CHANGE: For self or for others?
By smints8985
@smints8985 (1594)
United States
June 6, 2007 3:31am CST
Is there anything about yourself that you want to change?
Maybe something about your physical appearance? OR something about your attitude or personality?
Maybe you want to lose a few pounds? Or maybe you want to be more patient.
But the most important question I want to know is that, why do you want to make these changes?
Are they for yourself? Some sort of a self-fulfillment thing or rather do you tend to want to make these changes for other people? Let's be honest.
I want to lose some weight, I think I will look and feel better if I do.
Most of the time. I have felt like I only want to do so to please other people, to make them notice me more, but as I have gotten more mature, I realized that I wanted it more so that I would have more confidence in myself.
I know that looking good will make me feel better about myself, not only will people notice me more but most importantly I would feel good and confident about my own capabilities.
How about you?
What are the major changes that you wanted to make or have made in your life?
And if you think back on it, did you want to do so to please yourself or others?
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5 responses
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Good to know. I have heard from people several times that if you want change, then start from yourself and the world will follow.
@shrey_aryan (350)
• India
6 Jun 07
well i'll definitely love 2 change myself 4 those who love me and care 4 me.....!!
this is not n e sort of compromise but dis is a bit adjustments which u have 2 sometimes do in life...!!
lyf is as easy as u can make by making other's happy which will make u satisfied and happy at the end of the day...!!
so never regret 4 what u commit..??
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Well thank you for sharing your opinion.
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@shrey_aryan (350)
• India
7 Jun 07
well can u let me bout ur opinion if d same ques would have been put up 2 u...??
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
7 Jun 07
Well, a couple years back I could have easily answered that I am changing for the rest of the world, that I want to world to think of me as this person.
But now, I have determined that whatever change I make, if I do not do it for myself, if I just try to please other people that is why I am making such change, then the end of the day, I may have pleased and made everyone else happy, except for myself.
Therefore, I have to say that I will change for the better of myself, not for who other people want me to be, but who I want them to know me as.
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
7 Jun 07
it is far better to change for yourself and not for anyone else because what matters is how you feel about those changes and if you feel good chances are you will attract a lot of better friends telling you how different you are.change of self starts within you, a conviction on your part to do it.dehypnotize yourself from the old ways then believe that you can and that you will.
@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
i feel im content with myself that i don't really need to change myself for other people . . whatever im doing is for myself thats because i know whats best for me and in the end i only have myself to count on.
Sometimes i ask myself "What am i going to change with myself?" then i start thinking " .. hmmm nah!! Whats there to change ." :)
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Haha! Yeah that's the attitude! Well if you really do not feel like there is anything you need to change and you are confident with how you are then no worries.
What's important is that you are comfortable with who you are, at the end of the day it's what you really are that counts.
@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
yES more like . . "Carefree" w/ wings of course :P
well whatever we may look like the fact is we are beatiful in every way may it not be physical or mentally but maybe its the way we make others feel don't you think so
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
I'm a bit confuse of this thing. I know that I have alot of attitudes to change for the better but I guess I'm not that ready to do so. Sometimes I ask myself, when would be the right time? Is it when it's too late? Lol! I hope it would not be like that. Of course I wanted to change myself as soon as possible. I will do this not only because of what people say but also because I want to do the same thing.
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I guess changing will only be effective if we actually believe that it is the right time to make that change.
If we are not ready, I don't think we'll succeed.
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