Is It Right To Cast DOUBTS On Your Partner???

well if you want to fall in love again then you have to take the risk of getting you're heart broken, cause pain is part of love. As for your suitor...well, he seems to be really serious with you, cause his persistent and patient. me, I've been broken hearted a lot of times..but i still take the risk of falling in love. I'm currently in a relationship again. If I'd avoided my boyfriend now, I wouldn't have experience how great and sweet love could be. If I get broken hearted in the end again...at least I could say that I've experienced and felt how it is to be loved.

if you like him and is considering him, introduce him to the members of your family. when he is around during family gatherings, you will notice whether the way he acts and talks and interacts with your relatives is just fine. then, you can also ask the opinion of your relatives about the guy. don't depend on everything that they say though. make your own observations. then, you can also meet his family. if he is from a good family, chances are, he will be good guy, too. if he comes from a batch with a questionable attitude and a quarrelsome one, you are right about having some doubts.

I cant say if it is right or wrong, but it is only human to have doubts. I think that he caress a great deal for you.

Is it right to cast doubts on your parther? No If there is no reason to cast doubts on someone that always do what they say and is not a lier then why cast doubt. But if the person is always going back on there word then yes you maybe need to cast doubt because they give you no choice but to cast doubt.

awww i undestand exactly how you feel, been there done that..yeap i agree too that you should take time to know this guy and how pure were his intentions for you...me and my hubby way back when he is courting me took us 8 mnths to finally settle our feelings because i was too cautious and promised not to fall again after a drastic and heartbreaking heartache that made me sober and bitter and wut not...i thank God also for his guidance PRAY to be guided and u can decern how things works for you guys and stay true as always...not also u are knowing his personality and how true he is, let him know yours too just to make it fair on his side..being in a relationship is like we are betting it all but only being wise, we dont know ulness we give it a try...but according to your posting he persist..then see how far he is being persistent but dont be to harsh on him aslo give credit if you can sense his worth...i wish you all the love in the world and make it work,dont be afraid to love again, tho mistakes lead us to be wise and guiding us to the happy also whoever we give love a try...Godbless and njoy love and being loved!!!! nice posting :)

i have too has gone thrgh this phase but i'll suggest u to talk to ur partner because the more u communicate to him the more he'll let u knw about his acts..dont react to any of those things which can end ur relation..just stay calm and let him know tat by this act u are hurt so tell him to if possoble not to repeat it again if he truely loves u and wants u to be happy he wud try his best not ot repeat the thing again...if u come to know anything from outside just go ahead and confront him..but before doin this try to make him understand that u wont leave him even if he tells u the truth and that u just wanted to knw whether u have heard is rumours or truth... i know this acts might hurt u but trust me this will make ur relationship and the trust on each other stronger...

you have reasons for feeling that way and at times like ours, it's difficult to entrust your trust to just anyone. the way i see it, you don't need to push him away or tell him bitter words because he will not understand you. all you need to do is talk to him in a gentle manner. explain to him your feelings and your fears. tell him bravely that you doubt him and that you have a hard time trusting people. by then, he'll surely understand why you are pushing him away from your life.

I feel that in any relationship you hve to have trust. If you do not trust your partner then it is often better to finish the relationship rather than continue with doubts.

Well you've been hurt before, that's why you find it hard to trust again. What you need to do is to leave the past behind. Learn from it, but don't let it hold you back or prevent you from being happy. I'm not telling you to go steady with this new guy. I'm just saying keep an open mind. Not all guys are bad and out to hurt you.

oh ...i feel as if you were i ...i too am going through a same kind of experience...n know how does it feel...previous heartbreak has made me so bitter that i dont have faith on guys any longer... i tooo have hurt this suitor n am doing so though from inside i really want a person whom i can trust...i dont know how long he persists or how long it takes me to have some confidence in him.yet i just want to give it a honest try...

I am having the same thoughts as you. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now and he had a lot going on his mind lately. I totally understand his situation but this does not stop me from doubting him. I am totally freaked out now thinking that he is seeing another woman. He went out of the country yesterday and my doubts are eating me alive. I don't know what to do.

I feel for you...it also happened to me with my present relationship.. Its not that easy to trust on someone, especially if you had bad past.. Ive been in your situation.. Scared to trust someone and to love again... But that idea is very selfish... It is very unfair to the person who's courting you and wants to get chance to prove you that he is true.. I think you should give him a chance... Im not suggesting that you should give all your trust to him.. But let him prove you first that his feeling is real... In my situation like this, my partner did helped me to overcome this feeling... And Im thankful I gave him a chance... because he is really different from my past... Proud to let you know that we are now together for almost 3 years and counting...

i think u cant put total trust on that person whom u dont know properly and even if i would have been in your situation i would have felt the same way the way you are feeling now.its a human tendency that if front person is not normal u tend to doubt him. i think u need some time to rethink abt your relationship and dont force yourself into a relationship when u dont feel comfortable.if he truly loves u and cares he would have given u enough time.i suffered from same problem but i broke the relation since i didnt consider it as a relationship and at that time it was better to do than letting him afterwards abt my feelings.take ur own time u will e fine.

I feel previous experience in life is influencing your present mental state. The best thing I feel would be to take time, do not hurry in things, just allow things to settle down. If he is really committed then he will bite the time out to be with you. They say time is the deciding factor for many things in life and it may also be turn out to be true in your case.

When u have been hurt in the past it is hard to be able to trust again - I know! However if u have no proof, maybe you should give him a chanse. It might be your own insecurity and u might be passing up on something that could be great for you. Give it a shot but be careful and also honest to him about hoiw u feel so that he knows why you are beeing careful-

There is no reason to put your total trust in someone you have just known a few weeks. You should not even be, being pressured or feel pressure to decide at this early time to know where your future is going. Take your time. If your young man is unwilling to give you time and space, then there is something not right. I have been married 27 years soon, what I have learned in my life time about my intuitions is this, if it feels bad, if it smells bad, if it looks bad, if it sounds bad, if it tastes bad, it is bad! Trust yourself first, everything after that will fall into place.

i understand you..you're afraid to be hurt and be fooled again.if you think that you're still not ready to have a relationship stay single and be happy.but if you think you're starting to fall for him follow your heart.it might hurt you again but that's love..just don't be in a hurry take your time and enjoy life..godbless.

Open your heart to him. He seems sincere. :D When you're in a relationship, you should expect to have heart aches soon. Its pretty normal to get hurt when of course if you're in love. Why don't you try and be open? Things like that really happens and if you do have feelings for him. why not try? :D

this is all i can say cecille.. i have been doubting about my boyfriend before that i think he is cheating on me or something. its been two years and there are a lot of signs but i just think it was me thinking about somethings going on. then, there BOOM! just 3 weeks ago i found out about everything. i broke up with him because a girl called me and told me that she already has a 7month old baby and the father was my boyfriend. my boyfriend was also shocked because he didnt expect the girl to keep the baby. now all i can say is, trust your inner feelings. its true! what you feel about your boyfriend is true! trust me! many of my friends told me that ist true but i just didnt give a damm about it and now i have learned my lesson that whenever i feel somethings different, i better trust my feelings or inner self right away! the decision is your! ^_^