Dowry

We have been practising it in our Malay community but the dowry 'rates' are pretty much fixed depending on the status level (education/career wise) but in our case, the groom will give dowry to the bride :P

Hi zandy, I live in hindu country, where dowry is a social problem. Each day there will be a news about dowry deaths. The grooms will get dowry according to their qualification and profession, that includes flats, golds, vehicles, hot cash etc... I, personally never accept or give any dowry. My father-in-law was prepared to give me his vehicle and accepted to bear all the wedding expenses, I didnt even accept a stiching charges of my wedding suit. We shared the expenses equally.

no, i do not remember my parents telling about dowries being demanded even during the days of old in our country. there are some tribal natives though who are into this practice right now. they live in the hinterlands and i have only come to know one who came down and lived with the lowlanders. what i recall was that they used to arrange first as to what are the things that the man must come with in preparation for the wedding ceremonies. then the parents will want to know as to where will they live soon after the marriage.

The system of dowry is still rampant in most parts of the country. Though it has been by legislation , the practice continues unabated. Who would be ready to marry a girl without sufficient financial resources ? It is solid cash, gold ornaments , well equipped house, motor car etc are that are being offered as dowry.

yes its true it is an old age custom which is been followed up to know. In old days men used to give dowry for marring a women now women is giving dowry to men. I think all this has to stop and it should not be based on dowry it should be based on the character of the man whom u r marring to.

In Islamic COMMUNITIES The bridegroom has to pay a hefty amount to the woman he is to be married. And without amount known as mehar , the marriage documentation is incomplete, only the aspiring bride has authority to write the amount.There is no limit to it. Even woman can ask him aa aeroplane, however the women are requested to lower the mehar so that people get married.

We don't have many rules anymore in this country and there are some that want to abolish it. Divorce is at high numbers and so it is too easy to marry and divorce in this county of USA. Sorry to say. Where do people keep the herds of buffaloes? Many yards here would not be able to support one especially if they live in apartments.

We don't have that custom here in the UK. I guess the closest thing is who pays for the wedding. Usually it's the brides family but really i think it's whoever is better of. I would love to be in a position to pay for my own wedding before i get married though.

WE have never practised dowries in our country of Australia. Although, it was expected, and still often is, that the parents of the bride pay for the whole wedding. It is not really fair that this hppen, so when I was married, my husband & I paid for nearly all of our wedding. Particularly that some adults now, are better off than their pasrents, it does seem reasonable that they should pay. If the couple can't afford a wedding, I think the parents of both the bride & groom should go halves.

In the US there is not a dowry, but the Bride's father is expected to pay the wedding expenses, which I think must be a tradition that grew out of the dowry tradition. But more and more the bride and groom are paying for their own wedding, with little help from their parents.

Can this be banned in India atleast??

Without dowry marriage in India is next to impossible.It is being practised everywhere whether u'r staying in a metropolitan city or in a distant town or in a village. If a pregnant lady comes to know that it is a girl child then she gets it aborted.If a female child is born then she is killed after birth. why this is so.Just coz the parents have to spend money at the time of their marriage. People want to have sons instead of daughters coz when the son gets married the bride will bring dowry along with her. People spend lavishly on wedding ceremony. They give expensive gifts, most expensive cars. The bride wears the most expensive outfit.Even the parents don't mind hiring money for the marriage of their daughter. But the question is if by spending money the parents can keep the in -laws of their daughter happy then why girls are burnt alive for dowry. In baniya caste before the marriage they settle the amount to be spend on marriage.The deal is just about money. What is important DOWRY OR MUTUAL LOVE for a happy married life.