My husband is really bugging me!

LOL. Men. Tell him VERY nicley that if he wants to use the computer............to...................BUY HIS OWN! LOL. Naw just pickin....maby you could sugest him buying a laptap or better yet buying YOU a laptop...hehe.

just be honest girl. i don't know why people forget about being honest. not nasty, but honest. this is my feelings on honesty. you are not responsible how someone takes your honesty when you are not being mean or nasty. so go ahead and be honest and let him deal with his own feelings

I have two computers in my house. One is MY computer for business and such and the other is for everyone else. They all know not to touch mine. And they have all learned that when I am working on my computer, they leave me alone. It doesn't kill them to care for themselves once in a while.

There are two suggestions for this issue. One is buy a second hand or cheaper computer so that you both can use at the same time. Another option is you can do your house work or something else while your hubby is using the computer to avoid the disappointment. Obviously this won't be convenient for you, but you don't have other option.

Can you guys afford 2 computers? Maybe just get another cheap one that he could use? And when he asks you to do something tell him to do it himself! hehe. He's a big boy ;P You just need to tell him how you feel, that you think he isn't letting you have your time and space to get the money you want to to help pay for stuff.

the wife and i had the same problem for a while, so i bought a laptop for my regular correspondences. older model but still works , a little slower than what i was used to but still worked. now we have 3 pc's and i gave away a pile of computer parts to a local who put them together and gave them to kids who didn't have one. he's still doing it because it's an ongoing thing with him. i have an idea, does he know how to do laundry? that ought to keep him busy for a few hours. and let you get your work done. remember, don't mix the colors with the whites, and one cup of bleach per white load. make sure the washer is full of water first , mix in the soap and bleach, mix the water before you insert the whites. show me once i can do it for life, do it for me and i will never know how.

well, you can make a compromise, you work for a few hours then let him have a turn. if he has something important to do on there, let him. but if he just wants to look at ebay or so. ask him if he could do it later. you are making money to help the family and need to use the computer, save up and see if you can afford a laptop for him too use.

Well, as hurtful as it might sound, I think your husband is forgetting himself. If he can't afford to bring in a big enough slab of bacon for you to live comfortably without needing to work, then he should start treating you as an equal - as fast as "purchasing power" is concerned. It is easy for him to think of you as "just another housewife". You *might* be in this category before you starting contributing money to the household, but no more. You now have online income and deserve to be treated "better". You need to let him understand that he might be on OFF, but you still need to work. No work means no income for you. Naturally, if there is something important that needs to be done, you might have to "sacrifice" your working time - the equivalent of him taking a half-day or something. But asking you to make a sandwich when he is just plain lazy is not excusable. Money is always the bane of relationships. Most couples start their first quarrel over money (well, toothpaste for others :P). In your case, I think you need to put your foot down and talk things out with him. I can feel that you love your husband and family, so do it as diplomatically and gently as possible. Remember that guys have VERY BIG EGOS. Yes this is true. :P Good luck.

Sneak out some of your money that you make and save it and buy him a lap-top for Christmas or his birthday whichever comes first. I use my computer mainly for pleasure but I can understand your frustration. Luckily the man of this house is not the least bit interested in the computer - he doesn;t even know how to turn it on. Good -luck. I hope you can work something out.

I don't think he's trying to be mean either, and trust me you are not alone. I don't think there is a hubby out there that doesn't honestly believe that we women get things done with anything but magic wand. We get the house cleaned magically, we get the kids in order magically, we make dinner, shop and do laundry, all with the aid of our magic wands that allow us to accomplish all tasks, sit on the couch, and watch soaps all day!! I work from home also as does my hubby, we ended up having to get him a laptop, nothing expensive or extravagant, but it really helped!!

I would let him read what you have just writen I think you put it on here and it make plenty of sense. Then let him read the comments maybe you can buy another computer or maybe he will understand this is the only way you can earn an income. I think its sometimes easier to type than to talk. If hes not a mean man like you said then maybe you should let him read this it may be good for the both of you. Goodluck to you and your man.

I sincerly think that buyn another computer can solve this problem, I don't know what other advice to give you.

I was in similar situation an year ago when I was wonting to work online to get money but my brother wanted to play games.. What I did was I bouth my self a new computer and let him get the old one. Now the time I spent in front of the monitor is determined by me.

Be true to yourself and try to figure something in which can touch his attention into areal changes and God will be with you on your side. Trust GOD and yourself for HE WILL MAKE A WAY, EVEN IF THERE IS NO WAY.

There are people who just try to find fault on others. I think this is just to cover up their weakness. So do not worry. Just be hones and sincere to yourself.

I have a similar problem with my partner, he is working during the day but in the evening he wants to spend his time on my computer. I have pointed out to him that while we both want to use my computer, there has to be some time sharing.

By the way how do you get by being a work at home mom?

Guys tend to be like that sometimes. I think that you should tell him how you feel about it and point out to him that your income is also important. Sometimes they dont realize these things. I am trying to be a work at home mom but I dont know how to access the essentials. My husband would love to have me get into it, so let yours know he is lucky.

I think that you should set your "work hours" which would be the time that you are focused on working at home, and are not available to do tasks and errands for your husband. During the conversation about your work hours you should mention how much you earn in a day that you can't earn if he's asking for help. Still, listen to his side, he might feel that on his day off he just wants to stay at home rather than running the errands he asks you to do for him. Maybe he thinks you'll be glad to get out of the house for a while, or take a break from working at the computer.

Talk to him in a nice way. See to it that you're in a good mood either him before you talk. So you would both understand each other. Explain everything to him and Im sure he'll understand.. Everything can run smooth with good communication...