You forgive your partner, but would you ever forgive the 'third person'??

I t depends. If the girl knew my husband was married, than she better move out of town, because she really doesn't want me to see her on the street. If she had no idea, than I would avoid her entirely, but not blame her. I would only forgive my hubby if it was a one time, accidental type thing. When I say accidental, I mean not planned out, spur of the moment, possibly drunk occurance. If he did it more than once or planned it in any way, than I could never forgive that.

I would certainly not hold anything against the third person, unless she had at some point specifically promised me not to get involved with my partner. I tend to think that way, only to hold people to promises they have actually made. In a cheating scenario, I would always blame my partner more than the other person, because he would be the one who broke a promise to me. If the other person were a close friend, I might have some kind of talk with them about the situation, and find out why things happened the way they did. But unless they were mean to me about the whole situation, I probably would just let it go.

I think it depends on the circumstances. Lets say that a man cheats with another woman, but he tells her that he is single, or lies by omission giving the impression he is available. In that case I don't think the third party did anything wrong at all and are just as much a victim as you are. If the third party acted this way knowingly, and, particularly if they were close to me I would not forgive them and I've seen it happen before and the friend will say something like "we've been best friends for more than 10 years - but he's hot". Unless it's deliberate as above I would forgive the third party before the partner as the third person may not have known, but the partner defintely knew they were in a relationship but cheated anyway.

surely it would be easier to forgive the third person? if your partner betrayed your relationship. the third person isn't the one at fault to much as your partner, surely?

I'll forgive the girl if my cheating boyfriend lied to her about being single. Half the time the 3rd person is mislead as well. I won't forgive a girl who knows he's not available and yet stick to him.

I have been cheated on then have mixed emotions as to act out or stay sane, FOrgiveness is the best but some times in a mental failure state of mind it could happen to be so affected by the betrayal many people go nuts. IT BEST TO HAVE SELF RESPECT AND INTEGRITY!!!

I would never forgive my boyfriend if he cheated on me, he would be straight out of the door and i would never talk to the third person again. I would wish the most horrible things on them both.. i'm just being honest! I'm not that good a person and i don't do forgiveness unless someone really deserves it. I've never been cheated on and i think that may be why? The guy would lose his most beloved body part. As i said, i'm not a good person.

I have forgave everyone and all and i mean if the girl did not know therefore she is not at fault and all i mean but if the girl is not to blame you know if she did know then hey you know that it was not meant to be and to learn from it in the future and all i mean i have learned i have held on that for so long and all i mean that it hurt my future so yes forget and forgvie it is not worht to stress over at all.

My husband has cheated on me and it was when he was over in Turkey for fifteen months. I couldn't go with him. He came home and told me he had been sleeping with a gal over there. I had a hard time to forgive him but eventually I did. I also forgave the women over there although she will never know I did. I forgave both of them because caring a grudge around hurts only one person and that is you.

I thik it depends on the situation. I do not forgive and will not forgive my partner if he cheated on me. Because i think that the whole trust issue is ruined here, and that is the important thing for me. Now, about the third side, if she was a friend that i know. And she did know that i was in a long relationship with that person, i would never forgive her, or be near her again. It says alote of her true personalitty. If it was someone that i do not know, i will not waste any time of thinking about her, why should i waste my energy on her?

I would forgive both of them.Because I don't want to involve myself into psychological torture.If I can forgive my partner,so cannot I forgive the third person? My ex-boyfriend betrayed me and the third person was my dormmate,but finally,I forgave both of them,because I realised that hate was harmful to all of us,and hate was unefficient for me to mend the relationship between me and my ex-boyfriend. Now,we broke up but I and my dormmate are still good friends,because I don't think I should demage the relationship betweem my dormmate and me.And moreover,I think that demaging the relationshiop between my friend and I just because of a man is very stupid.

It would depend on the situation and the circumstances. I might be able to forgive but as far as forget, I probably would not be able to so much. That's all I could say on that.

I have mixed feelings on this subject. I have been in a relationship where my ex husband cheated on me with a few different girls. I ended up forgiving him, and the girls that he cheated on me with. But forgiving him, I noticed he still went out and did it, I think its because he figured if he got away with it once, he could again. Now I do not think I would forgive someone who cheated on me. I wouldnt forgive them either. Mainly because of my past. If I thought it was the end of the cheating, maybe my thoughts would be different, but its hard to say if they will or not. Most people say "Once a cheater, Always a cheater". So I guess I woudlnt wnat ot take a chance of it happeneing again after cheating, might as well just let thme go and find someone who will be faithful.

You're right about forgiving the girls who were involved with your boyfriend. In the first place, you can't just blame either of them for cheating on you. Besides, that is good karma...to forgive and forget. Kudos to you girl! :)

It's a case to case basis. It depends on the situation. For me, i had been in a situation where my bf cheated. I really did hate her because I already gave up my boyfriend and still the "third party" tells things against me. My bf wants me back, but he just can't get through of the girl's obsession attitude. I had been into a relationship where I was the "third Party". I didn't intend to hurt the feelings of the girl or to destroy one's relationship. It's just that, the guy tell so many lies and pretentious. He flirts to everyone including me. When things became worse, i gave him up, too. I don't deserve a guy like that.I din't hate the girl, but i hate her boyfriend, who once became my boyfriend. I guess, forgiveness would only be given to those who are really so innocent and doesn't accuse you for doing this and that. Forgiveness comes from within our heart. Thus, deserved by people who's acts are forgotten.

You said it's not ENTIRELY the third person's fault - technically it's not their fault at all if they were never informed you existed. If they didn't know the guy they were with was with someone else then what they are doing, is ok coz they know no better. If they did know he was attached yet pursued it anyway, then no, i don't think they deserve forgiveness but there's no point in forgiving someone unless you plan on having contact with them :) So if they were a complete stranger to you, then i don't think it really matters either way!

actually,I can not forgive my boyfriend so I will not forgive the third person.when they do something,why they do not think about us,we are hurted most.I think they are not worth forgiving,of course,I will forget them forever.

Fortunately I have not been cheated by my husband. If one day it happens, I won't forgive him. I hate being cheated. It's impossible for me to forgive the girl. I hate people who involve in others' families. It's so wrong. I can not think out a reason to forgive her.

Come to think of it, i'm not really sure if I can forgive the other person. I just hate the feeling of being cheated and the best thing I can probably do for the third party is pray that that happened to me won't happen to her.

forgiveness is way of healing one's sufferings, recovering from the pains of the past and once more rebuilding self-trust. if you cheated, free yourself from the guilt. move on. if you were cheated, you're not a saint nor a statue, it's normal to keep grudges within you but be sure that when the proper time comes to let go, let the hurts be drifted away. else, it will consume you.