My friend is falling in love with a person she met in a chatroom.What will i do?

That's a tough one. Years ago i talked to a guy in Cali for months and months. i was completely honest with everything i said, and every picture i provided was up to date. We ended up liking each other alot. And he decided he would fly to Kansas for a week and meet me and see if we liked each other in person too. I was very excited, he was nice, cute, had a good job, his own place, we had lots in common..etc, etc. So it comes down to the time for his plane to get in and i am waiting in the terminal by baggage with a picture he sent me watching everyone come to the luggage area. Scanning the faces looking for him. I couldnt find him anywhere and started to think he was going to stand me up, or that he had played a joke. Then this guy walks up to me and asks me if i am Stefany. To which i replied yes, and he said "wow, we finally get to meet" I was shocked speechless. He didnt look anything like his picture, was very scruffy and dirty looking. So i decided to give hime the benefit of the doubt since he said the picture was an older one (i figured looks shouldnt be everything). It was nitetime when he got in so we didnt have much time for visiting and such. The next day we hung out, and i came to a disgusting realization...he had lied about most everything, we didnt have anything i common, his personality was lacking (in every way). It was a complete nightmare, and i was stuck with him for a week. I have never met another person off the computer for any kind of dating, or romance. It has been my experience that alot ALOT of people lie online. About their age, jobs, looks, everything. Not that i am saying everyone does, but i havent met anyone that hasnt embelleshed some things..(i have met people as friends only since the disaster) But then i think about my ex's dad. He met someone off the computer about 12 years ago, and they are still married to this day. So some do work out, some dont, and some are just dangerous. I would suggest your friend see if she background the guy at all, and if not definately dont meet him alone. These days, you cant ever tell who you are talkin to online. I saw a talk show also where guys talk to women, get them to fall in love with them, then smooth talk them into losing every single penny they have. And for whatever reason, alot of these guys were from Australia, and i cant remember the other country. Now, i am not saying by any means to tell your friend not to do it, but to do it with the utmost caution and safety. There are too many maniacs in the world, and any weirdo can be a nice person online. Hope i helped.

Just because you don't believe in them doesn't mean she shouldn't. As long as she has someone with her when she meets this man she will be safe and that's all you should be worrying about. It's her choice and if she ends up broken hearted she has nobody to blame but herself. I believe online relationships deserve a chance, you never know where you will find true love. I met my boyfriend on a profile site called Elftown. We talked for a couple of weeks and then met up. We were lucky that we both lived in the same town but if we hadn't there was no reason not to give it a go. We have been together for over three yers now. I think you should let your friend have her romance and if it doesn't work out she hasn't lost anything that she didn't have before.

I personally believe that your "friend" needs to spend time with his bf online. She needs to know the person really well. I know some don't work their marriage because the guy or girl wasn't true to what they say online. Some are just pretending. Be careful. It's a risk.

online relationship doesn't seem realiable but your friend's boyfriend will come and they can get to know each other in real life. chatting online is only the beginning of their relationship. whether their relation will go on depends on whether they can get on well in real life. i don't think you need to worry so much about it. one of my friends got married with a girl who he got to know online and they live happily.

Just be there for her.

Mine too. Just be there for support.

I have a lot of experiences about it.Tell her to be cautious.And dont believe or even trust no one.She needs to meet that guy first before she give all her heart to that stranger.

I know you're concerned about your friend. But like any love story, you should let hers unfold without pre-judging its success or failure. Some online relationships do work, and it's a fact. Also, you have to consider that even relationships that are not online or long distance have every possibilty of not working out either, so what's the difference?. It's too early to tell if she'll end up happy or broken hearted. Anyways, we can't really protect our hearts from being broken or hurt whatever the situation might be, right? I'd say that she should go for it and then just see what happens next, than regret not having taken the opportunity to know the person or experience having a relationship with him.

My boyfriend is in the USA and we've met from a common friend through text. We've started as friends and eventually ended up having a relationship. We haven't met but we see each other through pictures and videos that we send. We continuously text each other as though we are just right in front of each other. We've managed to be together for almost 21 months now and our love is getting stronger everyday. Online relationships work like any other relationship. What makes it work is the desire of both parties to make the relationship alive despite the distance. Physical presence is just one factor of a relationship. If both parties feel that the love is real then you cannot hinder your friend from falling in love. Let her feel love for it will make her grow. :)

i observe some of the online relationship work since i seen some of them ended in marriage. But me, coz i haven't tried it yet,it gives me a doubt if the feelings are real. I hope so. Maybe your friend fell in love because of the way that men treats her which maybe so so special. Well, atleast that men will visit her. I guess she can meet him, but don't show obviously what she is feeling for him, so the guy can be on his real.and tell your friend to take care ok.

No one knows, my friend. Love is love, you can't explain it like a science. I have seen examples of online friends meeting up, and getting married even. And married happily. Everything is possible... let her be.

Online love do exists.But it will be very difficult and most ended with bad results.But there sure be some successive online love stories and some even be more touching than these in reality. In my opinion,everything is possible.But since online cheaters and liars are so many.You should tell your friend be careful. And they should not meet in reality too soon.They should spend enough time online to understand each other.You know,only time will tell.I think if her boyfriend is a liar,he will display his tail one day.

I have many friends who believed in online relationship at the beggining of course wwe really have doubt in them if they have really good intentions with us. But the way I looked at your bestfriend situation maybe you should give her a chance. Maybe if he meet this person maybe they will end up in marriage we can really say what will happens to them, maybe she finds really the right person for her, we can't really judge the person without seeing him in person. Let your friend have a chance to know him better and I know she is the one who will decide whats best for her. You can only do for her is a little advise and support if she gets hurt this is a way of learning.

I've had a couple of relationships where i met the person online some stayed in the same city as me and others just stayed in the same state. Some of these relationships lasted a long time. We spent time together when we could and we talked a lot on the phone and online. As far as yur friend goes. I don't know abouut dating someone in another country. I don't think I would do it but to each his own maybe he will come see her and they will make a hapy couple. Time will tell.

i believe in online relationships. i will soon be married to someone i met on the internet. difference was we did not meet in a chatroom and we weren't really looking for love that time. so, we started out as friends and exchanged emails. it took some months before we finally tried to chat and got to know each other more. as for your friend, i hope she started out as friends with the person. but if she really loves him, then let them be. just always be there for her especially if in case she will end up heartbroken which i hope not. love can be found in the most unexpected time and place. and for your friend (and me, too), i met love on the internet. and one thing more... tell your friend to never hurry about it. true love can wait. if she will meet the guy in july, that's good. atleast she'll be able to know the person up close and personal. ... anne

You will let her live her life..as a friend should. I do believe in online love relationships. I know of several people who have met there spouse online and have a successful relationship with them. They are very happy. I have no clue if your friend will end up with a broken heart or not. Because I don't know your friend or the person she is getting involved in. I suggest being up front with your friend and telling her you are scared this relationship won't work out. If it doesn't work out, you want her to contact you and you will help her get back home if needed.

If I were you I would advise her to know more about the guy. Meet as friends first before getting into a more deeper relationship. Long distance relationships usually are hard to maintain specially if you don't really know the person.

Well, I'm getting married next year and I met my partner in a chatroom. Just because you don't believe in online relationships doesn't mean that your friend shouldn't either. While it's true that a lot of online relationships don't work, many others DO. I personally know of 4 of my friends who all married someone they met online and they're all very happy together. If this guy is flying out to meet her then whats the issue? It then becomes a "real" relationship instead of an online one. I think it's probably better to tell your friend that you'll be there to support her no matter what happens because thats what friends do. Tell her that if it works, you'll be happy for her, and if not, then you'll be there for her to lean on as she mends her heart.

ya beleiving some one whom you dont know or haven`t seen is very difficult but sometimes the person on the intenet can also be gud so i think uour frnd should first make sure that the person she is chatting is realy good and try to finf out all th einformation about him n then think about the future

Hello,abbyey,honestly i am not into online relationship,some people may find their partners online but i believe most of the others fail.I am not sure whether it works or not.The chance of sucess may be less than 1%,but we cannot just say your friends will end up with broken heart,there may be exceptions.I think the main problem of online dating is you will never know how your 'partners'are like,may be they are very different from what they said at the beginning.