A Working Mother - Rearing Of Young Children .

There are two things to be considered here - the financial point of view and the upbringing of the children. The financial issue is sometimes the deciding factor, however, if it is not, I feel that a woman should stay home till the child becomes 5-6 years old. After that if she goes out to work, that'll make the child self dependent and strong.

I don't believe that any mother should be forced to stay home if this is not what she chooses to do . In the world today , most families need both the mother and the father to work in order to support the family and in some cases it is the dad who stays home with the children and the mother goes off to work and I don't see this as wrong either . Each family has to decide what is best for them and what will work . There are a lot more mothers that would be willing to stay home with their children if there was anyway they could afford it . I stay home with my children and love to be with them but realize not everyone has the same option in life and feel that each family has different needs and this is discussed between a couple of how things are going to work in there household and what needs to be done .

Having a mother around to look after children is never a bad idea at all. But, sometimes moms have to go out there and make money for the welfare of the family.

As long as the children are being properly cared for by another while the mother works. The children over all developement with turn out fine. I have no problem with mothers working if they want or need it. But I do feel a parent or guardian (not nessacarily the mother) should be at home with the children. I think when we starte dgetting more and more latch key kids and more and more parents (both sets and single ones) working it has made a big impact on our children. How they mature, learn and take on responsibility. If there is no one teach them because the parents are alweays working than the world ends up with more irresponsibly and lazy people.

No, not really. It is an advantage if a parent could stay at home to look after young children, but it diesn't have to be the Mother. It could be the Father. I understand though, that this just isn't possible for many couples nowadays with the cost of living. Both may may have to work. Both may want to work. If they want a parent at home all the time, with a young child, then mother & father can take turns with child rearing leave.

Hi sukumar, Well, I was raised with Mother at home. Being raised with Mother at home and also having two older sisters made me very social and I learned lots from my sisters. If a child is at home with Mother and older siblings, that is a good thing. If a child is an only child home alone with Mother, I think that the child will not be introduced to as many social skills as a child in a program. Some people think that being a Mom at home is so easy. It isn't. It is a full time job without the benefit of a paycheck! LOL! In a perfect world Mom could and would be at home all the time. But our world is not perfect and times are hard for so many people. One salary does not cut it for lots of us. So, Mother has to go to work and the children are in Head Start programs, Family Provider homes, Daycare Centers and such. Children in regular school go into After School Programs and on and on. I feel that it would be beneficial to the children to be at home more with Mother but I also see the need for young children to socialize with their peers. If a child is home with Mother with time spent outside the home in play groups, it is beneficial to the child. Children who are only at home with Mother do not learn social skills as well. They do not learn to share because they don't have to share when in the home alone without other children. Socialization is the foundation for academic learning. Children need to learn team work, turn taking, sharing and rationalizing. These things are learned in Early Childhood programs. I think that if a child is in a good environment outside of the home because Mother has to work, it would be beneficial. The child would have a wonderful start developmentally. This was a great discussion, thanks for it, take care...

I think women should be able to go out to work so long as the alternative care is acceptable. And that is the problem I have with some of the provision - at least in the UK. Nursery charges are high but the staff earn very little and often are staffed by young girls just out of school with little life experience, never mind of bringing up children. I would like to see more value placed on the care of children - maybe better people would take up the job if they could earn mpore money from it. For goodness sake - you can earn more money working in a shop or cafe and that's much less stressful and requires less responsibility. We strive to make sure that girls get as good an education as boys and then we are surprised that they want to use their eduction, skills and qualiifications in a good career?

In a society that would require both parents to work, the children would eventually suffer. However, we have to think in different perspective though. Mums who work doesn't means that they care their children less. With the dual income, the childrens' material needs would be met. On top of that, they would be given the education that is needed for them in the future. Most working Mums would spend their weekends with their children to cover the 'loss' time spent. There are a lot of working Mums whose children turn out ok eventhough their Mums are not with them 24 by 7. It all boils down to their upbringing....

I chose to stay home with my children. They are grown now but I have never regretted giving up all I did to stay home with them. I did not want anyone else raising my children for me. I had them and it was my responsibility to raise them. I realize that in today's world it is hard to make it on a one-income family but we can do it by taking in babysitting, and other various jobs at home to keep ourselves close to our children. I am 52 and my oldest is 29 and my youngest is 23 and I have never regretted my decision. Now I am home to watch my grandchildren so thier mama's can work in this two-income family world.

I certainly think it is preferable for one of the parents to stay home with the children. Yes, it definately affects them for both parents to be away from them. I do realize in many cases, both parents must work in order to survice. But, I also think in a lot of cases, both parents work so the family can have extra luxuries that aren't really needed, or they work to give their kids "what they (the parents) never had." One of my daughters worked outside the home when the children were small and they bought two cars which were later models than mine, new stereo systems, three or four big screen tvs, etc. Now 20 years later, the kids are grown, both parents are still working and they are still in debt up to their eyeballs. My grandchildren have turned out wonderfully. I couldn't imagine them being better adults. I wonder what kind of parents they will be though, with no role models nearby. I wonder if my daughter and her husband will ever regret all the years they missed while the kids were growing up. Was it really all worth it?

I think as a modern woman ,nobody will sacrifice her career and future only on family no matter how she love her family and child.Nobody can grab her right to working outside unless she is willing.Women can also have a good career as men.Women are not the "nanny" as the ancient time.Moreover I don't think woman working outside will affect the development of young children.Massive facts have bespoken it.

See since women traditionally were at home, they were ususally looking after children. But now days have changed, they have started working. So even fathers got to take the responsibility of looking after children. You are true that children are not being given enough attention. But then if one of you stop working and look after child, may be you are loosing income, with which u can provide better education and other facilities. So ithink one of you should keep shifting the roles of looking after your child so that you dont completely leave your work and the same tie not your child too.

I believe that mothers' working is wrong. I don't want to upset anyone, this is just my opinion. My mother worked all through my childhood and my sister's. I remember getting up in the morning, I would see my mother for a few minutes the, then I would be taken to daycare, when daycare ended I was taken to my grandmother's and there I stayed, usually until almost my bedtime, at which time my father would pick me up and take me home and I would see my mother for another split second before being put to bed. When I got old enough to care for myself after school I was then home when my mother arrived home from work, but I didn't really see her any more. She came home from work tired and cranky with no interest in speaking to anyone but my father and would talk about nothing but her job. This affected me in a huge way. I remember sitting with my baby sister, both of us too young to even understand what I job really was, discussing why we thought Mommy loved her job more than us. It greatly affected my relationship with her, how I intereacted with other children, and even caused me to have major issues with fear of abandonment, even in my adult life. As a child I constantly feared I would be dropped off somewhere and never picked back up. I promised myself, at a rather young age, 11 I think, that I would never be like my mother in that way, that I would never choose a job over my family. I have worked many jobs in my life, and I don't even get it, I receive no satisfaction or sense of pride from work outside the home, making a yummy meal for my husband and watching him eat it, now that's where it's at for me. In my opinion the right to work ruined women, we used to be something special, people that were depended on and needed, heros in our own sense. But then came work and the climbing of the corporate ladder, and everyhing changed, specifically women's views on what makes them successful in life, it's not the happiness and comfort of those we care for that it our main goal anymore. Now society pushes us to be more and more like men, to focus on work and money and titles and crap like that, all the jokes we used to make about men now sound stupid coming from the mouths of most women because they are doing the same things that we used to mock men for, we are adopting all the attitudes right along with the employment. We come through the door without saying hello and drop onto the couch not wanting to be bothered after a long day, tell the children not to bother us and then make microwave dinners for supper. That's gross. We used to fix all that crap, we made the home worth living in, the food worth eating, we listened when our children talked. What happened to us? To conclude, I feel that so many women working all the time now has caused many many complete familyies to live in the style of bacholers. And again just so no one gets offended, I don't think that women should banned from working, but don't you think it would be nice to have the choice? To be able to stay at home and not have anyone talk s#!t about you? To be able to care for your husband and/or children and actaully be respected by other women for it? Instead of hearing 100 different speaches about financial independance? To have a happy healthy family that loves and needs you once again be viewed as an achievment worthy of praise, and considered sucess? You know the government could give us all small cheques each month, drawing it from thier EI surplus (I'm in Canada) so we could have fun-money and stay home too, leaving more job choices for the men and a greater demand for thier work resulting in better pay. I want to right to sign off my right to work and trade it in for a monthly cheque, I wasn't here when women voted to work, I didn't get to vote, no body asked me, that's not fair, I want the choice.

i think when children are young they need mother most of the time around them.when women works there isn't any enough time left to look after children.due to this a child may feel neglected and they may not get enough love and affection. i would prefer a mother to quit her job for a small period of time till their child can look after themselves and the aworking hour should not be too long.she should know to adjust between her work and family.

well asfar i think al mothers herself to take care of her young ones, cuz its the high time when kids needs them once they grow up they can join there work n stuff! just my 2 cents.

I think this should be the choice of the mother as to whether or not she chooses to return to work after having a child. I do understand that in marriage, decisions are made together, but ultimately, if the financial situation allows it, the mother should choose. I am a single female with no children. I would love to adopt. I know that when and if I do, I will have to work and my child will be in daycare while I am at work. I would love to be able to stay at home and watch the child grow and experience all of his/her firsts. I don't think that children who go to daycare or are cared for my caregivers who are in the home or family have developmental delays. I think that as long as a caring person provides the care for the child, his/her development should be fine.

When I gave birth to my first baby, I chose to forsake my dream career and became a stay-at-home mom. Like what you said, the advantage is greater. But my girls grew to depend on me most of the time. Indeed the bonding is there but I need to keep teaching them how to be independent too. My best friend is different though. She left both her children at home under the care of hired nannies while she go on building her business. Despite it all, her two children are respectful and well liked kids. I think it all depends on how a mother guide and rear their children. There are some mothers who needed to work to help in the continuing demands of providing for her family.

I didn't have the option of not working when my son was young. My husband was having some problems and was unemployed for a long time. I think that I would have enjoyed being a stay at home mom then, but I did not have the choice financially. But, as someone else said, in this day and age is it possible to only have one income when your children are young? My son is 12 and my husband and I are just now at a point where I am only working part time, but before now we couldn't have made it work. I would love to be more of a stay at home mom, and that is my intention as soon as I get my home business up and running. I do think the child would become more dependent on always having mom around, and if something happened that she could not be there for whatever reason, it would be hard for the child to adjust.

I have 2 daughters. I had to work when the oldest was young but able to stay home with the youngest. They both turned out to be bright, outgoing, well behaved girls. I think it depends on the caregiver. My oldest girls sitter was a woman who watched her in her home with a few others. She received all the attention she would have at home. And when I picked her up after work we would spend a lot of time together.

nope... i beg to disagree.... but in some cases.... mother should stay home and tend to the needs of her children....