Am I a bad wife?
By Aurone
@Aurone (4755)
United States
June 13, 2007 1:46pm CST
For making my husband walk to school? It is less than a mile to the school where he is a graduate student. Our therapist said he needed more exercise to help with the chemicals in his brain. He doesn't exercise at all, he spends he day totally on the computer--like most grad students! Therefore the only exercise I can make him do is walk to school, so does this make me a bad wife? Should I drive him to school instead? (I went to the same school a couple of years ago and I walked there an back everyday).
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14 responses
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Jun 07
you just did the right thing aurone. you aren't making him walk to school because you are punishing him but because you want him to have some exercise which is needed for his health. you are just helping your husband. so, don't feel bad about it. you are a good wife and that's good for you and good for your husband... anne
@smacksman (6053)
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13 Jun 07
Presumably from what you say he thinks you should drive him?
Well in a way it is dangerous for children to be on the streets without mummy so he has a point.
Don't you have a school bus your way?
Please!!! Make the bugger walk for heavens sake. What on earth did you marry?
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
13 Jun 07
No, you are doing the right thing, he is getting exercise and you are saving money in gas and wear and tear on your car. Maybe is there is a raging storm or the temperature is 10 below, I might give a ride...other then that the foot-mobile is a great choice.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 Jun 07
No your not a bad wife at all. If the doctor says he needs the excercise and he refuses, then this is the only way to get it done. You are doing what you are supposed to be doing. Don't feel bad! I think that in the end he should thank you for being so tough on him, you must love him a great deal to do this, tough love is not easy by any means!
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Jun 07
yup. you're just doing what a wife who loves his husband is supposed to do... take care of his health as well. atleast you are proving to him that you care. so, just do what you are supposed to do. your husband will realize later that you are a great wife to him... anne
@youdontsay (3497)
• United States
16 Jun 07
You are his wife, not his mother. You are both adults, I take it, so he makes choices to do or not do as you ask.
A good wife will remind her husband of healthy behaviors if he wants healthy behaviors. If he is determined not to walk and you nag him about it, then the situation becomes unhealthy for the relationship.
I doubt very much that you can actually "make" him do much of anything he chooses not to do.
@lisagayle (393)
• United States
18 Jun 07
No, you are not a bad wife, he obviously needs the exercise. we walk for miles a day just for fun. it isn't going to hurt him one bit. My husband used to work less than a mile away from where we lived, and if it was bitterly cold, I would drive him, but most of the time he walked even in the snow and rain. And with the price of gasoline it would just be a waste of money for him not to walk.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I think you are a good wife for making him get the exercise that he needs. If you walked it and done fine with it,then I don't see what is wrong with him walking it. I used to walk to high school every day and it was about a mile so I know that it isn't that bad of a walk.
@HsuYinFung (161)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Obviously it's good for him to walk to school if he gets no exercise any other time. I would hope that he realizes that and does it on his own without his wife telling him what do to. If I were to walk or not would be my decision and not my wife's. I don't think you're a bad wife for strongly suggesting it but ultimately the decision is his.
@celestemichelle (429)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I think it's good to walk. Anytime I'm going somewhere about a mile or less away I usually walk.
If he is really against walking maybe you can give him a bike. He'd still get some exercise, but it wouldn't take quite as long to get to class.
I'd only drive him if it was raining or very cold out.
@gundamor (5)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
I think your being to nice on him. If he truly needs to exercise more you should keep pushing him into activities that will help him. Walking is a start but it shouldn't end there. Hopefully he appreciates your concern and care for him. Though being a man I know sometimes we ignore that fact for our own personal needs.
