What would you call him?
By TriciaW
@TriciaW (2441)
United States
June 11, 2007 8:24am CST
Ok I am back with my ex husband as many of you already know. We were divorced for 8 years and now we are back together (long story) We are planning on getting married again however haven't really set a date (I am the one dragging my feet on this one) Anyway.. when it comes to introductions it is hard because he is the father of my children but not my husband legally any more, boyfriend seems odd to say when he was once my husband and will be again. It just is a really hard thing for not only me to introduce him but other people I notice are unsure how to introduce us as well. Ok there are times where we like the shock on people's face when he says this is my ex wife. Yet it isn't always a funny thing and it is hard to do introductions. Even on here when I post I tend to call him my SO yet it doesn't feel right. So what should I call him???
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@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
11 Jun 07
You can introduce your ex as fiance or partner. You can call him with his first name or darling. I don't think you have to give full introduction to your friends and your friends will understand and pleased for you as long as you are both happy together again.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
11 Jun 07
well, people do get puzzled on situations like this. but it's just natural. and soon, they will not be on shock anymore. as expected, they should be happy for you two that after the long 8 years, you finally found each other again. not just found... but planned on getting married again.
life is full of surprises... you'll never know what you're gonna get and when you're gonna get it.
just be proud and happy about the story of your relationship. after all, happiness always counts no matter how people might think of you.
what you should call him? maybe, your ex and future husb? sounds cheezy. but people will easily get the whole story if that's how you introduce him to people... anne
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
11 Jun 07
This would be a hard one, but since u have decided to get married fiace would be a good word I guess.
Or just say that he is your partner or your darling =)
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
11 Jun 07
fiance is always the best word to describe such a situation. it's always the perfect inroduction for cases like this one. atleast, be confident and proud when introducing each other. that's what matters most.... anne
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Why not call him your partner? He is your partner in life. You are both working together to have a relationship with one another. If you call him your partner then you get less questions from everyone. I have been with my partner for over six years now. I never cared to call him my boyfriend because we mean more to each other then that. I have never called him my significant other because it never felt right for me. We have recently gotten engaged but I don't always like to refer to him as my fiancee because then everyone asks when are you getting married.
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@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
12 Jun 07
I would just call him my 'husband'. since you're back together again, then you can go back to being husband and wife to each other! who cares what it is legally?
Btw, I'm glad that you got back together. your kids must be thrilled!
@nitzel (79)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
You can call him whatever you're comfortable with. He is your ex-husband and future husband. One thing in common with this sentence is the word husband. It doesn't really matter if ex or future. What's important is that you love each other. Or you can just simply introduce him as the father of your children for the time-being.
@Akeela (2078)
• Trinidad And Tobago
11 Jun 07
Well sweet I can relate in a way, anyway just say this is so and so for the moment it will sound better and you might feel more comfortable but it you want to add a name this is my fiance for those who dont know that you were both married before.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
12 Jun 07
Wow!!!I feel so excited to read your discussion.Its kind of unbelievable but then a fantasy..Lol...I dont know what should i call you story...But i am so happy that after so many years,but then,you two are becoming one again.
This is not what happened to many people.If there is, then it should be few only.Why dont you call him your "real love"...And the father of your kids...
Because if he is not your real/true love, then, it should be happen this way...Congratulation's my friend.I just cant stop smilin now for your happiness and especially your your kids happiness...
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
First, my congratulations to you both TriciaW. Life indeed is unpredictable! You'll never know what will happen next. You can simply call him your husband, after all he was and will be that man again to you. And don't worry much on other people's thoughts because they're not gonna help you anyways. Or if you still feel awkward, introduce him with his name :)then after you remarry introduce him as your husband. Either way, you have to comfortable. Best wishes Tricia!
@Modestah (11177)
• United States
11 Jun 07
since I do not believe that civil divorce ends a valid marriage I would say (provided it was a valid marriage??) that he is still your husband, he has never ceased being your husband other than in the civil sense.
other than that, introduce him with his first name and when the kids refer to him as daddy people can come to their own conclusions.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
11 Jun 07
Well, this is kind of a fun problem to have. Introduce him as your fiance and let other people do all the 'figuring things out' themselves.
@ToriaT (102)
• Canada
12 Jun 07
I would like You to meet the most important Man in my life ...yes this lucky guy is soon to be my Husband..and smile ...if its an aquaintance there is no need for all the history or details of Your life...if it is someone close then they probably already know the details...its good advice to not sweat the small stuff...good luck second time around...
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