in her life right now. But she has completely stopped talking to me and it hurts.

I wouldn't worry too much, she probably just needs some time to herself. If it persists and you are worrying ask her if you have upset her somehow, explain how you feel and ask her how she feels. You may find that it is in your head, you may not like what you hear but at least your mind will be able to rest.

You've shown your friend they have value to you. Now just let them figure out whether they value their friendship with you. If they do you'll have an open discussion. If they don't then it's probably time to move on. I had something similar. I found out 7 months later our friendship ended because she wasn't able to respect my opinion of another of her friends. She made a choice that no one asked her to make (at least I didn't). That's fine. I want real friends anyway, even when we disagree a real friend is still that.

They say 85 percent of the time your intuition and gut are accurate, unless your paranoid lol. But you need to ask yourself what and when it doesn't feel right. I can relate to this situation because I felt as though that one of my best friends was shutting me down. Back in the day,everyone would see us together hanging out. However,as time progress, she is in a serious relationship right now, and I hardly ever see her. I miss the old times but its not the same anymore. She will respond to my calls/texts/etc. However, when it comes to hanging out, we don't chill like we used to. I am not close to her as I was before. I understand and respect that she is in a relationship, however its not the same and I feel like it will never be. I explained to her how I felt but she claimed "okay this weekend" But it hasn't happen. Whatever doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

Hi BlueOrchid. As a matter of fact I have a friend just like you had mentioned. Eventually when she feels ready to talk she will. The friend of mine used to make me feel like she was shutting me out, but honestly anymore I don't even pay any attention to it, because I know that she is going through something and eventually she will get through it and want someone to talk to and I will be there to listen just like she is there for me. Honestly I think you know to that if she was really trying to shut you out she wouldn't be responding to your calls or emails either. So I think a couple steps back would be the right thing to do right now.