The power of Positive Thinking - does it really work?
By rosie_123
@rosie_123 (6113)
June 6, 2007 3:02am CST
This idea was prompted by something the Vet said about my beloved Lily. He said that what saved her, was not just the medical care she received, but because she was a "wilful little madam" who refused to get depressed in the Hospital, and absolutely REFUSED to "lay down and die"! And it got me thinking...... is this true of life in general? Do the people who have positive, happy outlooks on life generally sail through life with few problems, whilst the ones with more negative outlooks seem to suffer more setbacks and problems?
Of course everyone gets ill from time to time, but I once read that those who fight against their illnesses with laughter and strength, are generally more likely to be cured than those who sit down and mope and say "why has this happened to me?"
So what do you think. Does the person who sees the glass as half full like me, sail through life more happily than the one who always sees it as half empty? Does being optimistic and positive really help us find a happier lifestyle?
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
Hello rosie. For the past few weeks, I've been mastering the art of positive thinking. Initially, it was difficult but I was able to go through halfway of it. I tried to cast off negative thoughts. Amazingly, I can see a huge difference in my whole being. My perception in life have change tremendously and I was able to see things clearly. Its all about believing in your capability and looking at thing on the positive ways. There should be no room for any doubts in your mind. There will be days that negative things will lurked around me. At times like this, I will yell in my thought to think positive only.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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6 Jun 07
Well thanks for your input. I am glad that things are working out for you. I am also a great believer in it - negativity breeds negativity in my opiion. Smile and the world smiles with you, weep and you weep alone as they say!
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I've been going to these adoptions every week since Jan (only missing 3 so far.) Some of the cats that have come have been pretty content, some have been just sitting in the back of the cage looking unhappy. I've seen both kinds get adopted, but I've noticed that you are right, the ones that stand at the front of the cage & greet people get most of the attention.
I had an old cat, he was a pretty sick boy for the last couple of years of his life. He would sit in the cage at the vets watching things going on. He, like Lily, got to be very popular with the staff. They only put cats that they could trust in the top shelves of the cages because they didn't want to be grabbed by unhappy cats, Hobo was a "top shelf" cat. I go in & say "I'm Hobo's mom" and you can tell the staff that's been there a while because they say "Oh, Hobo," sort of sad since we lost him 5 yrs ago.
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@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I think positive thoughts and a lot of love have a whole lot to do with unlikely recoveries.
I could go on about my precious chow chow, who did live to be 11 years old, and all his trials, but I won't.
My point is that our faith that he would be fine and our love for him like one of our kids pulled him through 3 times when the vet didn't think he'd make it.
All the positive thoughts going out to Lily and your family, not to mention your love for that kitty is what made sure the medical treatments were a success. At least that's how I see it.
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I think it's quite possible. No use to getting too depressed about it. If you sit there and constantly think about what's going on and just let it take over, you're letting it win. You're not fighting back and trying to get better. I think illness is really a way of the universe telling you to take it easy. So, if you take it easy, but realize you have options and that there is hope, you'll get better faster.
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@shrey_aryan (350)
• India
6 Jun 07
well yup it's really important in lyf 2 have +ve attitude before doing something as dis gives us a necessary push 2 start d job.....!!
it also reveals one's thinking and dedication towards work...!!
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@shrey_aryan (350)
• India
7 Jun 07
well what would have been ur response if d same ques would have been put up 2 u....??
@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I believe that there have been studies that prove that positive feelings help people heal quicker. Apparently, it works with our pets as well. I am a certified Reiki healer and what we do is to help people feel balanced internally with positive energy so that they can recuperate faster. It is in no way a replacement for medical attention, but many hospitals are now using Reiki because patients who receive Reiki energy bleed less during surgery and heal faster. Those who hang onto negative feelings may be plagued with physical illnesses all through their lives.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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6 Jun 07
Yes I believe that is true - I have read a lot about Reikl healing, though I don't know a great deal. Thanks for your reply.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
6 Jun 07
Please Rosie after I write this tell me to take a leaf out of my own book, I'm good at giving others advice but when it comes to taking that same said advice I'm hopeless LOL! Positivity attracts positivity you send out an 'aura' 'karma' if you like and you become a human magnet you attract and if you want something bad enough if you focus your attention on it you will get it, because it's self belief, self belief in yourself and self belief that it will indeed happen.
Take Lily for example she means the world to you and you would do absolutely anything, your love is infinite and you wanted her so so so much, you believed that she would get through, you believed that she would be back in your arms and you willed her to survive, she did, you reaped the rewards
Being a depressive that I am, I am pessimistic, I wallow in my own negative juices, feel sorry for myself and see the glass half empty, it was never always like this my friend, so I look back to when I was really happy, confident, full of self-esteem it was before I had a relationship!
Both relationships as you know by now were mentally abusive, I felt trapped, my self-esteem, confidence was sucked away like a vampire sucking it out of me.
I know what I have to do in my present situation but it's a big mountain to cross, I have to pass the hills first before I eventually come to the mountain, but I hope I will do it, it won't be this year probably not the next but at least by the time I reach 40 I can look back and hug myself tightly and return to the real Brian xxx
@rosie_123 (6113)
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6 Jun 07
Thanks for your wonderful response my friend. I know how much you suffer and I am truly sorry, and I wish things could be different for you. I truly hope that things work out as you intend, and in a few years time you will indeed be happy again.
Rose
xxxxx
@shambuca (2524)
• United States
6 Jun 07
I think you are right - i have seen both sides of the coin, so to speak, and yes usually the ones with a bright outlook seem to get cured or at least survive longer then the ones who don't. Of course it also helps to have family and friends who are supportive and positive also.. if you are surrounded by people who are pesimists then it will bring you down... but if you have people who are optomistic and encouraging toward you then it give you the strength you need to push on. Just like Lily she had spunk but she also had the both of you to love her and encourage her....by the way - when is her big homecoming????? Wish I could be there for the celebration.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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6 Jun 07
Yes I believe being surrounded by positive people helps! As for Lily's homecoming - we're picking her up at 4.00pm which is in about an hour's time:-) I just have to wait for my man to come home, because they've suggested someone travels in the back of the car with her just to calm her down a bit as she may get stressed with the move, so we'll both have to go - him to drive, and me to sit with her!
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
6 Jun 07
thats a good and helpfull thread for many of os rosie.
i believe in positive thinking. laughter, love and positive thoughts help us through all situations in life.
i am glad your Lily could show you how it works.
i had many situations with my kids where i could proove the facts that positive thinking and fighting against the situation helps lots more than sit back and wait till all is over. it helps with illness, it helps with life in general. and what i realized, optimists handle their life lots easier than pessimists.
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@larissa_cai (100)
• China
6 Jun 07
Sometimes those who hold positive views about bad things maybe those who have sufferred more than others. Because only after meeting difficulties and pulling through the difficulty, can they be more optimistic and know how to cling to such hope and views. Experiences often teach us lessons. And there is no line to define who sufers more.
Of course those fighting against their illnesses with laughter and strength are more likely to be cured than the counterparts, otherwise, how can they still live today?
More often you have no choice but to accept the reality and be optimistic because you have to live. However you maybe depressed after successive setbacks and you will think to yourself why should I stand up? Just to fall down again? Yesterday, I recived a message that I have to make a difficult choice which may affact my life. I feel despaired very much. But I know I have to choose because I must. And the only way I can do is to accept it, face it, choose it and be optimistic.
@bushra_8 (44)
• India
6 Jun 07
Positive thinking is very important it gives u inner strength to fight anything in life, for me positive thinking is trusting Allmighty,
A few years ago my granny had to undergo gal bladder stones operation n the doctors said tht as she is 75+ years old..it will be major operation. ALhumdulillah she got operated n healthy..Doctors said tht this is all due to her positive thinking..n the inner soul power, my granny again got foot operated last month..n then mashaALlah doctor told tht this is his fast aged patient who is recovering so soon...Everything becoz she has positiev thinking i,e trust in Allmighty...
mashaALlah cing my granny ...i really believe..God helps those who want to help themselves...for this u need to ahev positive thoughts..
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@TDonald (1421)
• United States
7 Jun 07
It may or may not work.
But it is a much better choice as a lifestyle...
@cblackink (969)
• United States
7 Jun 07
I think so, because I believe that if you expend a lot of your thought energy towards a problem, you're just giving fuel to the fire. Obviously, one can't totally ignore they have a problem but I think the best thing to do is acknowledge that you have it, but spend more of your time thinking about the good things you have and the good things you want in your future. I'm glad to hear your pet did well. I had a cat that lived to be 18 years old. The vet told me that cats of her breed almost never lived to be that old. The vet said it was purely her individual genetics that allowed her to live that long. I think I know better. She went when she was ready. She was quite the lady.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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7 Jun 07
It has and does work for me.
Only problem I find is keeping myself happy, I dwell on things and let them chip at me and then the thinking goes and I'm no longer positive.
Those do drive me to improving that though and I have started to deal and face up to things.
Right now I have issues with posting on one of my sites. (the first) P&A.. I wanted to help people but because it doesn't seem I am I can't string to lines to a simple topic.
Kudos Rosie,
~Joey
P.s How is you're kitty doing? I hope she's chasing your cotton balls :)
@rocky0072008 (3)
• India
7 Jun 07
it does not work to me at all couse i get angry very fast so when ever i try to become positive i dont know what happens to me ......
@Heathr (12)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Yes. It's the law of attraction. We are magnents and we draw to us more of what ever it is we're emotionally distracted by. If we're always worried about getting sick and being late for something then we're going to get sick and we're going to be late for those important meetings. The Universe will always give you what you ask for and you ask through your emotions. If you're really really angry then you get more things to be angry about. But on the flip side if you find thing to be happy about and revel in those feeling, the Universe will send more happy things your way.
Happiness is always a choice!