Can you still happy if your lover married another person?
By little_angel
@little_angel (2458)
Australia
June 19, 2007 11:37am CST
Hello myLotter
If you have a boyfriend and he's got married with other girl suddenly will you still get happy because he is happy with his marriage?
I will say Big NO... Even I always try to think that I must be happy if someone I love is happy with other girl. But I still can do that.
This story is really happen to my friend, she planned to get married with his boyfriend after 9 years relationship. But 1 month before her married, a girl called her and told her that she was pregnant with her boyfriend.
My friend canceled all the plan, and broke up with the bf. 2 weeks after that he was married with the pregnant girl. My friend was happy, even she didn't married him, at least she know it before she's got married.
Share your story please...
Thank you
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14 responses
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
19 Jun 07
That is sad but at least she found him out before she did marry him. I mean if he got another girl pregant he was cheating on her. Like my ex.husband did to me. I am glad it didn't last any longer then it did and I found out the he was cheating on me instead of years down the road but it still hurts for a good while.
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@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
Hello Shaun72
You are right, better to know about that before married. At least we know that he was cheating. I am sorry about your ex hubby, but he was ex now, hope you got a better man now.
thank you shaun
@b_gryl (419)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
That was a sad story. I think if my boyfriend will get marry with another girl i will be very sad. It will be too hard for me to move on because of the years we have been together and for those happy memories. Your friend's case is really hard and if i were her i will not know what to do. I hope that won't happen to me.
@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
Hello b_gryl
I will pray you will last forever with your boy friend.
Broken heart is the saddest thing.
God bless you
@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
20 Jun 07
I am so glad your friend found out about what her boyfriend was like before they got married. It must be really hard for her. He was no good for her, and he will probably cheat on this one as well. I wouldnt be happy i dont think. It takes a long time to get over someone you have been with a long time. And it will be hard for her if she sees them around. I hope she moves forward, and not dwell on the past.
Best wishes, little angel
@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
Hello kayrod
She was, but now she is well. She ignore her ex, her ex still try to make her believe that he will divorce and ask her to marry him. He is a mad person I guess.
God bless you
@nnishaant (60)
• India
20 Jun 07
well, it depends on person to person.....sometimes you feel that it is good that whom you love, she/he is happy with the person with whom she wanted to spend her life, and sometimes you just feel like anything.sometimes u even feel like grabbing the caller of the person to ask, why you did it....why with me???what was my fault????
and sometimes you think, it happened with me so that I can learn the importance of love and dont lose the real love when it comes to me.
Everyone of us is a human being and not god.....so it is really fine to think in either ways....but to harm ur love or her beloved is not good......coz then it transforms into lust , not love
@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
Hello nnishaant
Yup, each person will give different reaction, but we should be feel free if we know that he was cheating on us.
God bless you and thank you
@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
Hello puchapox
Your friend really have a huge heart. She deserved to have a better person.
God bless you and thank you
@renvil26 (6)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
hi! im a new lot user, i got your topic very interesting maybe because we almost have the same story with your friend. Honestly im not happy the first time i heard that my boyfriend will get married to this girl because she's pregnant, and it turns out somehow that story is not true...but right now i already accept the fact that he is happy because it shows on his face the last time we saw and talked with each other..:)
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@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
Hello renvil26
Welcome to myLot.
I ma sorry about your story, but at least you know that he is not a good person.
Cheers up girl, you deserved to have a better person.
God bless you
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
i think you should be happy for him primarily because if you love a person ,you would like his happiness and secondly, you should be glad because if it happens when you were married ,your in deep ...it which you cannot undo.so, you have to look at it in a positive perspective to your advantage. would you like to check this site and tell me what you think about it and the site itself.
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@poobear12993 (167)
• United States
20 Jun 07
That is a sad story but at least she knew a head of time. I do not think that I would be happy for him. Nine years is a long time and I would feel that it was wasted because he was a cheat.
@jogie_bien (1103)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
yes why not,because i think he is not the right person for me, and i am happy for not making mistakes in my life.
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@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
Hello jogie_bien
I think you are right, but sometime we can feel dissapointed with him right
God bless you
@paradise12 (938)
• India
20 Jun 07
Initially it would be difficult for me to take this issue but then after that i would be happy for him as he will be happy with his marriage and what matters is his happiness...So i would be happy for him but i can never forget that person and would always pray for him....
@FSCAries (881)
• United States
20 Jun 07
I don't think that I would be able to be very happy. Then again, I wouldn't have a lover that would be so quick to be with someone else, and especially not one that cheated on me... as far as I'm concerned, Why would you eat a burger when you're out when you have steak and potatoes at home! My man doesn't wander too far, he knows where to be to get it right.
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@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
Hello FSCAries
LOL, I will prefer eat steak and potatoes at home than hamburger.
But sometimes man think that have 2 or more lover is common thing.
God bless you.
@dcounselor279 (32)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
Well I say yes. Achieving happiness is a personal task. You have a choice, you can choose to be happy if you want. As for me, being optimistic, I always look at the possibility of a "blessing in disguise". Because I know that when God took away something for me, He prepare something special to replace it and its always the best for me.
@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
21 Jun 07
Hello dcounselor279
I am agree with you. God have something for our future and that would be something more beautiful then we ever though.
God bless you
@buzzmonster (250)
• Australia
20 Jun 07
I think there's two ways to look at it.
Personally, i've had two ex's that have gotten married - i've loved one of them. Whilst initially i wasn't all that pleased, with time, i've actually become really happy for both. Why? Because sometimes, to love someone, seeing them happy and knowing that some other guy is going to treat them well, it's something that you know is right.
@kringkles (51)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
What hurt's the most is to see the one you love sticking by your side even though he loves somebody else... huhuhuhu
