Judge Your friends . ... how many true friends do you have ?
By sukumar794
@sukumar794 (5040)
Thiruvananthapuram, India
June 17, 2007 11:59am CST
In everyday life we gain new friendships ....but do all of them deserve the label of truly friendly bond. I doubt ,because new friends not having been tested as to the true nature of behavior are not at all trustworthy. They act and and behave as if they are your real friends ..but in times of dire necessities they would shirk away fro you in a wise manner . 'A friend in need is friend indeed ' --- Did you find anyone ?
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29 responses
@unishwetabh (1031)
• India
17 Jun 07
Everyone deserving the label of true friends..........nah!!.....it cant be possible.....different people in the world, so different kind of ideology they all have, and different kind of choices we all make. Its true that daily we make some new friends, knowing or unknowingly.....but still there are only a few who pass on to our list of best and true friends from the normal friends list. I have got only 2 best friends. They are not "only 2" actually they are equivalent to 100 friends of mine. I just want that the friendship of ours never break......and hope that all of your friends stay up together till the end of time.
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@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
18 Jun 07
Just 2 of them ..enough and more who would be of love and assistance to you in times of need . Thanks for the response.
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
17 Jun 07
I have two true friends, they are the ones that are always there for me. They are the ones that know my secrets as well as everything else. Most everyone else would be classified as an acquaintance. My personal life stays personal for the most part and thats the way I like it. It does take time and trials to build a true friendship, but once done it is a very rewarding bond.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
18 Jun 07
A true bond of friendship ..it's hard to obtain. You are lucky enough. LOL
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Hey s794,
First,I've always taken that saying " a friend in need is a friend indeed" as sarcasm to me it means they are your friend b/c they need something.
As for my life I have two true friends The Lord Jesus Christ & my man.
+'s 2 U
:D
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Out of all of my friends, there are only three that I would truly trust with my life. And these are friends that have stuck by me, and I by them, for the last several years. So they are definitely tried and true friendships. The people that "pretended" to be my friends are no longer in my life, specifically because they did just as you described...they acted as if they were my friends, but when times got tough they were nowhere to be found.
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@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
18 Jun 07
What you say is very true. Relationships of any kind, including friendship, have to stand the test of time to be proven to be true. During that time, things will happen that will prove if a friend is a true or fair weather friend. There is a saying that in times of trouble you really know who your real friends are and I believe that to be true. I can honestly say though that I've been duped over the years by one person who claimed to be my best friend. She turned out to be a complete and utter selfish liar. Now I choose my friends more carefully and keep them at a distance. I've been burned enough once to not want to have to live through that again.
@maya0531 (11)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
my closest buddies are some of my highschool friends. sometimes i wonder how we are able to keep our friendship getting stronger since we don't get to see and talk on a daily basis. maybe, it's the good foundation we've built and how we managed to be in touch with each other....
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I have several true friends, though they are long distance friends mainly. I have one true friend locally. True friends these days are hard to find as at least here people are superficial or materialistic. People do not seem to care that much about friendships as much as they used to do. I wish that I could find more true friends here locally.
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@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Yeah, I would say I had in the past but they are not around anymore. They live in a different state away from me and it is hard to keep that friendship going when they aren't near.
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@tsgirl01 (900)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Hi sukumar, well this is quite an interesting discussion. I personally have three REAL BEST FRIENDS! One is a man and the other two are women. These are people who have always been there for me, I have known all of them over 20 years! They are the kindest, most wonderful people I have ever been blessed with meeting. Thanks for the great discussion, take care...
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@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
19 Jun 07
Thanks very much for the response from your end . I've and I would say still find it really hard to find true friendly attachments whereby there is mutual help in times of need .
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
18 Jun 07
I have few good friends whom I can rely on. I am not in contact with all of them but I know that they are always there for me.
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@saierchok (1294)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I have discovered recently that I have only one good true friend.. and that all others were in a way fake and money seekers.. and it hurted me alot.
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@mrrtomatoe (800)
• Canada
18 Jun 07
A wise man once said you will never have more true friends than the number of fingers on you hand and in a way he is right. I have lots of friends but in terms of true friends its hard to decide because they would have to be like a brother to me and sometimes even if you think you know a person they can be much more different than you expect
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@ja_mes (4)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
yes..i found one...i've met him in the internet...i thought he is a true friend because at first he was very kind and as if he will stay long in my life. I've trusted him and even lend him a money but after he return it after a month he seems so cold. he didn't bother to text me anymore. i was thinking that he was an opportunist. i feel so sad because i treated him as one of my true friends but i just realized that he is not worth of my friendship.
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@friendship (2084)
• Canada
18 Jun 07
True friends are rare. We will know if somebody can be called as a true friend after knowing him/her for years and when we are in bad times.
Not all people whom we encountered in our life deserve to be called as a true friend. Some of them are just people whom we have to meet because of the situation. But it doesn't mean that they are true friends.
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
oh, i got three real friends.. we were friends since we're in nursery that was way back 1985... it's really great and am very thankful for having them as my friends.. though we seldom see each other, the friendship is still there no matter we are part from each other..
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@ChandraSS (28)
• India
18 Jun 07
Yes.. Tats tru.. frendship lasts with someone with whom we are for more days and we will then come to know if they are true or not.... But we cant believe any new frends so easily.. they might behave as they are so close to use within few days but their internal face might be different.. some might need frendship only for some help.. if help is over they will fly away.. so we have to feel the true frendship and then go forward... I have some tru frends who will do anything for the sake of me.. I am happy that god has gifted me such frends
@luckly888 (175)
• China
18 Jun 07
I have friends,they are named my friends,but i don't konw wether they are the true friends,maybe they are,or maybe not.
@hareshjsakariya (35)
• India
18 Jun 07
we have some and many more friends. come along with the way of life, so didn't mean that whatever you met should be your super friend. indeed when you knew something about them. coz friend is not just a mean to know somebody that you met in street on road, accidental meeting can't be a real friend. ya ofcourse there should be when you know more knowingly.
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