Will you marry someone just because your parents have chosen him/her?

no way... im gonna marry d female whom i like n who also likes me... after all its ma life n i dont like any kinda intervention from anyone in this regard

I will never marry someone just because my parents have chosen him/her. It's better if I marry the person that I know and I like. Like in my case I married my wife whom I had a relationship for for almost 5 years.

Parents think that they love their children and have lot of concern for their well being. They even think that they can find better life partner. They have more experience in life than their children. When the matter is regarding marriage they must realize that the opinion of the persons living together is most important. It is highly difficult to make some change their thinking. Living with like minded person will be great. But to live with a person where you find lot of differences will be like a hell. Let your friend strongly think about the exact kind of life partner she is looking for and she will get come across such a groom in her life. There is nothing wrong if some one's marriage is delayed for long time. Ask her to express her protest and unwillingness to accept the boy her parents have chosen.

Generally, fixed marriages are a thing of the past, and more cultures are becoming more open to freedom of choice when it comes to marriage. Some parents on the other hand are still into it, thinking that their children will greatly benefit from a pre-chosen partner who is most of the time being selected because of financial affluence. They tend to forget that money is only part of married life, and what makes a lasting marriage is the husband and wife's love for each other that will make the marriage work. Good for those who can stand being married to a total stranger, but most of the time, people suffer emotionally from these marriages. It's a lifetime commitment so one must be sure that he/she is willing to spend his/her whole life with that partner.

Hi,subha12.For my opinion,i'll think over such surrounds.I 'll first talk with my parents.I want to know why they choose this boy for me,is it really fittable?Am i must happy in the future or other reasons.Of course here is a meet with him and his families.In a word,i won't answer it at once.i will comunicate with him some time maybe my parenets are right.He is fit to me.Talk with our parents,they must give us a good chance.If i have to do it,i will accept it maybe.But if i really can't stay with him i will choose divoce.Just as some of our friends said,we are the owner of our lives,aren't we?On the other hand,we are the sons or daughters of our parents,we should respect them in a sense.Yes?

Oh my why are parents are doing that to their kids. It's really unfair. Since she has a good job, I am sure she can manage herself of doing what is right for her. It's her life anyway and tell her not to do it. How can she marry a stranger?...It's impossible.

If I have some feelings for the person yes but if I do not like him at all, I will have to say no to that.

I would never marry someone that my parents have choosen for me. I will marry for love and nothing less than love. I ofcourse would like to have my parents accept my choise - but if they dont then it is still my decision...

After having gone through several relationships, I am tired and have lost faith in mankind. At times, I do think why not we live in the old times where parents decide our marriage. In that case, I am spared of all the heartaches and headaches. I guess I will marry whoever my parents choose and decided.

I agree with you, I think that if she is going to spend all her life with him she has the right to decide who she is going to marry. Her parents are being a little stupid, they are almost destroying her life obliging her to marry him. If someone marries another person is because there is love and friendship not because parents want to. She can be happy with him but it would be a lot better if she was the one to choose her partner.

Hi Subha I think our parents , want to do good for us, they never have any intention to harm us by any means. But since it is the case of marriage , over all our decision is the supreme , since I have to live throughout life with her . The thing is parents should understand our feelings , if its right stand with us else leave it !!!

Hell no i can never do that.We all have right to do whatever we want

capital NO! i would not marry a person unless i know him personally or just my parents chooses him for me.Because they are not the one who would live with these person .I would marry a person only, if i know him well and loved him with all my heart and willing to live for the rest of life. Its not that disobeying your parents they should understand too that you have a feelings too to consider in making decisions like that concerns your happiness.

i think parents shouldn't interfere or bug in with this decisions. it's not their life. it's their daughter's life.

I would never marry someone I didn't know or didn't pick out for myself . If I have to spend the rest of my life with this person then I should be the one to decide if this person is for me . I would never agree to anything like this and would be very upset if anyone , including my parents thought they knew better then I did about who I was going to spend the rest of my life with . I can understand your friend being upset but would simply just say that I wasn't marrying this person and if they thought he was so great then they could marry him but that I would pick the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with myself and it would be someone that I got to know and learned to love and not someone that was selected for me like a piece of clothing .

definitely not. no one has the right to choose something so individual and important as a life partner.

I would never marry someone I ddin't know just because my parents picked him. Of course I have to say that my parents would never do that to me. But I wouldn't...your friend should say no. If she doesn't want to disappoint er parents and that's what shes worried about maybe she can meet him, spend time with him...and decide if she likes him or not, that way at least she can tell her parents she tried. But otherwise she should say no, it isn't fair to her.

its the custom thats been carried out inindia and mostly in families where guirls arenot given freedom ,you should atleast talk to that person to whom your parents whats you to marry and if it works out you can marry or move out to the next one

I am getting married in October. We have been dating for almost 3 years. We have spent the entire time getting to know each other and realizing how compatible we are with each other. If it wasn't for the past 3 years, we'd have no idea how a marriage would work out. We have also spent 2 of those years living together. How could someone go through marrying someone they know nothing about. It's a big risk to the future of their happiness.

I would say that it depends on the circumstances. Not so long ago, arranged marriages were the norm. You rarely married the person you loved. She should probably talk to her parents and then maybe try getting to know the groom? You never know, he could be quite the catch!