dcounselor279

@dcounselor279 (32)

Philippines • Age 57

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[ help and advice needed ] what topic to choose for my thesis ?

nagikka @nagikka (407) • Italy 13 Oct 09

Hello, I'm writing this discussion because I need some serious help therefore ALL opinions are welcome and appreciated. I need to start working on my thesis for University and I still have a lot of time to go, however the...

litterature for children and kids

thesis for university

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dcounselor279 nagikka, try the following: 1. Simplicity 2. Childhood 3. How to cope with emergency 4. Being alone

16 Oct 09

How can someone you love hurt you so bad? I feel so bad.....

dloveli @dloveli (4366) • United States 15 Oct 09

I dont know what my man was thinking. The past few days he's done nothing but raise his voice at me or act as if I bother me. I love him so much but I dont know if I like the way I'm feeling right now. I havent done anything that...

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dcounselor279 dloveli, I understand your situation right now. I suggest that you give space for him to breathe and think for himself, meanwhile take your own time to evaluate your feelings towards him. It is not good if you always think that you are the one to be blame,...

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A married man asked me as his friend, do you think is it appropriate?

Betty Deng @bettydeng5 (1822) • China 7 Oct 09

Today, a man added my QQ, and said hello to me, then he asked me much things, we got a good chat. He told me that he was so lonely, and he said he need friends, because his wife can't understand his feeling, he worked very hard...

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dcounselor279 Hi Bettydeng5, As a pastoral counselor I suggest that you have to set your limits or bounderies considering that this person is married. You have to know the do's and don'ts or the extent of friendship. You can extend help thru listening and sharing ideas...

8 Oct 09

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"I Deleted You as a Friend" she wrote

cynthiann @cynthiann (18602) • Jamaica 14 Sep 09

I spent my lunchtime going through my friend's section and emailed some people that I have not heard of for a while. Just asking how they were etc and that I missed them not posting on Mylot. I received a response from a former...

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dcounselor279 Yes lots of time but that was before I became a pastoral counselor. Since I attended lots of counselling seminars and that I learned from them that a counselor should not gave advices specially if it is unsolicited. Being a pastoral counsellor, I often...

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How would you handle this?

SanDslnrs @SanDslnrs (268) • United States 23 Nov 07

I have a friend, who is about 15 years younger than me. We worked together and kept in touch after she found a new job. Anyhow, I had split up with my husband and she helped me move out, during this time, I stayed with her a...

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dcounselor279 SanDslnrs, If your consience is clear and pure then you dont have to be defensive. Besides, she will not accept whatever explanation you have. She already close her mind and just on focus with her own issue that you don't know. You might get into deep trouble...

23 Nov 07

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how to tell someone that he or she smells bad?

izathewzia @izathewzia (5134) • Philippines 6 Oct 07

In our lives, we do encounter people that really smells bad. But the thing is, we are the ones who feels shy in telling them. And the least we can do for them, is be patient with their presence. Even we feel like fainting because...

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dcounselor279 Well izathewzia, I already been to this situation twice. The first one was the girlfriend of my brother. At first I told my brother if he is aware of it and he says yes but he does not know how to tell her that she won't get hurt. So, my brother asked me to be...

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today is my birthday, suggest me a good thing to do

manish243236 @manish243236 (591) • India 7 Oct 07

As today is my 21st birthday, i would like to get suggestions from u guyz to do something good on this day. So please advice me any nice things u know....thank u

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dcounselor279 Happy Birthday! You want something different? Celebrate your birthday with the poor. Do charity work or feed those malnourish children. In this way you can have a diffenet kind of birthday celebration plus you will glorify God in doing corporal works of...

8 Oct 07

How long? How Old? And intro.

katiedarling @katiedarling (2) • United States 13 Sep 07

I'm the newly single mother of a ten-month-old son. My ex and I actually broke up in July of last year, but we lived together until I got my apartment just last month. How about you? How long have you been single? How old are...

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dcounselor279 I've been a single mom for seven years now. my eldest is already 20 years old and my youngest is 15 years old.

20 Sep 07

Do you believed that someone can be so in-love with a person from the internet?

dcounselor279 @dcounselor279 (32) • Philippines 30 Jul 07

Well I had a friend who had a "cyber boyfriend". The guy invite her to join his circle of friends in the internet. She accepted the invitation and they become good friends. The guy is very good in poetry and he makes the girl...

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My son's been taking a nap for 3 1/2 hours? I'm worried!!

Amstardam @Amstardam (1348) • United States 8 Jul 07

My son NEVER takes a nap for longer than 2 hours. It's rare that he'll even sleep an hour for a nap. I put him down about 1:30pm and around 2 I heard him stir but he fell back asleep. It's now 5pm and he's not awake. I've checked...

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dcounselor279 try to wake him up and let him drink water

9 Jul 07

antidepressant

decent07 @decent07 (232) • India 30 Jun 07

can any one tell me about the side effect of anti depressant its good but i want to know abot the precaution i shouid take during this treatment

anti depressant

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dcounselor279 well we all know that synthetic drugs comes with side effect. once you took it it will cure the target but do damage other parts of the body. What I can advise you is to know the root cause of your depression and work it out from it. I believe that depression...

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Is it hard to "LOVE AGAIN"?

butterfly39 @butterfly39 (3904) • Philippines 3 Jul 07

How long would you have another relationship after breaking up with somebody whom you think you really love. Was it weeks, months and years? Me...? Before I met my husband It was 1 year and 3 months, to say yes to my husband.

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dcounselor279 well as a counselor, my advice is let the wound be healed first before you enter another relationship so that you will not be jeopardising the other person's feeling. and you are ready to accept the other person as who he/she is and what he/she can do to make...

4 Jul 07

What makes for a succesful marriage?

jnallen_487 @jnallen_487 (800) • United States 3 Jul 07

A recent survey by the Pew Research Center has found that people think that sharing household chores, faithfulness, and income are some of the things that make a successful marriage. Having children was ranked very low on that...

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dcounselor279 my answer is just 1 word, LOVE! Why? Cause you can do all things from a-z out of love. Love is the strongest foundation to all relationship. If both of you love each other with the same intensity then I can say that you can stay together and and have a...

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Anybody Plz Suggest Me!

sonone @sonone (267) • India 19 Jun 07

Hey All MyLottians. I'm watching a girl who walks with me to my office since 10 days!. But Till now I haven't talked to her! Plz give me suggesstions how to start over. Thanx in advance! -Nikky

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dcounselor279 Hey Sonone, whats up? what happen to the girl that you use to see every morning?

25 Jun 07

What is LOVE anyway?

jershey @jershey (71) • Philippines 23 Jun 07

When we claim that we are in love with someone... are we correct?? what is love anyway?? :)

what is love

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dcounselor279 Well,according to the bible - 1 Cor 13:4-13 Love is patient and kind never jealous nor conceited never haugthy or selfish or rude Love does not demand its own way it is not irritable nor touchy it does not hold grudes and wil hardly even notice when...

25 Jun 07

wat is the best way to maintain a relationship?

baby88 @baby88 (696) • Singapore 20 Jun 07

it seem different ppl have different thinking on how to maintain a good relationship so what is your's? for me i think giving ur partner some trust to them n freedom is the best way to maintain good relationship so how do you...

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dcounselor279 I want to share some tips to you: 1. Be realistic - don't try to turn or mold your partner into something he is not. Give your partner a break, beside if you really love him you will accept him as he is. 2. Always talk thing out - Don't make assuptions...

22 Jun 07

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How do you feel to speak to your ex?

jade1986 @jade1986 (563) • India 21 Jun 07

Can you and your ex ever be friends...? Or would you keep the brunts and grudges forever, especially if he/she had ditched you? If such has not happened in your life, then just imagine, some one had ditched you and after 1 year of...

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dcounselor279 Well as for me I see no problem to that. Talking through experience, my ex-husband and I have been separated for 7 years now due to annulment. Actually when I was in the mids of deserning whether to file an annulment or not I first undergo the process of...

21 Jun 07