Did you forget your manners.......
By dedicated_28
@dedicated_28 (1383)
United States
June 15, 2007 3:36am CST
Now if I remember my upbringing at all, I remember my mother taught me four things: 1) don't talk to strangers
2)don't talk with food in your mouth 3)always put on clean panties before you leave the house since you never know just what may happen 4) treat others how you would like to be treated. She taught me more than that of course but I distinctly remember these as being the
"big stuff" lessons. After asking a few friends they have agreed that this is common knowledge and the same things had been taught to them. So why is it that people claim to have learned these skills and later completely forget about them? I cannot begin to tell you how many people I have seen out in public being just as rude as they possibly can be...no manners..or any common courtesy towards their fellow man. Today after parking my car and walking down the street towards campus a woman passing me in a rush bumped into me and knocked my books to the ground and then has the audacity to say "watch it". How completely rude. It seems people are becoming even ruder by the day. Is it the weather? or maybe the economy? Perhaps we can just blame rude people with no manners on Global warming....it seems to be everyone's excuse for whatever ails them lately. Bottom line, why is it so completely hard to comprehend to be polite and treat others the way you would like to be treated? Open the door for someone if they have their hands full, hold the elevator for someone, pick something up for someone if you see them drop it, and if you bump into someone say 'sorry' not 'watch it'. I mean it's not like it's gonna cause you physical harm or kill you in any way. Really if someone could find one reason why these simple acts of kindness and humanity are a bad thing then I would love to hear. thanks for listening to my bi*ch session, i do feel better=)
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11 responses
@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
15 Jun 07
People don't care for others anymore. The was a time when community meant just that, caring for your fellow humans and the town you live in. Now we live in a world where "I only care about me" is the common statement. "I have to look out for number 1" " I am the single most important thing in my life" "I do what I have to to get by". It became real clear to me this was the way the world was when I had my first child and even more clear now that I am pregnant with my second. When I was pregnant with my first nobody held doors for me, I got eye rolls and rude comments if I asked for a hand out from the store after buying heavy items. Last week I asked a store employee to put a 40 LBS bag of dog food on my shopping cart because I am not to lift more then 20LBS and he rolled his eyes and said just do it yourself or are you to lazy? I told his manager and the manager said he shouldn't have said that but he really isn't there to do my shopping he is there to work in the store. The "I" is more important then the community and that is not how we are intended to be.
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@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
15 Jun 07
thank you.
I am not going to name the company but a good friends husband works for the same company and every time they come around to bonus time or raises the head office declares they are restructuring their pay system so those raises and bonuses will not be paid. If the head office is acting in a very irresponsible way how can they expect their employees to be any better.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
15 Jun 07
That is just plain ridiculous. To think that a manager would approve of such a thoughtless comment from an employee he should be supervising. I guess that says a whole lot about him as a manager..they both should be fired. I agree, we are not intended to be that way. congratulations on your upcoming new arrival, good luck. thanks so much=)
@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
15 Jun 07
How true. They must set a positive example to expect positive results and this applies to life in general.
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I dont know because there is no excuse for people to be so rude.That lady could have said excuse me and helped pick your books up.Some people take their anger out on others which isn't called for and then some are just darn selfish.Here in this neighborhood i live in when it gets hot people likes to pick fights and have arguments soI can say the heat does something for my neighborhood.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Trust me disvachic when I say I know exactly what you mean about warm weather and idiotic people. thanks so much=)
@portugirl (108)
• Singapore
15 Jun 07
It really irks me too when I encounter rude people. I don't know why it isn't natural for them to be nice or just plain polite to everyone? People are too much in a hurry to 'get on with life' these days they forget everything that should matter. What is the world coming to?
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@atif_shahzad1 (139)
• Pakistan
15 Jun 07
manners are good for every one to be followed but i think we forget them often. and some time they forget it in enthusisasm but better not t o forget them.
@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Hi atif_shahzad1. I agree, manners should be followed and not forgotten. welcome to mylot. thanks=)
@KevSera (44)
• United States
15 Jun 07
yEAH WOW!! I feel so bad for you but more for the people who have affected you my being rude and all that but keep your head up, Some people will walk around and do ill on to others because of their lack of self respect!. I say the hell wwith them and get over it later. Glad you got that of your chest and mind. I read to get these things out of my mind but whatever works works.
Peace
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Wow, I know, right. No need to feel bad for me dear, I refuse to let other people's all about me attitudes keep me down. I feel sorry for them and the miserable lives they must lead. I'm glad that you have found something that helps get things off your mind, we all have to have some sort of release , I usually just vent when i feel the need to get things off my chest so to speak. much thanks and have a great day=)
@silvernutbar (904)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Baby, I can understand why you would find fault with some folks for being rude I see it myself daily. I don't understand politeness and rudeness though, nor do I use it to guide my actions. I simply do what makes sense to me. I DO open doors, and held folks up, and apologize for bumping them. It's not a societal polite requirement so much as common sense for me to do such.
I'd of been more than happy to pick your books up, then slip my arm in yours and escort you to class my aly bear.
@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
15 Jun 07
aww...baby you can walk me to class anyday. what did u really mean by "held folks up" ? much thanks, love ya =)
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@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Most people do not think about things like that anymore because life to short to think about it.
@GardenGerty (160883)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Many people believe that the rules about life do not apply to them, only to other people. Yes, "I am sorry" does not take much to say, but does take some to mean. Chances are that if you were to have had any answer back for the person who bumped you, it could have elevated to a real fight. Believe it or not, the heat and humidity do contribute to people being rude and inconsiderate of others. I do not call it global warning, just seasonal problems.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Hi GardenGerty. There always seems to be those few people who think they are the exception to the rules and they dont apply for them. thanks=)
@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
16 Jun 07
Ya Dedicated, I still remember the priliminary lesson taught by my parents. These are useful even today. Thats why it is said that education starts from home only. School is second place for getting education. I was taught : 1) No to tell lie 2) Avoid friendship with such boys who is adicted of smoking etc. 3) Friendship should be with similar in age 4) Avoid making rich friend 5) Follow time table, I mean be punctual on everything 6) Always protest bad things. These are the few things which were taught by my parents and I even today find it helpful in my daily life. Thanks for starting such a nice topic.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
15 Jun 07
These days you have the type of people that can't do anything for someone else unless there is some kind of benefit in there for them. It is called the "ME" syndrome. I am not sure if it is contagious or not but I do however try to avoid anyone that has this condition. For the most part I run in to people who are polite. Yes, there are those few who are rude and inconsiderate but I try to kill them with sarcastic politeness. If someone was to bump me an say "watch it" then I would just reply " excuse me for being in your way."
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Yes I know many people with the "ME" syndrome. How pathetic they are. I'm sure that your sarcastic politeness just further irritates these already irritated people..lol. thanks so much=)
