Friends that stab you in your back..

Everyone has them and they eventually learn their lesson. You can only burn so many bridges before you are an island. I recently got backstabbed by a "friend" and now she is short on money until Friday ... amazing ... I got phone calls, text messages and voice mails from her but ignored them all. Either you are a friend all the time or not at all.

There are friends and acquaintances. You label a person friend only after testing. It is a long process. It is the acquaintances, the so called friends , that cause us trouble. It is all in the game of life.

I don't have friends that stab me in the back, first of all I am very choosy of the friends I make, just because I know somebody doesn't he or she is my friend.

I don't think anyone is exempted from having to meet back fighter friends at some point in their life. They are like a mushroom that keep sprouting everywhere and I detested it. I don't have much time talking back on anyone much less minding their business. I can't see the sense of doing it. Why not just stay sincere and stick our nose to where it belong.

Well i do have to admit, that those kind of friends that you described, i had in a very early age. No i do not have them. And i do know that no friend of mine would act like you described. And if they would do so, i will not call them friends, or be in contact with them. In my early years i had one friend like that, and i just went to her and told her how much i pitty her, because she really does not have any chance in regaining my trust in her, and i do not want her near me. I think that i do know how to recognize certain types of people, and i do know that my relationship with my best friends are of trust and helping. If i recognize this person, i just do not come near him or her, and if they try to be my friend, i tell them that i am sorry, but this is not going to work, because i saw how they talk about others, and i do not want them near me.

they're not really friends. they're just figures with heads on their shoulders and walk. whenever they talk, they should not be taken seriously, they should be avoided at all cost, but if they can't be avoided in some instance, you can make friendly gestures but do not go in-depth as these people can't be trusted. they will suck on your energy until you are drained, they will only use you to their advantage and trample on you when you're down. identify these people, have a clear categorization of who your real friends are apart form those who are fake and pretending to be. accept that in this world, there are more figures like these and only few can be named friends, but once you identify them, you'll find gold.

True friendship, you know the sort the platignum type are very hard to find, there are so many fairweathered friends out there and so called friends getting one up on you, I choose my friends very very carefully and in the beginning they are just acquaintances but once I begin to trust them then they are firm friends, it only takes one episode where they stab me in the back and I'm like too stubborn to forgive them, trouble is I am inclined to bear grudges

There are still great friends to be had. It just takes a little longer to find them. They don't happen over night. It takes a while for solid friendships to fully develope since it takes several life situations to test a true friendship. Many will say they want to be friends because they only want to use you in some way. In time, you will see their motives and then you can decide if it is worth having them as friends. And in some cases, it takes a real long time for a solid friendship to blossom.

this winds me up people who do this as it is proper annoying. anyone who does this to us are obviously not true friends

I agree which is why I myself have about 2 or 3 friends, becuse I have high expectations on friendship, and if someone doesnt have the qualities I find good of a friend, then no longer call them a friend. It may seem harsh, but like I always say, "a backstabber only has power if your back is turned." =)

my x friend is so up her self she thinks she is the person that can stab you in the back. i hate her

I remember this one in school that has made to really treat everyone these days suspiciously. This was someone i trusted completely and absolutely and I thought was really my friend. But alas I was i totally wrong. I was really stabbed really deeply in the back and since then i think I find it a bit difficult to make friends or to totally trust anyone.

I'm sure everyone had friends who back-stab, but sometimes not everyone would want to talk about it. Let's face it, it's quite an unhappy chapter in your life and the best things you want to do it to forget about it like as if it never happened. Mine called me "her best friend ever" to my face, but it wasn't so behind my back. She told lies about me to everyone and anyone she knew and also to her boyfriend. The worst thing is that I don't talk much, hence people tend to view me as aloof, quiet or maybe stuck-up. And this is the worst kind of situation that puts you in the mercy of people who call you a "best friend". If you think back-stabbing is bad, why don't you meet my "ex" best friend. There was this time in school, somebody stole her stuff (if you've been to Singapore, I'm sure you must have heard of this model by the name of Colleen Francisca Pereira, if I got her full name correctly, she was the one who stole my best friend's stuff) and to top the cherry on the cake, it got so bad that she called me a "Thieving S1ut!" in school during morning assembly, right in front of the whole school. Seriously, what "best friends" I had...

i know this girl who haves a friend and this friend hogs her phone and one time this girl chose the other persons side instead of the other girls

Yep, I guess time changed and now you just can't trust alot of people anymore. I had a friend that was like that and the moment I found who she really was, I never talked to her again. I don't make friends much anymore because of little things like that.

I have met a friend lately who is ultra fake! I couldn't believe it how nice she is in front of her so called friends and as soon as when they turn their backs on her she starts to back fight at them and say negative stuffs to me. I couldn't believe it! However, at least I know now how fake she is. She could also be the same to me. Now, I am so careful every thing I say something to her.

I think this starts within the family, because I have friends since our childhood and I never had any feeling like that in a way. Maybe because I don't expect too much from them, or anything at all. But what bothers me are those of which I've met along the way, who seemed to be playing along. I treated them as real friends, as that was what i pressumed they were to me. But they were just acting as if they really are kind, seem to be sincere and in good intentions, but will definitely leave you during rough times. I recently met someone, of whom I thought that person was what I thought she was. But left me in the midst of nothingness, because of the negatives thoughts that she has in mind..

Yup, joey. I do not like the ones who are so bitterly sweet to you and yet when your not around they talk about you. or maybe even plot against you in some sway. These are not friends. I tend to stay away from people like that. I do have good friends :)

I helped a "friend" move, got injured in the process and didn't share it because I didn't want to hurt her feelings - isn't that what friends do? I couldn't get to work the next Monday as I was in unbearable pain and had to go to the ER from that injury. I almost got fired by my "friend" for that and then told regardless of the reason I was not allowed to take any more time off from work ever again. And this while I still had 3 out of 5 sick days (used 2 for that injury) and went to work in a brace, using crutches and driving a compact that literally caused tears with the pain of being unable to keep my leg straightend for 75 mile one way commute. I also overheard her on the telephone not long after speaking to an ex-love I had about me and it wasn't flattering, to say the least. The ex-love was someone I had believed an honorable, valuable man worth knowing and here years later still tampering with my life and with someone I had once believed a friend. I can make poor choices when it comes to picking my friends. Now I stick only with the tried and true ones I've had for years. People I may like and enjoy being around at work are not worthy to call friends as she taught me well.