Do you have any regrets in life?
@hockeygal4ever (10021)
United States
June 13, 2007 3:11am CST
A discussion that I answered from Wizard made me think of this question.
I personally have one large regret and that was that I didn't take a young man into my home to become a part of our family when he needed it. He ended up having a waste of space mother who could care less about him. He used to practically live at my house until they moved and we sort of lost touch but he would stop by once in a while just to say hi. When he lost his father, Father's Day morning at 3am, he came knocking at my door crying and holding me. He loved every moment he spent with us and while we never have been "well to do" financially he always craved what we had in our home as a family... love, unconditional and real.
To this day I've regretted that I didn't step up and ask him to come live with us. I didn't ask him because I was fighting my own battles with cancer and could barely get by with the 3 kids of my own I had but I honestly think God would have provided for us. It pains me to hear about him now and know that his life has become so horrible. He's basically a street person and by this point in time has been through so much and seen so much that I think it would be a detriment to my own children to invite him into my home at this point. It's sort of like the opportunity was lost.
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@winky73 (1404)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I can't say that I do.I've been asked many times if I had any regrets about being married for 12 years just to have my marriage break up after all that time....but I can honestly say I don't.It may have been hard at times.....but if it wasn't for that I would not be where I am today.
There have been many missed oportunities in my life....but it deosn't do me no good to dwell on what I could have done.I rather focus on what I can do now.
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
16 Jun 07
I agree... what doesn't kill us makes us stronger! lol
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
14 Jun 07
Well i do have a lot of regrets but i learnt not to dwell in the past to much , i learnt my lesson and go forward for my future yea
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
I am always very surprised to hear that someone did not have regrets in their life. I find it just so hard to believe. Are they in denial? Do they not feel bad about some choices in their life that affected and hurt other people? So what they grew and learnt from it. Can't you grow and learn but still have regret that your choices affected someone else's life? I hear people say my mistakes made me the person I am today so how can I regret that. I say can you be proud of who you are today and still regret some mistakes in life especially when they affected other people? I just don't get why we can't grow and mature and be positive about our life and take responsibility for our actions and say yes I regret some things I have done in life. It is almost like saying if I admit I have regrets then it means I have failure but that is not true. Admitting we have regret is being man enough and woment enough to admit our humanity of being imperfect. It's okay, I have regret too!
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@carryli (875)
• China
14 Jun 07
yes,I did some jackasseries,and now i am refentant.I am a shame girl,i lost many chances to advance myself.I lost the opportunity to be a monitor,and lost the opportunity to take part in the contest which i have the capability to win.I also lost the opportunity to have a good job.I really rgret.I konw the reason is that i am cowardly,and now i also can not overcome the fault.
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@samson1967 (7414)
• India
13 Jun 07
So far, no regrets as I take the life as it comes. Everything happens for good.
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I'd be lieing if I said no- We all must regret something- I've got mostly small regrets-
I regret hurting my mom by calling her a pretty bad name one day when she wouldn't let me do what I wanted- She didn't speak to me for weeks and cried for about an hour- Dumb teenager!
I regret not having the backbone to tell my mom and dad in person that I was pregnant- I was 24- not married and got pregnant- I wrote them a letter- DUH-- Boy I've grown up alot since then-
I regret not telling my brother that I loved him before he left the last time he was home- He is Iraq now- I hugged him and could not stop crying! So I could not talk- I pray that he makes it home safe so I can say I love you and thank you!
I have more regrets but I think I listed enough!
@zaichn (319)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
yEP . Just like you, I have one regret in this stage of my life that I think I can never get over with for now. For years before, I have a friend who is a girl. We were classmates way back freshman year in high school. At the very first time I saw her, i already had a crush on her. Months passed and we got very close to each other. Tease each other, laugh, go together, just friends. But exactly on Valentines Day 2003, I suddenly felt like I was so light, so inlove. I fell in love with her. That was my very first time to feel that way to somebody. My initial reaction was, I gotta tell her. But that was IT. I told her immediately, like a few hours after I discovered that I already love her. Now, we dont talk to each other. She wont even reply to my text messages. Its like,even though how many years have passed and we never saw each other for about 2 years until last month.. Its still there. I still love her after four years. She was never mine. She was so immature to accept that I have feelings for her. Our friendship fell apart, that was the biggest regret of my life. Telling my best friend that I love her.. :( till now
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
13 Jun 07
Hello,hockeygal4ever,i have regrets in my life,when i was young,my mother asked me to go to the langage school,but I refused to go there at that time,it is not easy for me to learn now,that is why i am monolingual and i cannot speak my mother's language.
If i have chance,i will try to learn it later on.
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@Lucille7 (509)
• South Africa
13 Jun 07
I have no regrets thus far in my life and hope that I never will have.
I just want to say that you have come a long way in life and that you should not regret not having requested this young man to move in. However, you have remained his friend and can continue to. Your influence of strength and good will be felt even though he is not living in your home. Just keep trying to assist him and remember that your own family has to always come first. They are your priority.
Take care. Thanks for being such a wonderful inspiration.
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@Sherry12 (2472)
• United States
14 Jun 07
That is a sad story. But, it is very understandable why you couldn't have him come live with you when you had so much going on in your own life. And, your right with all it sounds like he's been through, it wouldn't be good for your children to be around him. And, you may not have been able to him anyway. Lots of kids have bad child hoods and still become productive adults.
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@canjo13317 (396)
• United States
13 Jun 07
i regret not having taken better care of my teeth. i live in constant agony but cannot afford to go to the dentist to have them taken care of. so i just grin and bear it.
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@pinkista (892)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
yes i do have. I quit attending schools for 4 yrs. I repeat my 3rd year high school twice and 4th year twice too. But the important is i'm back with my schooling and i'll give my best to finished my high school and take my desire course after graduating HS level.
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@unishwetabh (1031)
• India
8 Aug 07
Well i have a regret in my life and i say that its the biggest for me till now in my life.
I had one friend (girl) in my life who looked so sweet and cute.......well she is actually sweet and cute now also......we went to study together and our families knew each other and we were good friends. The problem was that she wanted to get along with me.....i mean she wanted to make some good relationship with me but i never saw us that way........i dont know what was there in my mind at that time but i said no to her. And today i see her with some other guy and it really hurts. I just lost her. Now we are just friends.
