Well...it finally happened....
By dedicated_28
@dedicated_28 (1383)
United States
June 9, 2007 11:33pm CST
As most of you know already, my brother is very heavily addicted to drugs, he mainly drinks and pops pills, he has been this way for at least a year maybe longer. he has many legal issues which are all related to drugs and either obtaining them or using them. He has a court date on the 12th of june and i have been hoping all along that everything would be okay until then. But tonight while at work I recieved a phone call from one of his friends that he was at their house and they had taken some oxycontin and drank a little beer and then he passed out, they were unable to get him awake. So I left work and called an ambulance for him. When I got there the ambulance was just arriving and we all tried to wake him up but were unsuccessful. The ambulance took him to the hospital where of course they pumped his stomach and gave him some saline stay awake injections, he is doing okay now however even though it was an accidental overdose they are putting him in a lockdown unit to determine if he is a danger to himself. This is the dumbest thing i have ever heard in my entire life, of course he's a danger to himself or he wouldn't have had his stomach pumped, what morons. against my familys wishes I'm going on monday to sign a mental hygiene warrant against him, he'll just have to hate me for a little while, at least he will be alive. my mother among other relatives have threatened to not speak to me if i do this. how could they possibly be against this?
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
11 Jun 07
If you only knew just how true that statement really is..lol much thanks
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@MagdalenaM (681)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Hello,
I must say that I cannot even begin to imagine how horrible must be for you to watch your brother auto destruct himself - you, my dear are a brave and wonderful sister as well as responsible for putting him under observation until he gets a detox done.
I cannot believe your mom would be mad at you - you are right they all can hate you but you, my dear, are doing the right thing and probably saving his life!
My best wishes and prayers are with you.
Hugs,
Magdalena
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@MagdalenaM (681)
• United States
12 Jun 07
My dear friend, I know exactly what you mean when you say that you want to simply take his pain away - I had family members suffering in different situations which simply broke my heart.
May God give you strenght to be strong and get through this as you are indeed your brother's guardian angel on earth who has saved his life.
Know that we all are here for you - with best wishes and prayers.
Magdalena
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@uiwwitch (892)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I know that you are making a very hard decision but I think that your family will be able to accept and hopefully thank you 5, 7 or 15 years from now when you are all celebrating Christmas or any holiday together as a whole family.
Maybe you can sit down with your family again and try to explain things to them. Or have a chaplain or someone they respect and believe to explain the situation to them.
I hope everything works out for the best. You have my prayers.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
10 Jun 07
This is a very hard decision and one i feel we should have made as a family.. maybe i will have someone else sit down and speak with them. much thanks
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
10 Jun 07
oh and congratulations on your 500 posts=)
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
10 Jun 07
So sorry to hear about this situation that you and your family are going through. I do think that you are making the right decision. Sounds like he needs to get in a treatment program. I pray that everything will turn out and things begin to look up for you, him and your family.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Yes, he most certainly needs a treatment program. he needed it a long time ago. thanks
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@silvernutbar (904)
• United States
10 Jun 07
*hugs you tight* I'm sorry sweet heart. If i'd had any clue what wa going on last night, i'd of not let myself take a nap at 10. I'm am so glad you have the inner fortitude to do what's right and try to help your brother. He needs all of the help like that he can get. If your family threatens not to talk to you, then you still can talk to me. They'll get over it eventually, and in the mean time your brother gets some help.
I love you aly bear.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
11 Jun 07
No sweetie, don't apologize. I know you would have been there if you had been awake. you need to rest. yes, they will get over it eventually and even if they don't oh well, their loss. I'm only doing what's right and trying to save the little bit of a life that he may have right now. I think that my entire family needs help because we are just as much a part of his addiction as he is. anyways..thanks for your support...i love you scottie
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@amyann16 (414)
• United States
10 Jun 07
So sorry you and your family have to go through this. I believe you are doing the right thing and hope that your brother and other family members will ultimately see it that way as well. I think sometimes when families are in crisis like this, it is hard to see the correct paths to go since everything is so jumbled up. Best of luck to you and your family.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
10 Jun 07
i think this is the right decision, something that had i done sooner we may not be dealing with this right now...much thanks.
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@silvernutbar (904)
• United States
14 Jun 07
seriously, who honestly posts a referral link in the middle of a discussion like this, you should be ashamed of yourself, you, you, you person who lacks in testicular capacity! *grumbles to himself about the audacity of jerks and jack-a-ninny's*
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
16 Jun 07
Testicular capacity...that's great..lol. love ya baby.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
10 Jun 07
gosh. overdose of any kind of medicines isn't right. plus oxytocin isn't supposed to be taken just by anyone. it's for emergency cases in the hospital. i know your brother knew about this but he still took it. that's bad... not just bad for you and the family but bad for himself on the first place.
sad that you are threatened by your brother and mother about them not speaking to you if you do your decision. but i guess it's a good step to help your brother. it will sound difficult for him to accept at first but soon, he'll realize that you are doing this for his benefit, too.
i hope that one day, he'll not be angry to you anymore. instead, thank you for being a good sister to him.
... anne
@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
12 Jun 07
I also hope that one day he will be able to thank me. much thanks
@jayalaksmi (1039)
• India
8 May 08
I just can't know why your family is against you in this situation. YOu are just trying to help your brother but they are unable to analyse the situation and when they will know what you are going to do is right then they will love you and praise you for this. but you have to handle this situation very carefully.
@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
10 Jun 07
It is indeed a very tough situation
He is lucky he is still alive! So sorry to hear you have to go through this
But if he is addicted, the only solution is probably to keep him until he is strong enough to say "no"
he might end up being thankful, even if he can be mad at first
Your family is very unfair to you when you only want to help your brother ...
@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I sure hope he's thankful in the end. thanks
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@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
14 Jun 07
i think you are doing the right thing...no matter what your family thinks. Try not to let it bother you so much. Y9ou are doing what i best for him and if they don't see that, there is something wrong with them. He is a danger to himself. He may not intentionally have ODed, but he is stilla threat ot his own life...as well as others.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Thanks xfallenxlostx. I really hope it's the best thing for him.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
Persoanlly I say thank you for loving your brother enough to do something to help him. Unless your family is willing to take part in the intervention show on tv this is your brothers only hope. I up hold you in your decision. I marvel at your bravery! This takes great courage to stand up for your brother in this way. Now adays it is hard to find people who are willing to step up to the plate in this way. Many will tell you not to do it. That he has to make his own choices. I say; some people need rescuing!
@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Brandon is a very good person and I know in the end he will thank me. I went through the same situation myself, I hated the person that locked me up to detox but I am ever so grateful today, he saved my life. Thanks
@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
10 Jun 07
My dear friend I am so sorry to hear aboutthis extra stress that has be laid upon you! But I say congrats on doing the right thing! You are strong and maybe your family doesn't understand fully the danger your brother is in and that's why they are threating you. Stick with your gut and stand strong on what you believe. God Bless.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
12 Jun 07
Hi babyangie27. I know, right. Like I really need all this extra stress, I have enough already. I also have his daughter with me, she is 5. Poor child, she has been through so much, someone must show her some love.
Thank you so much, I will be strong for there is no other way to be. Take care.
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
I feel for you plight believe me it is hard to help someone who doesnt want to be help, my suggestion is give your folks a wake up call. Desperate times need desperate measures my dear. Tell them that its their attitude that is bringing him closer and closer to the grave and they must help you or leave you alone, in my opinion if your not part of the solution then you are part of the problem...Keep the faith my friend everything seem better in the morning...
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
13 Jun 07
How very nicely said nielcdg. Your completely correct, if only they could understand these things. Much thanks=)
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@Logos_1 (52)
• United States
11 Jun 07
I do not know what a mental hygiene warrent against your brother would involve. But, I know that you are highly concerned about your brother. That's what is going to get him out of his addictions. Be persistent in guiding him to come to his senses. Try to get to the bottom of his problems. May be he thinks that nobody cares about him and that is why is distroying his life. You are doing a marvelous service for caring so much as to be involved so seriously and selflessly for the betterment of your brother. We all support you and pray for you.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
12 Jun 07
thank you so much Logos_1. That really means alot to me. welcome to mylot=)
@dopey22girl (3319)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I think what you are doing is right. You are just doing what is best for him. Obviously he is a danger to himself, and you should definitely sign the warrant. Even if people are mad at you, they'll later be thanking you when he is alive and healthy. Don't let them change your mind!
