How should you love?

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There was a time in my life that I bacame afraid to fall-in-love. Because everytime I fell in love, I get hurt.I would give my all, loving deeply and wholeheartedly. I became too emotional. Then somehow things would go wrong and my whole world would crush. Disappointment, resentment, anger, pain. Why? Can we not love without feeling the pain? Is it really the price we have to pay for all the happiness we feel when we are in love? Should we just accept that because we are in love we risk getting hurt? It was only after many months of soul serching and reading inspirational writings that I realized we can love without getting hurt. Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe. It is the fire that burns inside, the essence of being. Love is the source of all our comfort and contentment. It is the precious gift that defines our purpose in life. If we keep in mind that we can indeed preserve its true meaning, we can love to the fullest and be happy the rest of our lives. How do you express love? Accept that other people expresses love differently. If you can do this then you will have a healthier prespective of your relationship. Derive happiness from giving love. How? When you love, do it because you want to. There is an indiscribable joy in loving. Just give it and cherish satisfaction in having given someone something of yourself. It is like giving a gift, whether it is appreciated or not, find joy in simply giving. Love without expecting anything in return. Co'z when you demand in return for something you've given, this is where pain comes in. You are setting yourself up for disappointment because love cannot always be reciprocated. Love between two people can never be of the same intensity at the same time at the same place. No matter how much your partner loves you, he or she will never be able to fill all your needs all the time. And you will be in worse situation if you believe you should love only when you are sure to receive equal love in return. You will be waiting in misery forever. Love now. The past is gone and the future is just a dream. All of yesterda's aches and pains, as well as the love and laughter are mere memories. Let them go. Fantasies and worries are for a future that may never come. Don't dwell on them. Live now and give love now! that is the secret of genuine contentment. Throw away those destructive habits. When you insist upon yourself that you always have to be in control, that you always have to be right, that others must always please you, you put yourself in a very tight spot. Loving relationships are flexible, dynamic and evolving. Leave room for change and interaction. Allow for new behavior and learning experiences. When we welcome this into our lives, we open ourselves to sharing more love and affection and less frustration and pain. Yes, you will say that unconditional love is easier said than done. I agree! Especially when we have always believe that love is give and take. But try believing that love is simply giving. And you will be surprised that a lot of it, even more, actually comes back to you. In life, love is never planned nor does happen for a reason. But when the love is real, it becomes your plan for life and your reason for living.