Do you think you should stay married or get a divorce when there's no love left?

China
June 22, 2007 3:52am CST
If you suddenly find you don't love your spouse any more, will you try to get a divorce when you two already have a child? Do you think it is good or bad to stay married for your child? I would love to know your opinion on this.
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@latsmom (824)
22 Jun 07
I think it is down to the individual to be honest, personally I was in this situation, my ex partner and I were constantly arguing and it was no good for our daughter to see us like this, in the end I decided that it was bestto call it a day and better for her to have 2 happy separated parents than 2 living together who were constantly arguing and fighting. My daughter still sees her dad reguarly but lives with me. She knows that we both love her adn my ex and I have remained freinds (well kind of) butat least she not seeing violence anymore and hopefully my ex and I will settle wit people we love and my daughter will grow to realise that even if children are involved sometimes it is best all round to break up adn be 2 good parenst apart than 2 bad ones together, but then it defginately depends on the circumstance and person.
• China
22 Jun 07
I want to say sorry for your situation, but in fact I think "congratualtions ' might be better because you finally ended up a terrible marriage. Sometimes two good peole get together, but may form a violent family.
22 Jun 07
Tough question... I think this would depend totally on the circumstances. If the parents are fighting and arguing all the time, I'd say a divorce was definitely best, as this environment could be really upsetting for the child and quite confusing aswell. It would give them the wrong idea about marriage. Having said that, if the two parents still get along fine, but there is no love, there is a possibility that it could work for them, staying together for the child, because the child won't notice that anything is wrong. However, I feel that overall, if there is no love left, a divorce would be the best option for everyone. It would not be fair on the child to hide him away from the realities of life, and it certainly wouldn't be fair on the parents to deprive themselves of the love they need to feel from another person. Especially if they will just wait until the child grows up and then separate - because this can be more traumatic for an older person to deal with - it's easier for kids to 'bounce back' when they are young. A loveless relationship is something that a child definitely does not need to see - I'm sure they would rather see their parents happy with other people rather than unhappy with eachother - although it may be difficult at first. Yep, so in my opinion, a divorce is the best thing for a loveless marriage.
• China
22 Jun 07
I totally agree with me. I'm in China,and things may be a bit different here, but we are less conservative than before. My friend got divorced and i was on her side when she made the tough decision.