Breaking up is hard to do?

I will say.... "Please let me find myself." thats everybody says right. But I guess he'she must accept the pain because there is no easy break up. Anybody will go through of the pain of breaking up. That's part of life. Anyway he must know later that the one who breaks up with them is not the right whom they are waiting.

I really don't know how to do it without hurting their feelings. They are going to be hurt no matter how you do it. I just got out of a 7 year relationship and it hurt both of us. Even though I don't feel the same way - there are still little things you miss. And dividing stuff is hard because of all the little memories attached. And then there is the matter of after that many years - you aren't just losing that person, but some family and friends as well. Just be honest about how you feel and try not to make a huge blow-out fight. Be sincere but don't list all the things the person ever did to wrong you or that you no longer like about them. That hurts them more. You will need to explain yourself a little - but be gentle - but firm. It's going to hurt... it's just a fact of life.

The problem with this is you will never be able to Not hurt the person when you're trying to tell them that you want to move on away from them. Unless they feel the same way too. Is there someone else you want to be involved with? If that's the case, then it will be alot more harder to break up. The best thing for you to do is just get it over with. If you stay with the person, you will only be losing the happiness that you long for. If you leave, you'll be able to live the way you want to and do what you want to. You're going to hurt the person no matter what you try to do, but the hurt will only last for a while. Sooner or later there will be someone else to fill the void. I hope you do what you need to do. Good Luck.

You're not going to be able to avoid hurting feelings here. It's that simple. If one wants to "move on," would it hurt the other person more if they were told and there was honesty, or if they stayed together and found out later it was mostly a lie? I feel the lie would hurt more. You must tell this person. You will know best where to tell them, first of all. If you feel the other will get upset and have a tantrum or become verbally or physically violent, a public place would be best (restaurant, etc.). If not, then do it in the privacy of home. The truth may hurt at the time, but as we get older and time goes on, we appreciate the truth more. You owe it to this person not to waste their time/life. You owe it to yourself as well. I know it's a cliche, but it's really true: honesty is the best policy.

I think many of us have all experienced what you said here.It's very painful both for you to make up your mind to tell the truth and for the one who should take it.Anyway,time will heal the wounds.So just do what you really want to ,and be faithful to your own heart.Good luck