What part of "no" don't you understand?
By vega83
@vega83 (6342)
Bahrain
June 17, 2007 4:21pm CST
That's what I would like to ask some guys, who give all other guys a bad name...
The other day I was at the mall, and I thought I'd try out the Ps3 since some shops have the console with some games to try out, and I went to one shop that had the latest formula one game for the ps3, someone was already playing, so I waited my turn..
Then these two guys come to the shop, now they passed on some remark, I didn't get what it was, and I really hate it when guys do that.. it's just so dumb.. Anyway, I just ignored it, I don't really give a damn.. So, my turn came for the game, and I start the race, now it does take a little while to get used to the controls, I had thought that the car was set as automatic, when it was actually at manual, so I had a bit of a slow start because of that, and this jerk guy thinks that I'm asking for his opinion and he starts saying, oh, press that button, whatever... I said "dude, lay off, I know what I'm doing..." then he was like "no, it's the other controller" and he just wouldn't give me my space.. so I was like "what's your problem?", so he was just bugging me, so I said, why don't you just go first and get it overwith, I'll take my turn next. I wanted to kick him.. I don't think he even wanted to play the game, just bug me.. And at one point my sister who was with me, heard him say "girls can't play", I don't think I've hated anyone that much than at that moment...
So, anyway, after a while the power went off for the game, because these things are on timers, so that people aren't there the whole time, and they turn on like in fifteen minutes. So I left the shop, planning to come back later and try it out... I didn't want some dumb guy to spoil my ps3 experience..
And then this idiot had the nerve to actually follow us, and I'm not the kind of girl that gets intimidated, so I don't walk faster and I don't try to dodge, and just as i suspected he asks me if he could be my friend.. The nerve of this guy... I told him no thank you, and he's like can I have your number, and I said no. And this guy still didn't get the clue, he probably thinks I'm just playing hard to get, I was rude to him, he screwed my game, I said "no", how much more bluntly and clearly can I put it? He just wouldn't go away. Then finally I said, "do you want me to call security, because I will". You should've seen the color drain from his face then.. I mean I said 'no' the first time too, but it's only now that he actually hears it...
I was so annoyed.. I just wanted to punch that guy in the face. First off, he was rude with his anti-feminist remark, he totally screwed my game, and then he thinks I would ever wanna be his friend. I really don't like judging people over first impressions, but I made an exception, I hated him..
what a jerk..
Now I know most guys are not like that, but that guy just gives other guys a bad name...
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14 responses
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
18 Jun 07
Exactly, you are right. Most guys are not like that.:P
I think that kid was just real childish. Guy or girl - that is not factor for a good gamer.
Don't let it spoil your day.
@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
18 Jun 07
Yeah, he wasn't even there for the game, just to spoil mine.. It didn't spoil my day, I was laughing about it, as soon as he left, talking about how his face changed and he literally ran with his tail between his legs.. as soon as I mentioned "security"... ha ha..
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
18 Jun 07
Well, I don't appreciate that.. You know, the vague comments and whatever, I would have been nicer to him if he'd just come and said I like you, can I have your number.. I might not have said yes, but I would have been nicer.. I don't like this beating around the bush thing...and you know me.. If you come between me and my game.. that's just disaster..
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
18 Jun 07
He came just to try spoil yours? Might it be that he is trying to chase you? But it turned out to be a lousy bungled attempt...
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@tammyr (5946)
• Etowah, Tennessee
17 Jun 07
LOL Not laughing at you dear. there must be a lot of this going around. I found a site that will give you fake e-mail addresses and phone numbers and such for just this situation, Check it out!
http://www.rejectionhotline.com/
I haven't signed up or used it but I thinkit gives the caller a rejection comment when they call!LOL I would love to see the expression to Mr God's gift if he had called you at one of these numbers!
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@4ftfingers (1310)
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18 Jun 07
haha, here on radio1, which is a very popular national radio station, there is a drive-time dj who gives out this fake phone number for anyone to use when they meet someone who wants to take their number but doesn't really want to give it.
So for example, if I met a girl who wanted to take my number but I didn't like her I would give her this number instead.
And then if she left a funny or wierd messege, the dj plays it on the radio
its so funny some of the wierd messeges these strange people leave.
@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
18 Jun 07
Wow, tammy, I checked out this site, it is so awesome.. There's also rejection e-mail addresses and rejection cards with all the fake information too. I hope we had some of those numbers here too.. Anyway, really cool site..
But trust me, some guys actually give you a missed call on the mobile while you're there just to make sure it's your number...sneaky...
And fingers, wow, that radio station is so cool, and imagine the people who would hear themselves on it, after they've left some embarrassing message.. ha ha, it's so funny..
8D
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Gee, it sounds like your encounter with this guy was a lot more exciting than any video game. lol. Some guys just don't get it and think that they deserve anything they want. I think you handled it well. I hope you got a chance to try out the game at least.
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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17 Jun 07
I generally think the term "that guy just gives other guys a bad name" shouldn't be said but I see the point.
Why should someone else be judge by the way he acts? Fairly it gives himself a bad name and a bad reputation. I think you've hit the nail on the head here :)
~Joey
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
17 Jun 07
Yeah, I know what you mean, and I in no way meant that my judgment in guys has changed or has become negative in any way.
I did mention that by the end that I know not all guys are like that, he was just a class 'A' jerk..and I won't judge the whole male population by just that one idiot..
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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18 Jun 07
I know vega :)
Just pointing it out to other responders...
Kudos,
~Joey
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@rangics (1334)
• Philippines
17 Jun 07
He definitely have started you on the wrong foot. Sorry for him . He thinks he can please everybody with his charm sad to say it didn't work out on you. ;(
@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
18 Jun 07
Some guys just don't get it. I had a situation where I was at work when this guy pulled up and said "Hello beautiful, did the sun just come out or was that your smile." For one it was so hot out being mid-summer and I was hot, tired (12 hours in the sun), sun burnt and hungry. I turned to him and said, "I have been flagging for 5 years man and that is old news to me, I am not in the mood right now and I have a job to do so move on." He pulled away and parked his car down the street. After work the crew and I went for drinks at the local bar and he followed us. Several times he came over to talk to me and offered me drinks, 2 of the guys (got to love construction guys the protect us girls like we where their own family) ran him off. He followed me home that night and I had to go to a neighbors house to call the cops, I didn't want him to know where I lived and my neighbor was a biker so I know I was safe there. The cops ran him off that night. Some how he finally found out my name and number and stalked me for 3 years. Dude was freaky. I like you don't intimidate easy but he was a nut job. He even bought a truck just like mine that he would drive past me at work and yell things like mine is better.
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@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
19 Jun 07
My then boyfriend now husband and I moved to a different province for work and the stocker disapeared. We have just recently moved back to the same area this guy lives in and twice he has driven past the house but he hasn't done anything. The strange thing is he has become a trucker and my husband is also a trucker and was one when this guy started. The guy seems to echo everything about my life.
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@vampirestonez (1181)
• Pakistan
18 Jun 07
Well I know that would be a total turn off but to be honest I have girls who try that on me, but the approach is a bit different but it eventually leads to asking to be friends and exchanging telephone numbers.
I really don't know why people are so persistant even after they get a hint. Maybe you should make yourself loud and clear that you are not interested followed by " How can I be friend's with someone who can't understand English?" (one of my favourite liners)
Well if nothing works out then an expression of deep loathe works and if it does not then get then threat em with the guards.
Some people don't understand that friendships are formed and not forced upon.
@vampirestonez (1181)
• Pakistan
19 Jun 07
That is line of my life, by all means go ahead ;)
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@Dumpertaker (1187)
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19 Jun 07
I really hate these guys, because they give guys like myself a really bad name. I wouldn't even bug a lass if I fancied them (although saying that I doubt I'd have the courage to tell them anyways!) because the fact is it is just plain rude and out of order.
If it is the case of you want to try something, patience is a virtue and you will be rewarded if you wait.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
18 Jun 07
awwww man poor guy LOL just kidding! I think maybe he thought by interacting with you while playing the game, might of been a way to get to talking to you. I know it sounded rude his smart remarks but you know some guys, they don't know what to say sometimes and maybe he thought cause you were "hot" playing the game and you showed a lot of interest.
No offence vega but I think you were a bit too harsh but only because I thought you never gave the guy a chance - you put a wall up right in front of him and immediately thought he was a jerk just because he said "girls can't play". Nothing to get upset about I think because you should of stayed on the ps3 and proved him wrong! I would of and made it a fun experience instead of turning it into something negative BUT THAT'S JUST ME so no offence taken I hope.
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
18 Jun 07
Well the thing is I didn't start it, he didn't come to me with an intention to help and his approach was totally wrong, as I said first he passed on a weird cheap comment, even before I played the game.. I hate any passing comments, especially cheap ones.. Second he wasn't my type anyway, so I don't see why I should lead him on, especially because I was so repulsed by his personality.. And it's not what he said but how he said it, I didn't get upset or yell, I was just annoyed..and i did come back and play my game, because I don't have to prove anything to him... I just wanted to have fun myself...
Sometimes it's just one remark like that that can really show what a person is all about..
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Fair enough. Thanks for clarifying!
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@vokey9472 (1486)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Well, I am sorry that happened to you. You know who I blame for his behavior? His mother and father. They raised him and he learned a lot about how to treat people from them. I realize that he made his own decision that day, but we all learn how to treat others from our parents. I have a little boy and it would make me really sad to read something like this and wonder if it was MY son that treated someone that way.
I am trying really hard to raise my son to be polite and considerate. He is only 5 right now, but he already knows that when someone says NO that is it. You do not continue to pester that person. NO means NO. I am trying really hard to drive that point home with him. Not only for his own protection but so that he learns to respect the desires of other people too.
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@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
18 Jun 07
What an absoloute putz! I knew as soon as you were writing about how he wass trying to 'help' you and wouldn't give you space it was going to turn out that he was attracted to you. God, some guys really are just such idiots. Sory that happened, but he should have really gotten the clue way before you had to threaten to call security!
@porkpie182 (261)
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18 Jun 07
that sounds like a real jerk if i was in the mall i would of probally smakced him in the face , guys like that give all the good guys bad names all there bothered about is trying to get there leg over , you should of let him follow you walked towards the security and just said to them that this guy is stalking me how small would he of felt then lol , and hopefully he would of got in trouble. next time someone does something like that kick him between the legs you canit be to carefull lol
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@vega83 (6342)
• Bahrain
19 Jun 07
Well I didn't actually call security because if I can't handle something this small then I feel kinda weak, I like to do things myself, without any help.. plus I really wanted to punch and kick but I didn't because that would've just made a huge scene, and getting that kind of reaction out of me, would have somehow made him the winner. So I was calm and in control when I told him to shove off..
