who must prevail in choosing a college course? parents or student?
By iiawak
@iiawak (50)
Philippines
June 17, 2007 11:14pm CST
choosing the right track on college is indeed a daunting task. one must go through the hallway of confusion in terms of choosing the appropriate course that would definitely fits his interest. for some reasons, a student tend to acknowledge the opinions of his support groups. Be it their friends, former teachers and of course, their parents. for most of the students, parents are the ones who sustain their school fees. aside from the financial aspect, their decision is mostly the ultimate turning point. if there's any difference between the decision of the two major parties concerned, i.e. parents and student itself, arguments and misunderstandings may arise.
for these reason, who should decide when it comes to choosing the college course for the student. his parents or the student himself?
4 responses
@strikingviper88 (50)
• India
18 Jun 07
I think the student should prevail, i am gonna be starting my 2nd year at college and i have seen till now that unless and until a student is happy and satisfied in his college and course, he cannot succeed, therefore a student shud prevail as the right course for you depends on your psyche and nobody is a better judge of himself than themselves..
@iiawak (50)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
thanks! that's a good argument! very relevant to actual experience. by the way, how would you explain that to your parents? what if they tell you that if you don't obey theirs, they would not fund your education? things like these happen in real life. what would you do?
@strikingviper88 (50)
• India
18 Jun 07
i kmow this happens a lot.. but this is where your diplomatic skills come in handy.. this is where you have to convince your parents that the stream you are choosing is the best for you and it is where you will most probably suceed..
but beware unless you have an iron las reason for taking a course you shud not do this...
meaning , if your are going somewhere cos most of your friends are going there then i think it is better to listen to parents..
another thing, though they might be bit hard on you.. they are your parents after all .. if you have made up your mind then your parents will support you in the end..(a bit of emotional blackmail always helps)
if all this fails then there are other ways to fund your education...if you truly believe in what you are doing.. go for it.. but beware this is not a path for the weak hearted..
take my case .. i had twop options while joining ollege..one of them was where the oppurtunities as a whole were better , but the other was a field where i knew i could sudcced and i wanted to go into that stream.. my parents were initially against it.. but in the end they saw that what i was saying was right and they totally supported my decision.. as a result i am noe much more happier than i would have been..
@iiawak (50)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
hitmen, thanks for posting! :) just a thought: there are instances that the student tends to be immature in decision-making... sometimes, if not being told, some of them seem to be lenient in making a choice which ultimately ends up in greater education-related problems.
@vonn1378 (706)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
In choosing college course I reckon that the student itself should be the one to decide because he or she would know her likes and capabilities. Though in some cases the parents would not agree or want to choose for their childrens course. But the students should know how to stand in what course he or she wants to. Students would explain to their parents why he/she choose that course. I'm sure parents would support whatever it is as long as she/he would explain her/his side..
@saierchok (1294)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Actually your question raises a more important question,
how much do you believe in your families choices and how much do they know you and your abilities.
the answer to that, I think, would solve one's choice prob..
