A married man asked me as his friend, do you think is it appropriate?

Hi, Betty! Making friends is not wrong, but you have to be very careful be it online or offline. Some people would say anything bad about their wives or husbands just to get attention. You have to know his real intentions are, if it is just a simple friend request, you can still cut him off once he crosses the line. However, when you said that he wants to make 'good' friends with other girls, that probably means he already has planned to have online affairs with other girls. It's not going to help the relationship between him and his wife, but things will get worse if his wife finds out what he is doing. Let him settle his problems with his wife the right way.

it depends on your judgement.if he only just wants to make friends,why not.if it is not that simple,refuse it.

HI betty! The great writer Shakespear has said - "Nothing is good or bad, thinking make it so". It is entirely upto you whether you want to befriend the person, irrespective of his maritial status. If you feel that his married status could cause a hinderance in nurturing 'friendship', you may not take the next step and may severe the relations with him.

betty I think you know the answer yourself, when he said his wife doesn't understand him and he wants to make good friend with other girls he is looking for a wife replacement. I would have nothing to do with this as his wife is probably a fine woman and he is just another womanizer out to use other girls to add notches to his'belt so get rid of this jerk. the phrase his wife can't understand his feeling should tell you he is up to no good. run do not walk away from this idiot as fast as you can. you want single men' friends Betty not a headache like this jerk of a man.

it's obviously not.

Hello I would make it clear that friendship is all you have to offer, if he shys away then you know his intentions were not what he made them out to be, make it really clear friends only and no best friends, just someone he can talk with every now and then. Thank you.

Personally, I do feel it is allright if both of you are just friends and remain as friends. It is good to have these 4 types of friends - one who is married, one who is divorced, one who is rich and one who is poor. There could be many more categories of friends, but these 4 are the ones who emcompasses the various personalities of humans. No harm having one more friend and one less enemy.

Hi Bettydeng5, As a pastoral counselor I suggest that you have to set your limits or bounderies considering that this person is married. You have to know the do's and don'ts or the extent of friendship. You can extend help thru listening and sharing ideas and suggestions thru this site, phone conversation or chat site. Avoid personal meetings or physical exposure for this can lead to misinterpretation. Remember: The end does not justifies the means. Even if your purpose is good but your execution or ways is in appropriate it will not solve the problem instead it will worsen it. Hope that my suggestions helps you to think more clearly.

Personally, I think he would be better off talking about things with his wife. Then again, he says that she does not understand. It's hard to say, really. I would be guarded in accepting this friendship and take care to make sure it stays within the "friend" boundaries. One thing that stood out to me in your story is that you said he "wants to make good friends with other girls". He specified girls which kind of makes me wonder. I suppose it may be harmless. If not, you could always delete him I guess. Just don't give him any of your personal info. ok? Let us know how this turns out.

So married people aren't allowed to have friends?? If you keep it decent then why would it be inappropriate to make friends with him?

hi bettydeng, Yes are know it is up to you,justify the thing and do accordingly,you have not a child ,you can decide your self,friendships are common all these days,one girl with two or more boy friends and one man with two or more girl friends,all is left to you,all the best?

He has already told you he is lonely and his wife doesnot understand him so are you sure all he was to be if friends. You need to decide for yourself if you want to be his friend. Do you want to get involved even as a friend knowing that his wife and he are having problems?

hello bettydeng5, It looks like you were judging him already there. i think it ain't bad having friends with him if he really do needs a company, unless he invites to place you're not comfortable with. but if he only wants to talked then do it, just talk and share plain things that most people have in common

Hi Betty! I agree with jacobsguardian. This guy sounds dangerous to me. I have no problem with male friends, but he has already evidenced that he wants more than just friendship. He's having problems with his wife, he is lonely, he is looking specifically for female friends. He may not be dangerous physically, but mentally and emotionally you are in for a hard road with this one. Politely decline and protect your heart.

I think there's no problem with having clean friendship with a married man. You just have to promise that it's just friendship not something else. If so, then I think you should go building good friendship with him.

Hi there mylotter friend,It's depending on your wishes, to be your friend or else. If you feel doubt bout this relationship, so leave it. If you just be friend with him, as long you in the right line, it does not matter at all. Happy mylotting :)

friendship can be offered to anyone as long as u know the intentions. just make it a point that u know ur limits and not being an emotional punching bag. ü

I think it is appropriate to be friend to a married man as long as you set your limitations. Maybe he need a friend to talk to and need some of your advice. Just entertain and set your limit being a friend.

I've been exactly where you are. Ask yourself this question......If you were married, how would you feel about your husband "making new girl friends" and online when you already have relationship problems and then discussing them with someone else you don't know? If you don't care....well then there's no problem. but if you don't think you would like it.....then don't be that "other" girl.

Unfortunately you are getting one side of the story. Do you know the wife or even talk to her? How do you know that he isn't a ladies man and this is his normal thing. I guess the question is, is the wife going to find you as a threat and are you going to ever find yourself in an awkward situation with this guy? Weigh out the pros and cons and proceed from there.