My husband is a... grr
@djbizmonkey34 (633)
United States
June 17, 2007 8:58pm CST
Yeah, I'm not sure what I would call my husband right now. I just know it wouldn't be nice. So here is the situation. The past few weeks I've been "in the mood" if you know what I mean. Well whenever I have expressed my "in the mood" mood to him he always has excuses such as "I'm tired", "Not now I'm watching TV" or the classic "the guys will be here soon" So today I got so angry that I was like "I'm going to take a shower" So while my husband was sitting in the living room and after I took a shower I walked into the living room wearing nothing but a smile on my face. He looked at me and you know what he did... "Honey, can you get my a mt dew out of the fridge?" No whistles, no "wow you look great considering you gave birth two months ago" or a "wow" just a CAN YOU GET ME A MT DEW OUT OF THE FRIDGE? WHAT THE HECK!
And no.. I did not get him his Mt. Dew :)
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20 responses
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
18 Jun 07
once a man sees a woman give birth they see differently. they don't see you as a wife they see you as a mom and that can be a bad thing. your husband will come around. he could be thinking wowi don't want another baby any time soon and that makes babies! good luck he'll come around.
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@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
18 Jun 07
You are so right. It is a normal reaction after a birth. Your husband sees you as a mommy right now as ebsharer has said. It doesn't last long give him some time and yourself too. Trust me when he is ready you will be going through another phase they say it comes with post partum I say it is touch me and die time.*L* Not to worry though it all passes with time.
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@gloria777 (1674)
• India
18 Jun 07
Really an insensitive husband!! There are many stupid husbands like this. They don;t know how to romance or show their feelings.
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@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
18 Jun 07
Men can be so stupid and insensitive but after awhile it won't phase you so much. I just accept mine for what he is and when he actually has his romantic moods I am more impressed by him then ever. Then I can brag to my girlfriends about how romantic he is when he actually is.
@raja316ram (279)
• India
18 Jun 07
Threaten him that if he doesnt do anything, u would do with a neighbor.. ;) Atleast that way, he will be more careful here after..
@sahm35 (890)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I am sorry. I heard that men go through postpartum too. That intial high that many fathers experience after the birth of the child can give way to feelings of isolation and depression.
Depression in men typically takes on the form of wqnting to just be alone, seeking distractions in the form of watching tv or hobbies. They may become more aggresive, irritable or impatient.
Tell him that you know that he is doing such a good job as a father and that you really appreciate him. Put your clothes back on, get him his Mt. Dew and get some rest. He will be there to see you soon,
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
18 Jun 07
I know exactly how you feel, my husband does the same thing. I don't think he means anything by it. In fact, in his mind, he is doing nothing wrong. Maybe he isn't ready to do the deed since you just had a child. Some men have major issues with that.
@ozangel82 (753)
• Australia
19 Jun 07
Are you sure you have it the right way around?? Lol usually it is the guy begging and us women folk telling them where to go! I have not been in this situation so i'm not sure what the best course of action is! You would think that strutting out naked would do the job, but he sounds like a tough one! Maybe you need to get him in the mood first? Give him a nice dinner (not too much or he will say he is too full lol) then maybe a nice massage. If that still doesn't do the trick maybe chuck on a naughty movie? And if all else fails try waking him up in the middle of the night by doing unspeakable things, guys usually cant resist when they are half asleep lol! Good Luck!
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
18 Jun 07
Honestly, I would have done what some of the others suggested, and gotten his Mt Dew, making sure I shook it up good and proper before handing it to him LOL.
I'm sorry that he's being so insensitive right now. Some men do tend to go through phases such as this, especially after watching their loved one give birth.
Give it a little time, and if things don't change, maybe it's time to have a little word in his earhole.
@blackkatdreamer (1461)
• Canada
19 Jun 07
I would have gotten him a Mountain Dew, by throwing it at his head! Men can be sooo stupid
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
Wow, your husband must be frozen, just like the mountain dew in your fridge. Seriously this time, something is really wrong...you try to check it out, why he is acting like he is not interested in 'it' when you have expressed your being 'in the mood'. Is he, or ia he not? Do a little sleuthing yourself, and see what you can discover. Or better still, discuss this with him. Next time he initiates 'it' tell him that you too are not in the mood so that he'd understand how it feels to be rejected.....
@saierchok (1294)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I don't think he did anything wrong.. he miht be tired and needs some time of his own :P just an openion!
@Ploy1854 (59)
• Canada
24 Jun 07
I really understand your situation very well! Besides, I'm only 23 and never been pregnant before. He might think of me as a house keeper. haha He always hugs me and kisses me like a kid. Guess that I am not sexy for him at all :(. He is not a romantic type either. When I send him a sign...he always makes something funny out of it. Yea! What the heck! ( but I never said that to him ) lol
@bowtieguy (5915)
• United States
4 Sep 07
It sounds to me that either he has lost intrest in you or he is gay, I do not know of any man on earth including me who could resist such an offer, maybe his wires got crossed somewhere along the line, I am just very puzzled by this.
@tater03 (1765)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I wish I had the answer for you. I have been there a time or two. To be honest though usually my husband is game but there have been moments when he has flat out refused which makes me wonder what is up? Glad to hear you didn't get his Mt. Dew. I am sure this is just a temporary phase.
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Hmm... that seems like his response to your "I'm in the mood" mood.
That probably is his "I'm not in the mood" line.. heheh..
Hope he gets around and realizes your intention the next time you try to.
@mestr12 (226)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I've heard that men do get scared or lose it after their wives have given birth. Well, I'm just glad that you didn't give him his drink. I know it gets frustrating. If your hubby continues with his dense ways, better talk to him and tell him that you have needs too. Good luck!
@joejabow71 (18)
• Australia
18 Jun 07
hmmm well im glad u didnt get him that mt. dew.... haha i would hav gotten it but shaken it before givin it to him...
talk to ur husband some guys can be funny about doin it after a baby's born especially if they r there to c it come out!
