do you quarrel with your lover when on the road?

China
June 13, 2007 9:47pm CST
you get very angry because of your lover when on the road,do you burst out quarrelling with him or her ,or you will try your best to control yourself ,after getting home and there are only you two,then you start to quarrel with him or her? I often see some couples quarrelling on the road loudly,and I just think it is not a good thing to both of them,because sometimes,some passer-by's watching can make you more impulsive and you can not stop quarrelling.do you think so?
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@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
its not a good thing...yah right.. but you know what, we quarrel with my boyfriend anywhere but not that loud.. we sometimes cry at the mall holding each others hand and looking straightforward while we talk of something only the two of us can understand...that may sound so eeiw for other people but for us thats the way we express our self... we do express anything we want to express on any where we want.. we dont see people passing on our side.. we only see the two of us.
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• China
14 Jun 07
hehe,maybe sometimes we are so angry that we can not control our temper,then we can only quarrel lowly.
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@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
thanks for marking it the best response.. thank you
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
14 Jun 07
no not usually,.. we never really quarrel. I might get mad about something, and say it, buy its never loud shouting arguing. i could count of my hand the amount of actual arguments we have been in, and weve been married 26 years now.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Jun 07
wow. 26 years of marriage and you haven't been arguing much. wow. you have a wonderful married life. a happy one, too. glad that you are in such a relationship. my boyfriend and i rarely argue, too. maybe because he has this huge patience on me. patience which i never tried to abuse. that's why we don't argue that much, too. and we hate to create such scenes in public. it's embarrassing to fight on the streets. not out way in solving problems... anne
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
14 Jun 07
i guess we are just not that into winning an argument! Life is too short to worry about being right and jealousy is just not a topic we have ever fought about. when you decide to spend your life with someone, i take that seriously, as does he. And he is a very PATIENT man!!!
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Jun 07
i have seen those couples arguing in public places, too. and i find them annoying. all attentions are into them. and still, they fight and even shout at each other. worst... they even hit each other in anger. i had an ex who is like that before. all i do is just to look at him and then whisper "can we talk about this at home?" and he stops talking. but he was still having his angry face with him. i hate looking at my ex's face! he's always angry and jealous. as if, i can't do anything right at all. i hate seeing myself doing some public scenes. arguments have a right place to deal with... anne
• China
15 Jun 07
this kind of person is very borthering,he did not take our feeling into consideration.
• Taiwan
15 Jun 07
yeah, one or two times, when i got very angry and flight on the road, he tried to want me clam down, don't be a mad, but i can't control my temper, then he can't stand it, then he don't ignore me, finially we laugh each other, we thought we act so stupid.
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• China
15 Jun 07
but you both calm down at last,do not you,haha!
@rb200406 (1824)
• India
17 Jun 07
Yes i have also seen many couples.It is such a bad thing to do.Just goes to show the impatient you are.You ought to slove the differences in your home not in public show.I don't do this at all.
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• China
18 Jun 07
I think so.every couple can have dispute,but they should solve it in their home.
• Hong Kong
14 Jun 07
No I won't verbally fight with anyone on the road, including my lover. If I am mad on the way, I would be completely silent. I don't think it's good to make a scene on the road, only if you are attention-seeking some other pass-by. I think it's not polite to other people too. They are on the streets, maybe enjoying themselves and why would they want to be in the middle of a fight? Also, it's really good to shout out loud all the personal stuff in front of strangers. I see many couples fight in the streets too, especially around those festivals, I find them really annoying indeed. So I wouldn't do it myself.
• China
14 Jun 07
actually when quarrelling,I often just keep quiet,I do not know what to say and I can not say anything.and in our society,there is a strange phenomenon that it seems people are very interested to see the quarrel,maybe they just take it as a movie arranged for them.so let us do not do that thing.
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• Hong Kong
14 Jun 07
Right, people are "too curious" sometimes and that's exactly why the reason I won't do that in public too! I don't want to satisfy people's need for a movie!
• United States
14 Jun 07
I have seen alot also arguing on the road it is not safe you should be watching the road i believe i am agreeing with you i think you should be at home and all and talk it out it is very hard depending on what is going on in the relationship if they get along and so forth and i mean i think everyone is different but i do not believe you should make a scene you should let go or wait till a private area things can happen and can result in regret.
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@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
14 Jun 07
My husband an I made a pact before we got married to never yell at each other in public, I think it is tacky and I dont think the whole world dosnt need to know our business, so we wait either untill we are alone at home or at least in the car.It has only happend maby 2 times in 6 years so its not really a problem for us.
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• China
14 Jun 07
hehe,I have to say it is a good pact,it can remind of you that you both should control,maybe after a while,you will calm down.
@shinjiao (1457)
• China
14 Jun 07
Hi,angela2006! I won't quarrel with my lover when on the road,instead,I will contro myself to be calm down.Quarreling with my lover when on the road is too shameful!And personally,I don't think I have to quarrel with him when on the road,because if I'm angry,I needn't to exaggerate my anger and let him know that I'm angry. If I'm angry,I will choose a more sober way to let him know that I'm not happy.But I don't thik quarrelling is a useful way of dealing with angry. What's more,quarreling with him when on the road is so rude.What's the purpose of it?Attracting people around you?Letting him know that this time I'm so angry and cannot stand with him?Or you just choose this way of releasing yourself?
• China
14 Jun 07
yes,I think it a shame too.I can endure others' strange eyes.so I will control and control.
• United States
14 Jun 07
My parents do this A LOT. Mostly my mom will pick on my dad, she'll say something about how much traffic there is and she suggested another route and then it'll all lead in from there. I also don't really understand this, it can't be good to be fighting while on the road because one easily can get in an accident being so distracting arguing. Definitely not very healthy or wise.
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• China
14 Jun 07
yes,it is not a good thing.my parents also quarrel so often when I am a child,but they quarrel at home only.and till now,they seldom quarrel.I think parent's quarrel has a very bad effect on us children.try your best to stop you parent's quarrel on the road,because it is very dangerous.
@jogie_bien (1103)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
no, i dont want to fighting on the street with my lover because many people will look at you and its not the good place to make argument.i prefer to do that at home, so were alone and we are not disturb other people.
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• China
14 Jun 07
you are so kind taht you care whether your quarrelling will disturb others.
@rangics (1334)
• Philippines
17 Jun 07
I always keep my mouth shut whenever like this situation occur. I try my best to not catch attention of the passers by. It's really awkward to ba caught fighting on the road or down the alleys or streets. ;(
@Aniakim (351)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Jun 07
yah i do. though i know that it's inappropriate, just sometimes though. when your angry and you can longer control it, you just explode and bam! must of the time i make it a point i don't make a scene, like , i tell him in a hush voice.
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• China
14 Jun 07
haha,without violence is a good thing actually.
@tracy1985 (654)
• China
14 Jun 07
Road is not a good place for quarrelling,to my opinion.you kown,there are so many people walking on the street,if you do that,they all get to be around you,and look at you.it is quite strange feeling,so many strnagers gaze at you. I think I will control my anger,and qurrel with her at home.then you can shout loudly and say anywords you like,even fight with her.hehe.....it is crazy.
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• China
15 Jun 07
actually,nowhere is a good place to quarrel,because I think it is better not to quarrel,haha,but sometimes quarrel is not avoided.
@nandans (1160)
• India
14 Jun 07
No, I maintain desency in public areas..
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
14 Jun 07
Never, i think this is bad maniers. If i am angry, i am usually silent or just prefer to come at home and then eventually to quarrel.
@larskie23 (866)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
yep, its not good to quarrel at road, lookers are all around, and its not even good for your relationship to shout at each other
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@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
18 Jun 07
Usually I will not quarrel with my lover on the road. When I am very angry, I will keep silent rather than yelling out. So perhaps I will leave angrily without saying anything. I think the cold fight is much more horrible than having a quarrel.
@nitzel (79)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
It's definitely not a good sight. I think they should wait until they get home or at any secluded or private place to sort things out.
• India
14 Jun 07
one side it is very bad if we are quarreling on the road side bcos we r educated person we knoe the all thing to each other no body know the relation what kind of buildup. We can shortout the all these isue sit together. Pls dont do it on the road.
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