My children have been with their dad for two weeks now and I was just wondering

I shalt not judge you although I must say this is a good example of what can go so wrong and the kids and in this case you are paying dearly. It is good he wants to be involved however he really needs to pay his support. You might if you wish the stress take it to the courts and perhaps with the right things to fall into place he will not get them so much and then things might get back to more reasonable visiting once he is paying. Not easy and I am proud of you for doing as much as you have and I wish you much luck in this situation.

It is never easy to have to see your children unhappy, and this type of situation is very hard on them. I am speaking sort of from experience. My children's father and I divorced when my daughters were about 5 and 2. He got them at first when it was convenient for him, and not for me. It got so bad, that we even had to meet at the sheriff's department for drop off and pick up, then he began not to show. And this tore the girls up. So I eventually had his visitation rights taken away. When my oldest was 12 she wanted to get back in touch with him, so I knew where he worked on occassion and took a letter to him, and they saw him for several years until he remarried and then once again he disappeared from their lives. It has been a hard road being the mother and the father for my girls. But they do know that I will always be there for them no matter what. He has never paid a dime in child support. He had a heart transplant 6 months prior to our divorce, so the only thing I ever got was SSI for both of them which never even amounted to $200 a month. So I can understand what you are feeling and what you are going through. I know it will be a long two weeks. Maybe tell your children that you will take a special trip or do something special when they get back to you. Let them be thinking of something they would like to do while they are with their dad. This will help them think of something else besides just being with him, and something to look forward to when they get back home to you. My girls are now 18 and 21 and they still don't have contact with their father.

I know exactly what you mean, I have kids too and recently when I took them to their grandmother's they were miserable. Not exactly my ten month old but because of her I was and my eight year old was too upset. He didn't like the food , he didn't had anyone to play with and because of his complaints about the spicey food I had to listen to my in lwas that I haven't taught him any manners. MY toddler kept touching her things and kept getting herself wet whole day. It was terrible and I couldn't do a thing about it as my hubby sided with his mother. I was so relieved wqhen we all came back and things became normal. Just help them bear it there is nothing you can do about it anyway.May be ask a lawyer to enquire why kids are unhappy at their dad's place.

No, Luckily I do not have to do this. It would tear my heart out if I had to. So I admire you for doing so.you sound like you are doing the right thing and Im sure that no one will judge you.

I had two sons in my first marriage....we divorced when they were 14 and 12 respectively. The 14 year old stayed with me and the 12 year old went with his dad. I never asked for nor recieved child support. We would do an exchange in the summer because we did live a ways away from each other. The youngest would come stay with me for three weeks and both boys had a chance to spend time together and then both would go to his house for three weeks. we did it that way so the brothers could have time together too. My children were older than yours, and they did well, but my son really hated to go to his dad's house. But he understood te reason he should go.....had to give his father a chance. If the courts have seen fit to grant the father time with the children then you have to deal with it. The only thing that would change it is if something happened to prove he was negligent in caing for them or if he stops paying support. It is not easy, but you have to allow the children this time. My daughter also hates spending time with her father, but she does because she knows he deserves a chance.

I am sorry you have to go though so much for so little. I am not judging I am here to pat you on the back for following through with what with cout has said for you to do. I have not advise for you. I just want to say "Good job so far and I know you will get though this". You know in your heart your children need their dad as such as he is. Good luck with eveything.