I want my bed back!!!!

oh Zuri first of all good luck with the move! These things get into a routine so quickly but take a lot of hard work and consistency - been there and done that! lol` The only way I know to do this is to speak to Emilia about it - at 3 they can understand a lot more than we sometimes think, and reassure her that Mom is still there for her but she is a big girl now and has to sleep in her own bed, tell her how special her new bed is and that lots of little girls would love one just like it. Then comes the really hard work - if she comes into bed with you you have to put her back in her own bed and stay consistent, one slip up and you are straight back to square one! I have had to do this myself and am at the stage now that if my 5 yr old is unwell she sleeps beside me so I can keep an eye on her and still have some rest, we can even have occasional mornings in bed snuggling in together but she knows that she has to sleep in her own bed! I wish you luck, xxxxx

I don't think that you made a mistake by letting your daughter sleep with you, and I understand that as she's getting older you want her to feel a bit more independent. I do the same thing with my kids(7 & 4). They both slept with us then I made the lengthy transition to bed in room. Then bed in hall by our door. Then bed in hall by their door to bed in their room by age 2 cause that worked for us. Now that my husband is deployed I wake to find one or both of them in bed with me. I take them back to their own bed. I try giving them a special "snuffie" -that's what they call their snuggle bear. or they each have a special blankie. You can give back rubs or stay until she falls asleep. You could also try reading a story along the lines of bedtimes like "How Do Dinosaurs Go to Sleep" "Penelope Says Goodnit" "Sleep Tight Little Mouse". They go over the getting ready rituals and the little mouse book covers places to fall asleep. As you know it's gonna take patience and time. Good luck to you and your family. Have a safe move!

not sure nothing wrong letting ur kid sleep with u u should just get a bigger bed

My son and I still share a family bed, sometimes my nephew and sister too (it's a bigass bed). But then again, we were raised sleeping in everyone's bed until we hit about 8 or 9. I'm allowing my son to stay in my bed as long as he needs to, as long as it doesn't go past 4 or 5. He's a big boy though, so I'm going to need a bigger bed soon. He'll sleep in his own bed in the same room sometimes if it's too hot to snuggle or if I'm sick. Have you tried having her sleep in a little bed adjoining your own? Or you could sleep right next to her until she gets comfortable with it. We ended up having to do that with my littlest brother. He was having a hard time transitioning. Blessed Be and Good Luck

Okay, you should give her like a reward for sleeping on her own like say a back rub and what not. As she gets older it will wear off but you have to make it less of a big deal as she gets older, even after the first week, basically until she's used to sleeping alone. how about that?

I say stick with what your doing, don't let her come in your bed. You deserve your own privacy now and you should stand up for that. You could kind've scare her saying that the boogie monster comes to your bed every night but she might be too old or that might b to mean. Anyways good luck.

I know how you feel, I did the same thing with my daughter. But, my husband couldn't take it anymore and he made me train her to sleep on her own bed. It took her 3 full days to gave in and sleep on her own bed. What we did was we put her on her crib and let her cry for thirty minutes, then go in and comfort her and do it all over again. Do that until she gets used to her bed and you'll have your own bed in no time at all. You just got to be brave and not give in because she's going to be fine. She will cry alot but it won't hurt her. You have to be strong if you're going to make it work for everyone.

I have never had a problem with this and with my first few children didn't allow them to sleep with me but with my last two ( who are much younger as there is a big age gap ) , I do allow to sleep with me . I have heard other mothers complain about how hard it is to get them to sleep in their own bed but haven't had to deal with this yet . If it becomes to much of a problem maybe you could try to ease her out of this by even putting her toddler bed in your room and having her sleep in her own bed until she is comoftable and then try and move her bed and give her something to sleep with such as a teddy bear or something to replace the fact that she is sleeping with you . I am not sure if this will work but it might be worth giving it a try . Best of luck !!

I'm really lucky with my little one. He doesn't want to sleep with us. I've tried to get him to lay down in our bed before, but he just pops right back up and bugs the dogs. The only time he ever really slept with us was when he was a newborn and I was nursing him. He had a bassinet in our room, and sometimes I would go to sleep while he was still eating and he would stay in our bed from one feeding to the next. By the time he was about 4 months old, he didn't want any part of sleeping in our bed anymore, though. He just likes to wiggle around and lay on his belly to sleep. I don't really know what to suggest to help your daughter. My oldest niece had a hard time sleeping in her room for a while, too. I don't think they really got it taken care of until they moved her little sister into her room. She was just lonely sleeping by herself I guess.

My younger daughter, who is 6 years old, still has trouble sleeping in her own bed. We made the same mistake, also, of letting her sleep with us. She is at the point now, where if she does fall asleep in our bed, I can put her in her bed and she will stay there the rest of the night. And most nights now, she is good about going in her own bed at bedtime. I've told her that she's a big kid now, and big kids don't sleep with their parents. My older daughter, who is 7, sleeps with us once in a great while, but, she is content to just sleep in her own bed.

My solution comes from watching Supernanny. There was a little girl who would wail and whine everytime she was asked to sleep in her own room. Her mum and dad just had to take turns to keep putting her back in her own bed, and this happened many many times throughout the night cos the little gal was way persistant! Hopefully with you, some 'grown-up' manner talking to her that she's a big girl now and perhaps some new wall decals or making her bed and her room really lovely to be in will help. all the best!

New house, new bedroom. . .new rules! I would say, make a HUGE deal about her getting her own "big girl" room. If you are able, let her pick a color to paint it or let her help decorate it (even if you may not like the colors she picks!). What about getting her a really cool night light? I also don't see any problem with giving her small rewards for staying in her room all night. If she has a "I DID IT!" chart, that might help, too. Good Luck!!

Thats the same situation with my on the way 3 years old son, me and my husbands nightmare...i always watch super nanny (Do you?) well anyway, and there one of many episode there that you have to do in cases like this. everytime they went or move to our bed, bring them back to there bed and carry on until they get the message...hardship? indeed, but pays a lot if you really want to claim your bed back do this way.

Hey zuri! I'm in the same boat as you are as well. My 3 year old son sleeps with me on the bed too. He's been sleeping with me since birth and now he just doesn't seem to want to sleep anywhere else. I've tried letting him sleep with my mom, but come dawn, he'll be climbing back in bed with me. My husband wants to get a toddler bed in the shape of a race car because his nephew started sleeping on his own when he had a bed he really liked, but there's simply no room for that at the moment.. Anyways, I'm sorry to be of no help at all.. but i wish you all the best on your move and your child. :)

I respect your wishes to get your bed back, but don't feel so bad about letting her sleep in your bed in the first place. Many parents find co-sleeping to be a logical choice for their families. Children sleep better & feel more secure sleeping near their parents and parents sleep better knowing their child is close by. If you decide not to push getting her into her own bed now, most children naturally want privacy & their own space sometime between the ages of 4 and 6.

I've had two previous children co-sleep with me from the day they were born until they were about 2 years old. I currently have my newest baby sleeping with me also. It's hard to break them of the habit once they get used to it, but it can be done. I used to wait until my daughter fell asleep in my bed and then moved her to her own. She would occassionally wake up and end up right back in my bed, but I just kept moving her. Eventually she started staying asleep and has been in her own bed for a year now. No matter what you do to make the adjustment it will probably be hard at first. Just pick a way to get her into her own bed, stick with that way and be patient. You'll eventually get her into her own bed. Good luck!

I dont understand why Americans want their children to be put in seperate room. I know that Americans give high prefrence for indivudialism and freedom, but then when you have children of such tender age how can you let them sleep all night in a seperate room. This is the basic reason why there is a high perecentage of fear in amercian children. I know that you have to make love to your partner but atleast after that, i feel one has to accompany their children atleast till they are 5 or 6. This is only my opinion and i'm sorry if i had sounded rude.

I can't say anything regarding this mother because we have different opinion.My husband and I never mind if my son will sleep with us until he wants to get his own room. He is our only child, and I would still prefer being beside my son instead of my husband. And I can't sleep without my baby. And my baby can't sleep without me too...I don't know how long it would take to be fed out by this arrangement. And we're planning to have a new baby, I guess, instead of letting my son to sleep alone, I'll just talk to my husband to sleep on the floor.

What worked in my case no one has mentioned, and I'm not sure you can still get them, but my daughter had a bed tent. She was in her own little world in there all safe and secure. I might have seen one in the Ikea catalog. But if all else fails you can hang a sheet from a hook in the ceiling. It might help her want to stay in a room all alone. I know it helped my "problem" child. Good luck. If nothing else works go sleep in her bed!