Beauty, Is it only skin deep?
@lovelydame3000 (1577)
India
June 9, 2007 9:16am CST
I am sick and tired of guys(some girls too) saying that i am beautiful and flirting with me. This happened more on chat and friendship sites. Some even demands me to take of my cloths and i just ignore them.I think that i am more than just a face. I have much better qualities in me which are worth knowing. Have anyone of you had such experiences?
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@ibsnet (1268)
• India
9 Jun 07
Hey lovelydame you are lovely that's very correct. Beauty is not in skins. Beauty of a woman is overall. Someone without cothes is not the show of beauty it is vulgarism. Each and every woman has some inbuilt beauty in her. The only thing how one expresses. Beauty is a thing that is good and pleasing from a distance from a good point of view. There is no sense of flirtng. In chatrooms there are people who only search for intimate relations or some enjoyment and it is also true some women also take part in it. So I suggest you leave chat rooms or log in as invisible, whom you like to chat choose those only.
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@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
9 Jun 07
Hi ibsnet! Thanks for responding to my discussion. You are absolutely right there. Anyways, I do not see any point in avoiding chatrooms altogether because you meet some good people there too.
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@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
9 Jun 07
Hi henazea! Thanks for your response. We do meet some good people in Chat too. I do not talk to anyone who pass indecent remarks on me.
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@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
9 Jun 07
If it bothers you and this is what they talk about , maybe it is the chat sites that you are visiting. I just wouldnt go there if I was you
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@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
9 Jun 07
Hi onabreak2! Not everyone is the same.You meet some people who are good too in Chat. I avoid or ignore those who pass indecent remarks on me. Thanks for your response.
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@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
9 Jun 07
Well...I can't say that I have ever had that experience. However, you are absolutley right, bequty is all about what is on the inside. However, it is what is ont the outside which first attracts people. I guess that is just the way humanity works.
cheers,
@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
10 Jun 07
Hi golfproo! Thanks for responding to my discussion. Yeah, it is very sad that people judge you by your physical appearance more than what is inside. Beauty can go one day but what is in you remains.
@abedelrahman1 (356)
• United States
13 Jun 07
umm here something to unsick you, your are NOT beautiful, being fat is also not beautiful, you make ME sick
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@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
13 Jun 07
Hi abedelrahman1! I like that. Well, as the saying goes, I am sour grapes to you. Thanks for your response.
@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
15 Aug 07
Well I think you are beautiful and real beauty has to come from within. I hve interacted with you and find you to be a genuine beautiful person. Dont let other people's perception of what they think beauty is bother you. As you said you just block those who are being indecent and move on. In this life you have good and bad but I always believe that good out weighs the bad everytime. You just have to search and keep on looking.
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@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
15 Aug 07
Hi Sharon! Thank you so much for your response. You are good for my ego. Yeah, i value inner beauty more in a person. You may be right about good overweighing bad because i have had experiences of guys who behaved badly with me change his opinion after interacting with me and one such guy today is my very good friend.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
13 Jun 07
Lovely, it is really sickening to read the attitude of males ....as you have mentioned. Many join and come to the chatting sites...for this silly and disgusting things....
I agree that qualities and traits of a person are more important than her/his physical beauty. If you are good in nature...you can attract others and can establish very good relationship...irrespective of your physical appearance. But if someone is only beautiful...otherwise a dumb and a fool....what one will do with physical beauty?
You cannot change others....but those who do not think...on your lines and are after your physical aspects/beauty only...those I think are needed to be ignored completely by you.
deepak
(P.S. - For me qualities and traits of a person carry more importance than her/his physical beauty...when I say it I mean it)
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
16 Jun 07
You appear to be showing stronger and tougher approach. Keep it up!
best of luck!
deepak
@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
13 Jun 07
Hi Deepak! Thanks for your support. I agree with you. I am with PerfSpot only because it provide me witth referrals for the programs i am involved and after i had put a strong description of my attitude the number of people behaving like that is reduced.Thanks for the response.
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@yamahagirl (415)
•
13 Jun 07
Hi there,
Yes ive also been in chat rooms and they have asked me do take off my clothers, there a bunch of perverts i dont go in chat rooms anymore.
@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
14 Jun 07
Hi yamahagirl! I fully agree with you. If you ever do something like that you will fall not only in the viewers eyes but also yours. A Lotus too grows in dirt. Avoiding Chatroom is baseless. You can find a lot of good people there too. Avoid or Ignore people whom you do not like. Thanks for responding.
@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
20 Jun 07
Hi nitzel! You are absolutely right. I am of the firm beleif that qualities make a person. Thanks for responding to my discussion.
@EZhang (165)
• Singapore
15 Aug 07
I have guys flirting with me sometimes too, partly because they thought I looked cute. Although I do flirt back, but I would still draw the line clear when they flirt with me not simply because they like me for who I am, but because they thought they could get away with anything from me. All in all, there's nothin wrong with people saying you're pretty or beautiful if you are the real deal. But still most importantly, you have to be comfortable with who you are. People may try to take advantage of you for your physical beuaty. But always know that this is your life and no one except you can make you agree to do what you want or not want to do.