How can someone you love hurt you so bad? I feel so bad.....

The next time you ask him whats wrong...and he yells "nothing!"...respond to him by saying in a somewhat loud and very firm voice "THEN STOP SNAPPING AT ME! I DONT LIKE IT" and walk away...

i really dont like quarrel between the couples. but if it only happens sometimes, maybe i'll keep silence and then find the reason. but if it often happens, maybe to keep away will be better. because when love does not exist any more, why stay together? keep tolerance do the best.

If my man treated me like that I would not love him, I would leave him!!! By taking his crap, you are only enabling him to act that way. Are you really going to lose anything good if you lose him? Speak up, for goodness sake!!! If my man trated me like that, I spoke up, said I deserved more respect than that, and he couldn't see it, and walked out, I'd be better off in my life without him. I can't love someone who does not respect me.

No I do not think it is out "place" to suck up to anyone especially a male partner. He is not superior to me or have the right to "dump" on me. He is not my lord and master and I should be treated as an equal if he does not respect my rights then IMO he should be dumped!

i think you should both talk if the things get colder. Maybe he is having a hard time over his personal problem. Speak out with him when you think he is okay. My father treats my mother like that. My mother answered him with a shout back. And then it will lead to fight. I think it is best to talk it about when the environment for both of you is ok.

dloveli, I understand your situation right now. I suggest that you give space for him to breathe and think for himself, meanwhile take your own time to evaluate your feelings towards him. It is not good if you always think that you are the one to be blame, remember "it takes two to tango". In every relationship there is always a give-and-take cycle if this is not happening then something is wrong with your relationship. Don't ever forget that you are a human being who has dignity and right to be respected. Learn to love yourself first before you expect love from other people.

well i guess the reason he can hurt you so bad is because you love him so much. otherwise, you wouldn't get hurt by what he does if you didnt love him. i myself is in a relationship that is going sour or has gone sour. me and my hubby have loads of problems and most of them are financial in nature. but lately it has gotten to us both. we are hotheaded most of the times and we dont seem to see eye to eye anymore. we end up fingthing over even the smallest of things. there is no doubt that i do love him and i know that he loves me too. but i guess there really does come a point when we need time off to ourselves to think and evaluate things and straighten out our priorities. he now is back living with his mother while my son and I stay at our house. we have decided to give each other some space to think. it hurts us both and i know it also hurts our son because he misses his dad a lot. but i think it would be better for him to miss his dad than to see his parents fighting a lot. i honestly dont know if our love for each other will be able to surpass all the problems and challenges that we are facing. i can do nothing but to hope and pray that somehow someway we will be able to find a way to make our marriage work. for our family's sake.

Only those can hurt us whom we love because from other peoples we dont expect anything and if they dont do it dosent hurt us. Whom we love we expect from them to love us and care for us in return but when they dont do such things it hurts us. I want to say just one thing dont expect from other, it is our expectations which hurts us. In your case maybe he is suffering from from some emotional problem and he dont want to share it with you and then when you ask him again and again this irritates him and he relies in some odd manner. Let him pass through this phase and after that you can inquire about this situation quite politely.

I would tell him you aren't there to be dumped on and he can treat you with respect or he can get out. My boyfriend is frequently rude to me for no particular reason. I have told him before if he is not happy he can leave. He was acting all irritated tonight and I told him I was sick of his rudeness and I wanted him to stop. If he doesn't, I am definitely going to get rid of him. I've done too much for him to be treated badly.

The bible states, "A soft answer turneth away wrath". That quote is in the Old English dialect, which my spell check doesn't like. That advice usually works. There are also a few other things you might. Try to get him to a doctor for a check-up. I know that when my husband does not feel well, he will say that nothing is wrong, but he'll act like a bear with a sore tail someone stepped on. Also, you might try to gently pry out how things are going at work. If necessary, discretely talk to some his work buddies. This can be tricky. You don't want either your husband or his buddies to get the wrong idea. Hang in there, girl. It should get better.

ok from a man point veiw he's being a jerk you dont deserve any of that. no matter if something is bothering him or not. i wouldnt stay with anyone who treats you that bad. bet he calls you names as well ?

If it's just nothing then why would he be like that in the first place? There might be something wrong that he's not ready to talk about, or maybe he expects you to figure out the problem by yourself. People are like that sometimes. They expect you to be sensitive enough to know what is bothering them. I, myself, am guilty of this. I sometimes get annoyed at my boyfriend and I don't tell him what's wrong because I want to see him get concerned and figure out all by himself what's wrong. But after that I try to be calmer so that when we finally talk about our problem I would not shout at him or curse him. Maybe you should wait until he is ready to open up or until he gets a little bit calmer because if you talk now with his mood like this, you might just end up hating each other. But only you can tell when enough is enough, so just listen to the voice inside you and follow whatever would make you happy.

all you have to do is ask the one question our you cheating and that's why your mad at me ? or is there problems with the money if he pays the bills he may be stress out men our funny creature but i am a frim beliver that they have p.m.s. they just won't tell ya

well i guess you and your man should talk. don't let the day pass without making your problem or what is it all about that hadn't been fixed. be strong. maybe it is just one of the trials about your relationship and every person in this world also experienced what you are experiencing now, just be strong and stay calm. everything will be fine. don't worry.

me I would usually ask whats wrong once and if he was huffy I wulod get huffy right back. No not your place to get dumped on. I getting huffy dont work wait a few days just act happy and maybe it wil blow over then you will find out what is wrong with him.

Oh, I definitely feel bad for you, I have been in that predicament before and we're not mind readers, we want to communicate but it seems someone is so distant when we used to have no problems talking to them in the past. Perhaps he just needs a breather. Try to analyze things but don't force him to voice out his sentiments. I am reading the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" because of a fight with my partner a few nights ago. I'd hope you could search for that book because it opens a light somewhere in relationships. It says there that when stressed or pressured or angry, man don't really go like us and talk about it. They tend to hide in their caves and is trying to fix the problem without telling anyone. Perhaps that man is just having a difficult time and you going on and on asking him about it just making it worst. It also says there that the best gift a woman could give to a man is to keep silent. The book helped me a lot and I'm hoping you could figure your predicament by reading that one too. Anyhow, try to think what you had done or could have not done. But for now, stay away from his path else it'll really turn bad. But be certain to show him you love him by not pestering him for now. Good luck and I hope you could see what's soon. I'll be praying for you and your man.

You don't have to be anyone's punching board, verbally or physically. Just ask him right out what his problem is. If he doesn't respond and you are only living together, leave the jerk. Love doesn't mean you have to be abused in anyway, form, or fashion. There's something going on in his life that is frustating him and he's taking it out on you. That is not the behavior of a man, but of a child. Get him to tell you what's going on or go stay with a friend for a few days.

i wouldn't kiss his a#8 either maybe he will get in a better mood and then you tell him how he acted and you won't put up with it again . you can find someone who treats you better.

The most painful thing that someone will give you are the ones caused by out love-ones. And its the worst thing that might happen to everyone. The more you love, the more pain you feel it he/she makes the wrong move.

When my husband and I first got together, if he raised his voice or threw a fit, I just let him do whatever he wanted. I would stay at home and he would go out. This went on for a LONG time. Finally, I started going out too. We started getting along better when I had a life of my own. Often times when women get with new men, they give up alot of the extra things they enjoy doing. The most attractive thing about another person is when they are independent and active in life. In new relationships we dedicate so much of our time to him, we lose touch with those people we did things with while we were single. My advice, when he acts like he doesn't want you around, don't stay around. Absence makes the heart grow fonder....and if it ends up being- out of sight, out of mind- you deserve someone that wants you there. Good Luck!!