How do you stop falling out of love?
By tala91285
@tala91285 (1074)
Philippines
June 10, 2007 11:23am CST
Can it be avoided? You wake up one morning and realize that you're slowly falling out of love. You have a great relationship and yet you feel this way. Can you still save what you have or does this mean the start of the decline of your relationship?
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@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
for me you fall out of love because you find your partner not amusing as he/she was before. maybe also you are not contented with your partner. yes it is the start of the decline of your relationship.
if you heard or if you know the song of barry manilow's TRYING TO GET THAT FEELING AGAIN its about a guy falling out of love.
its uncontrolable but i think if this ever happen talk it over.... you can still might get the feeling again.
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@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
as they say love is sweeter the second time around
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@tala91285 (1074)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
Talking is a good idea. I think if you really love the person, the feeling of falling out love is just a test to prove that you and your partner can get through anything and everything... If a couple does get over this, I think it would make their relationship stronger than ever..
@neals1 (67)
• United States
10 Jun 07
In my humble opinion, I think that relationships are always changing...but...the best thing you can do is to really start looking at all the really good and wonderful things your partner means/does/is/brings to you. I don't know if this will work, but it may make you start to appreciate them and stop looking at everything that is wrong.
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@tala91285 (1074)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
I guess that's true.. Although I'm wondering if this is a normal thing that couples go through.. Looking at the good qualities of your partner may really help in getting you to fall in love again because those qualities might be the reason why you fell in love in the first place ^_^
@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
13 Jun 07
i really agree with you on that. if things still don't work out, then there's no stopping it.. but i think even when you are feeling like you're going to fall out of love, i believe that any relationship deserves your utmost effort to try and save it.
@joemccraken (1)
• United States
19 Mar 11
My opinion is that if you have ever been in love with someone then you can fall in love with them again. If it ever existed then it can again. Just believe that it will happen. Life is about choices, you choose who you want to be with, not anything else. Remember, they are your feelings, and you're in charge of them, not saying you should ignore them, but you should acknowledge them, and decide if they work for you or not.
@kawaii24 (520)
• Australia
11 Jun 07
it happens to me. my ex bf and I are entering our 3rd anniversary however, I fall out of love with him. you cannot stop it, it happens suddenly..I dont think there is any reason why you fall out of love nor is there any reasons why you fell in love in the first place. try to save it at first but if the situation worsens, its best to end it quickly just to be fair for both of you. :)
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@tala91285 (1074)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
Could the feeling of falling out of love be mistaken for being too comfortable with your partner? The love may not be the same as it was before, but you can't live without him/her in your life?
@FSCAries (881)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I think that relationships go through phases of highs and lows. I think if you truely love someone, you will always love them, it's just at times you may not feel so IN LOVE, but I think if they are the right person, it will always come back.
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@tala91285 (1074)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
It's natural to feel like you've fallen out of love? It would be nice if a person who has fallen out of love with his or her partner gets over it because of the actions of the latter. Should this matter be left to "fate" instead of acting on it?
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
19 Mar 11
I think that a lot of times, when a person feels as if they are falling out of love, it is actually that they are becoming more comfortable in the relationship. The excitement and newness has worn off, or is biginning to do so, and as a resuslt, the relationship begins to evolve. For some people, this is where the relationship ends because they have not learned how to evolve with the relationship. For others, they begin to build a future within the relationship and they become even closer as a result.
You can still have a lot of that excitement and romance at this point, it just takes a bit more work to accomplish. Because you have become so comfortable with each other, you have to make a conscious effort to make it more exciting.
@BlackMoonMoon (1)
• United States
22 Aug 11
I really appreciate this comments...I've been going through the exact same feelings as others in these posts, but the problem is that for me, it's happening after only 6 months with my boyfriend...and I wonder - if it's happening so soon, is that a sign that maybe there's not enough there to evolve? We're both in our late 30's and know what we want (a partner for a lifetime) and we were clear with each other on that from the start. So early on, it seemed like this was "it" - the real deal and we both started thinking about a marriage and a lifetime together. It became committed and serious pretty quickly...and for a short time, that felt right...but now I'm completely freaking out and wondering if he's "enough" for me. What if we do move in together or get married and I realize I'm not content and I'm not happy? So maybe I just need to ride out these fears and focus on his many wonderful qualities (no one has ever treated me as well as he does or aim to understand me as well)...i'm just scared that none of that will be enough...that some part of his core will feel lacking...but then, I think - he's actually someone of incredibly strong character under it all...and maybe at only 6 months, I don't fully see that yet.
but obviously I don't need to know today! It's just awful having this feeling. I want to feel deeper in love and I wish I could get there...I feel like I was only there for a VERY short time. Part of me wonders if I don't really know what real love is supposed to feel like - maybe I got too used to the desperate, more dramatic (and often unhealthy) love of my younger days - and with so much less drama now, I wonder if something is missing. This site was helpful though...
@neegee (1)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Wow! Everything everyone has said so far has really helped me. I started feeling today as if I'm falling out of love with my boyfriend. The thing is that I do love him. I care about him, I think about him and I and know that I see myself growing older with him as well. I fear falling out of love, but I'm beginning to believe relationships do evolve, and they go in cycles of highs and lows. I was single for sooooo long. I wondered if love was ever going to happen to me. I went from bad relationships to worse relationships. I finally feel like I met a nice guy. He really respects me, he loves me, he's caring and understanding. It's so hard to meet a nice guy who's emotionally available. I really want to thank everyone who posted comments on this. I started looking at all the qualities that made me fall for him in the first place and it helped. I wouldn't trade this for the old single days of partying and one-night-stands. I will try doing different things with him and help our relationship grow. The truth is we're getting ready to move our relationships to the next level, and was wondering if this was what I wanted. For a day I thought and thought about it. I started to miss all the one-night-stands. But the truth is that one-night-stands get tired and boring after a while. It's so empty. I'd much rather share my life with someone special. Thanks guys, you're all lifesavers. Hugs and love to all of you.
