If you are in a long term relationship, and you are happy...

i've been in long term relationship too, but we're still really happy together. before, we used to be in huge roller coaster ride thing but now we know each other better, so we can kinda expect a lot from each other. we try to do random fun things together, and we still have good times!! less drama, more trust, more understanding...and it was possible because we went through a lot but still stuck to it. xquisite http://www.xquisite.us

I think in all relationships you go through highs and lows. The butterflies only last so long in the beginning and relationships are work, but good ones are worth it. I think people fall in and out of love, but if they want it enough, they hang on and everything always comes back around.

I guess 13 years is a long term relationship. Of course it has changed, in fact we just recently got married. And doing that, at least for me has actually changed the dynamics. I know that is real and I appreciate what he does for me. He did a lot before and I appreciated it, but now it is different, although nothing has really changed. To keep it going, well, we both really care and both of us are divorced, we know the pain of that. We hug every day, several times a day if we see each other long enough. WWe tell each other we love them. And we laugh, a lot, about many things. I think that is the key, we have a lot of inside jokes, and we try to keep them fresh by evolving and changing them a bit. We don't point fingers for blame, but try to find the cause of the problem when there is one and work on it.

Our relationship has definitely changed--for the better. At first we spent time together 24/7, and it got a little overwhelming. I think the most important key to keeping things great is that each of you has to have a life outside the relationship/marriage.

I think the reason we have been together 22 years is because we are soulmates. My husband will wake from a sound sleep in another state just when I am having problems (car, that is) and call to see what's up. We've had our ups and downs. It isn't exactly the same as when we first got together, but it doesn't feel like 22 years either! I think our love has matured and mellowed, like a fine cognac.

I was in a relationship for over 7 years and I thought it was going really well, we never fought towards the end. His parents never liked me so it always made it hard for us because I knew they would never accept me, so he finally left me because of his parents, but he tells me that he still loves me and things like that so it's really hard and I get so confused and it really makes me sad.

Knowing that I am not always right. Knowing that he is a man and has his limitations and not expecting too much of him. Keeping the fact that this is a life time committment in my mind when he aggrevates me so. Being the best person I can be so that the kids benefit and hubby does too. It is bound to help the relationship to be solid and happy is something I choose to be.

all it needs...is . LOVE,TIME and COMPROMISE..! Only LOVE, TIME and COMPROMISE. It sounds very easy but NO its not..! People always lack in one or two things from this..! some cannot compromise...some cannot give time..!! And some cannot love..! A long lasting relationship needs this ..!! LOVE, TIME and COMPROMISE.

it might be sad for me to admit that my marriage did not work out well. there are two people to a relationship. thus, no matter how much i tried to make it work, i never succeeded because, my husband never exerted any effort at doing his end of the marriage. he did not provide for the family well so i take the cudgels of being the family man. only to find upon reaching home late at night that he had done nothing at all at accomplishing the house chores and taking care of the children. after a few months of the set up going on like that, i gave up on our relationship. actually there is so much more, there is no way that the whole story will fit here just like that. it will use up some pages which you will find too much to read. perhaps it might help you to see the picture better if i'd tell you that the job i had was on field work managing road and bridge projects as a project and field engineer being a civil engineer myself.

There is an old saying that says physical aspects change but true love lasts. A realationship between young relationships will always be changing over the years as people grow and change.I guess that is why so many dont stay together because if one grows too far away the basis of the relationship may break. Growing together and accepting each other is important. Sometimes I have to think of the child/parent situation. When the child is young the parent knows nothing. When the child is adult he suddenly sees how smart the parent was. Another thing that ruins long term relationships is jealousy. Too many people are jealous and insecure. That wont work.

I think our love grew deeper and we feel the same and we will be celebrating our 25th anniversary in August. We can't seem to let go of each other.

My love for my husband has only grown stronger since we reunited two years ago. I absolutely love this man with every fiber of my being. He is in Iraq right now, and I sincerely feel that I am missing a part of me. Only he can fill that void in my heart. In our relationship, we get to know each other all over again after he comes back from deployments and we have to learn everything about each other over again. This keeps us on our toes and keeps it fresh, however I hate that he is gone all of the time. I live for p phone calls and emails. When he is home, we give each other space and patience and work at our differences and ultimately we have fun! Having fun together is very important. Enjoying each other's company and being friends is very important and people take it for granted in their day to day life.

Yes, we have been married for almost 20 years...we are very happy...most of the time and know each other well enough to know how to deal with each other the rest of the time....LOL No, it is not the same....as when we met......we feel a much deeper level of love and commitment....we know each other intimately and can talk about anything....we are comfortable with who we are together and apart....we share so much....a home, childen, grandchildren....we are soul mates..... Hope that this response makes sense, my friend.

i've been married for almost 9 years and what has worked for us is keeping the 'spice', communicating, which was very hard in the beginning and telling eachother we love each other. Our relationship has changed, but i think it's because we've grown along with it.

as based on my experience, to be with someone is a decision. I think in some other way, as time passes by it has changed in some ways. just different, sometimes it has its ups and downs. but it takes the two of you to be strong, come to terms, and make the relationship work no matter what trials you may encounter in your relationship. i used to think before, that if i get hurt, i just have to simply ran away because i'm scared to get hurt again but no it doesn't mean it that way, a friend of mine says, you lose when you do that. instead you have to fight for it, when you love someone that much! stick to him no matter what. that's what love according to me is now. :) and now to ran away.

At this present moment we are both very happy. Only yesterday we were reminiscing about how we met and the ups and downs we had gone through to get to where we are today. Our relationship has changed over the years and I think its gotten better. We respect each other more, we learn to deal with issues immediately instead of letting them manifest, we are communicating much better and our love for each other has grown stronger. Even having our son has taken us to another level.

I suppose we are happy. We have both changed as people since the relationship began and there ahve beenmany times when we have thought about calling it quits. But we are both too stubborn! LOL We make an effort to understand each other, and even if we disagree to support the other.