Charges Filed Against My Brother
By webeishere
@webeishere (36313)
United States
June 12, 2007 8:23pm CST
In refernece to a discussion started by me about my brothers fire experience....He has been bailed out by his daughter. He paid the bail out of his own pocket. So far the charges filed are as follows, arson, domestic disturbance, assault, and criminal damage to property. So far it's not that serious. But my niece did talk to the prosecuting attny and mentioned he did help help along the lines of treatment without his knowing this. So that's a good possibility. If these charges stick and no others are filed he may get treatment a fine and a few days only. It was just the arraignment and more or less can follow as the investigation moves along. There was talk of attempted murder for each and every resident in the building also. But that's just talk and I feel that would be hard to stick to yet alone prove. I am hoping he does get treatment even if it is mandatory. At least he may learn a little about how his abusing drugs and algohol affects others. I pray this helps move him toweards a better life anyhow. Thanks again all for bearing with me in this trying issue. All prayers court. But I will keep you informed if any serious charges are filed or when he gets sentenced. Thanks again for the permission to babble also. HAHAHA!
HAPPY POSTIMNGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
13 Jun 07
He certainly was not trying to kill anyone, except maybe his girlfriend. He just sounds like a two year old. He doesn't like something and so he pitches a real fit, acting out like mad.Full of drama. He certainly got some attention this way. How does he keep fooling all of these women? I would run like the dickens from someone like him. I would not rent to him either. I had a neighbor like that, I got so scared, I sold my house and moved. He torched someone's truck because he was not happy with the repair job they did on his truck. Scary people in this here world. I do hope he gets help, and pray that he does not kill anyone.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Well if you knew my brother he could have very easily tolf=d his GF he would kill her and anyone else in this building. It's the way my brother is. So if that's the case one doesn't know what charges can be added. I only hope whatever happens he straightens his life out somewhat. Thanks also. Its a strange thing about humans minds. The women who are attracted to him have left other relationships for the same reason. It's just a cycle that these men and women go through it seems. I've known a lot of battered women and they all came from numerous abusers in their lives.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Ambur25 (1006)
• United States
13 Jun 07
There's nothing wrong with a good babble! But, this, my friend, wasn't a babble. It was very heartfelt and justified. I hope and pray your brother gets the help he needs, and your family can go forward in life. I know first hand what it's like to have charges file against a close family member. Knowing they need help. And sometimes, they get that help in the strangest places. Best of luck to you all, and God bless. =)
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Problem is he doesnt want help so the treatment probly wont do any good. But we can hope for the best. I just hope toto hasnt taken him into her house again.
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
13 Jun 07
And sadly her kids will learn it from her unless she reaches rock bottom. Even then it may be too late.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Here ya go girl. Both of them are drunk in this photo. And yes Uncle Jim is living with ToTo for now. Unreal. She is as bad as he is. She learned it all from him though is the sad part.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM DADDY!!~
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@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Another chapter. Thanks for the update. I will keep your brother in my prayers along with you and the rest of your family.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 Jun 07
It is a relief that the charges are not so serious that he will be doing some serious hard time, but it is very good that he will be getting treatment regardless of whether it is mandatory or not. It might just kick him in the pants and get him moving in t he right direction there is always hope! Well, thanks for letting us know and again, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
13 Jun 07
First off more charges are always possible once they interview his girlfriend and anyone else that was with them at the time he started the fire. Secondly we hope he gets treatment. That was just mentioned by my niece to the courts as what she'd like to see happen. Thanks.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Oh! I misread what you wrote....my fault! I do hope he gets treatment, as you said, and I am glad your niece brought that up and requested it be considered. I am not all to familiar with the laws, but usually they will take it into consideration from what I have seen before. I truly hope they don't add more to the laundry list of charges. Well, I will keep you and your brother in my prayers.
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
13 Jun 07
If I was his daughter I would have left him there, even if it was his money. He is lucky they haven't charged him with attempted murder. Sounds like he needs a little jail time and mandatory treatment.
I know you worry about your son I hope this will serve as a wake up call for him.
I wish your family all the best
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I told her that myself. He is staying with he now too unfortunetly. But he is her father after all. But I asked if she allows his drinking and smoking while there. She doesn't thankfully. Was gonna add a photo but it says I've reached my limit. HAHAHA!! Figures huh? Won't be running around outside anyhow much to take photos then.HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
Your brother is lucky that he was allowed to bail out of his temporary freedom. This should serve as a wake up call for him. I wouldn't be able to tolerate seeing him going back to his old habit.
I'm crossing my fingers here hoping for the hope that your brother will finally come to his senses and willing to be reformed. It will take years I guess since he is really deep into this behavior for many years already. I will continue to pray for you and your family. All the best, grandpa.
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
13 Jun 07
I'm very sorry to hear about your brother, Grandpa Bob. I do hope he gets put into treatment because of this, and realizes how much he's hurting himself, and everyone else too. I read your first discussion about this, and was thinking of a response, when I saw this. As for battered women, I've known one in particular, and she still lets him have a hold on her, even though they're supposed to be separated. Hard to understand really, but that's another topic. I'll remember you and your family in my prayers. Take Care.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Thank you very much. THE CYCLE OF THE ABUSING WOMEN PART IS UNREAL AS THE WOMEN SEEM TO FLOCK TO HIM after leaving another abusive relationship. Every woman he has ever had has been abused by their past mates.I can't figure that out either.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@jessigirl116 (848)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I just got finished responding to your previous post on this issue. I'm glad your brother is getting off easy, comparativly speaking. It could have been a whole lot worse. He could've killed someone. But, I'm sure you know that and you don't need a total stranger to tell you what could've happened. I'm glad things are okay, and your brother will hopefully get a good lesson from this.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Thanks for reading them both in order. HAHAHAHA!! We don't know if he will get off easy as they can always add more charges etc. let's just hope for the best is all we can do at this point. Thanks again.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
13 Jun 07
Wow, well I hope that your brother gets the treatment that he needs. There is such a thing as tough love and maybe this will awaken him to the fact that he does have a problem. It must be very hard for you to sit by and watch this. I'll be praying.
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
13 Jun 07
You know you can always babble here and we are always ready to put you in our prayers. Life is tough and when these problems come along it feels so much worse. I'm sorry your family is going through all of this turmoil but they say God doesn't give us more than we can handle and I often wonder how true that is. Your definitely in my prayers tonight. Keep us informed!
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Well of course I can babble all I want. This is MY PAGE afterall. HAHAHAHA!!! It's true. I never feel like I have a problem. I always feel my Higher Power is throwing things my way to see what I can handle. So it's a test for sure and I've been passing many in my life it seems. HAHA!!! Thanks for the prayers also.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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13 Jun 07
Sure..
I hope it doesn't to serious, probably something needs to settle him down. Won't be good...
Lets hope it happens just settle him.
~Joey
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@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Wow. Your brother is in a haeap of $hit right now. Do you mnow WHY he torched the building? i mean, there has to be a reason... Does he just love fire? i mean...even if that is the case, why a building and not something that isn'tharmful to people? i dunno...i just don't understand it. i know you love your brother and i hope that this has taught him a lesson and he will never do it again.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
14 Jun 07
It was revolving around a domestic dispute with his girlfriend.
@creematee (2810)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I am glad that no one was hurt. That is the biggest relief. Like you, I hope this fiasco will help your brother learn how to take better care of himself. I'm keeping your family in our prayers. :)
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@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I don't think his daughter should of bailed him out so readily (but that's just my opinion) I feel that the longer he sat there and thought about just exactly it was he did maybe it would help him to decide that it is time for help. (As you know one can not benefit from treatment help until they are ready.)
I understand he paid the bail out of his own pocket, but he probably also needed outside help (from his daughter) to actually get the ball in motion?
I think the assault and domestic charges are VERY serious. I have known people to go to prison on those charges for at least a years time. They have treatment in prison. I hope that is where they put him to get the treatment he needs (this way he can't just walk out into freedom if he feels he wants to)
Like I said court ordered treatment usually doesn't work, One has to want it themself.
I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers Grandpa Bob.
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
14 Jun 07
My friend,
All in all, it sounds like it is going fairly well...yes, treatment would be a blessing for your brother and I pray that he will be willing to allow it to help him....
I know that this is a hard time for your family...All of you are in my thoughts and prayers...
