How sad when people you love seem to get rid of you so easily!!!!

My dearest friend - you and I are very alike in our feelings, as I enjoy showing my love for someone I do care about and unfortunately for me (just like you) I enjoy when someone I care about shows his or her love for me as well. But, I have learned in due course that, if someone does not show their love the way I want them to, does not mean he or she does not love me with the same intesity I love them; here is an example, my brother and sister love my dearly but there are weeks at times that they don't even drop an email even though I email/IM regularily but when something happens to me and/or I need them, they have never let me down. Also my best friend, may not call or write me as often as I do but he will do things his own way to show me that he cares as much as I do about him but, simply does not express it the same way. I hope all this makes some sense, as I cannot imagine anyone that you care or love and show them your affection not reciprocating. Hugs, Magdalena

I believe that once you love someone you never stop loving them, otherwise you never loved them at all. No matter how much they hurt you you'll always love them. I've been through situations similar to what you are describing with both friends and boyfriends and I still care deeply about them even though we don't talk anymore or aren't together anymore. That's just how it goes. Sometimes if they just threw you away it doesn't necessarily mean they never loved you since they "threw you away" but maybe getting away from you is the only way to deal with still loving you but being unable to be with you anymore. My ex-boyfriend and I work together so we still see each other. He cheated on me and broke up with me and he hurt me a lot but I still love him. He can't even look me in the eye though. I don't take that as him hating me, I take that as he still cares and by avoiding me it's the only way he can deal with it. you know?

hi sweetie, why do i feel that we are so one!! whatever you have written is just my thought, each word reflecting my thought process ditto!! in every relationship i give my 100% and may be more but its not reciprocated. why does this happens that when i get bit slog they also kind of forget me!! they hardly show their concern. in some cases, its understandable and some take me for granted. but, i feel, there is a need to show and say the feelings. i am human after all!

Oh dear I'm very much like you - I love easily and deeply and have been hurt many many times over the years because the other person/people didn't have the same commitment. Even my family seems to 'let go' easily and that hurts most of all I think.

Hi, maribea, This has happened to me in my case also. I used to feel that I do not know how to show my love to other people whom I love much. They used to call me a rough and tough man. I do not know why they portrayed me as tough and rough. May be they are right from their point of view. Since they have feeling that I am rough and touch man they are not understanding my real love to them. My own feeling is that I act very normally as others. What shall we do. We have to live and stomch the feeling of ours with a pinch of salt. That is what I have been doing all through my life.

We should never complain for such negative attitude of the people. Remember that every one could never be friend. Love is some thing more great. And here in this world every one is not great as the world love it self is great enough. If you are loving idol dont expect from others that they will also be like you. I found every one selfish here. such attitude of selfishness and greed is by birth. When a child could not get his or her feeder he start to cry and her or and his mom is available then she spare herself arrange to feed the child atonce. this is an example love of mother. Maternity love is pure and other's are artificial I think. And here on the earth is not every one like mom.

Yes. It is really hard especially the moving on part. I take every relationship very seriously. Because I am a real person. Eventhough I wish I could pretend to behave like this or that? I can't which I wish I can. But I am so real. I act the way I am. I show them the real me. But people were just created differently. Blessed with different personalities. I don't know. One thinking is enough anymore. Don't be bothered by a bunch of it. Just live life and go with the flow each day.

Yes I feel very deeply about people and get hurt a lot. I am very sensitive and open my heart to people for them to hurt me. I am not so much a victim as I used to be. I have had to harden up for my own sake which is sad because people are like that. I've had friends who I wanted to be close friends and they didn't want that because they were older than me that upset me. I think you can be friends with people all age groups why does age matter?

Yes, it has my sad experience some one who loved by us seem to get rid of ...

Yes, Maribea this has happened to me. Why is it that the people who need love and affection the most are rejected by other people? I am a lonely person. I am not the kind of person to do anything half way. Whem I love someone I love very deeply. It is too bad that there are not people other there in the world who will love me.

it's just perception. i dont know, maybe it's true that they kind of change from their warm self sometimes. it's because of familiarity, but it doesnt mean that the feeling that, that person has changed for you. i mean, there are times when i am just so tired that i turn cold towards my boyfriend, but it doesnt mean that i love him less. it's just that there are a lot of things that bothers us and are in the higher priority at the time. well, it's case to case basis though. i mean, it could be that the change in attitude and actions means something deeper. that the other person has gone cold. that there has been a change of heart. but whenever that happens i would be honest enough to tell my boyfriend about it. i cannot just let him expect. why? because i would want to be treated the same way, if he doesnt love me anymore he should tell me straight to my face! not that i will be waking up the nest morning thinking that he still loves me and the when the truth is, his world has been spinning around somebody else!:)

Yes, it did happen to me. We are very much alike in the feelings. As it is, i usually go home and meet my wife and daughter once a week. while at work, i always wonder how they are, wishing my wife give me a buzz, but no such luck. The fact is my cellphone rings at the time i am desperately in despair. As is my point, take life as it is that is always full of surprise.

Wow. This is so scary because I have the same exact thought. No, really I do. I agree with you totally. I'm a really loyal and devoted person. Sometimes people that I love treat my affections as if they're jokes. Are you an Aries? lol Just curious because I am. I wonder how can someone stops loving another person so easily though. I don't think those people know what "love" truly means. Teenagers, kids and even some adults use the word "love" so carelessly these days and it's not even sweet or funny anymore. Then again, I guess it depends on other people's definitions of love and relationship.