Infidelity Spices Up Marriage???

Not only will infidelity destroy a marriage, but it can destroy people as well. The sense of betrayal and hurt can be overwhelming. There are no good arguments for infidelity. It is a selfish act. cheers,

Oh no, I don't think so. Infidelity wrecks a marriage. Husband and wife should always be faithful to each other.

NOT ON YOUR LIFE- that is not why we got married- we took vows before God saying that we would be faithful. If my husband cheated on me (depending where I was in my mentral cycle would determine my reaction) i would either cry, leave him- or CHOP IT OFF.....more then likely all three.

I think in some situations perhaps it can make both parties realize they do want to save the marriage. If you're feeling stuck in your marriage & like it's the same old thing; and your partner has an affair that shakes you up and makes you realize you do want to save your marriage. But I think that's an awful way to get to that point. The trust you have in one another will take ages to rebuild.

Firstly I do know people who feel that way and it works for them. However in my relationship this just would not work - I would feel betrayed and would never be able to trust my partner again - without trust where is the relationship! xxx

no that is silly idea. this idea tend to end bad. it doesnt work that way becase one tend to want to be with mistress/other man often not just one or two tim to find new tricks. this is bad idea because marriage supposed to be one person with another person only so if there are new tricks that need to be learn to spice up relationship these tricks can be learned other way that not cheating. there are countless sources for new ideas to keep love life good. the idea that one would go with another just to make relationship good seem to be excuse to rationaize cheat. this is bad for relationship and bad for marriage.

That has got to be the dumbest comment I've heard yet! I must be showing my age and my conservative side. Marriage needs to be considered sacred and is not to be shared. Give me a break!

I don't think infidelity is good for a marriage or serious relationship. I don't have a problem in having other people think my husband is attractive, it's probably inevitable, he's got lots of good qualities. However in terms of things like new techniques wouldn't it be better discovering them with your partner rather than someone else?

Hmmm what would it bring to my marriage?... divorce! I just can't see any good in losing the trust and bond you spent X amount of years building. That makes no sense to me at all. Your friend needs a serious reality check! LOL

BAD BAD BAD I dont think that infidelity spices up a marriage and any one who thinks it does is mad in the head...

In not true for all marraiges i think it is mainly based on the understanding of the person so well and also faithfull to that person. As it is life we can some problems that should be faced by both the persons in a courageus way by not separating each other but by discussions with each other. Since it is life not a joke.

That is a very lousy thinking... So selfish of that! ... Husband and wife are bonded as one.. No one should ruin them...

i haven't marriage yet,but in my point of view ,marrige is about the life happyness ,if you marriage is broken , you can divorce,but it should be based on no hurting the child if we have the boy at home,because family is more important than personal happyness ,if child is happy , we should keep on the marriage and save the marrige! that is all my own opinion!

It will bring doom if your partner comes to know about it.

I don't find any logic on this statement. sorry.

oh nooooo that is very taboo. If she is doing this or her husband then sooner or later it will distroy thier marraige

I'm afraid it would bring disaster more time than good. Infidelity births distrust, deep hurt and many more horrible things. I can’t honestly see anything really positive from it, but maybe some superficial emotions/deeds that will burn out in short when the spouse can't shake what happened.

There are no good reasons for infidelity in a marriage. If new techniques are needed read it in a book or watch a video!!

Infidelity breeds mistrust. Marriage should be based on trust, so I don't see how the two connect in any way, unless a couple agrees that they have an open marriage. Frankly, infidelity is not my idea of a way to spice up a marriage.

I think it is bad for marriage. It is breaking your marriage vows, not to mention trust and respect. For health reasons too. I do not think it fair for a spouse to possibly cheat and maybe contract an STD and give it to the other spouse unknowingly. It is wrong on so many levels. It is one thing tohave someone else think your spuse is attractive and it spice up the marriage, but to act on it? That is betrayal!! Maybe it works for some, but not for me. I don't think many people can reconnect after something like infidelity