Does sibling rivalry exist in your family?

Me and my sister quarreled at lot when we were growing up and there was no day that we didn't get to clash and bear our claws at each other. However, each of us really admire and have good opinion of each other. My sister wants to be better because she sees that I wanted to be better too. We grow up not having any sibling rivalry. WE just want to be the best in what we do.

I try my hardest not to compare my children. But sometimes i do, but not mean it. There is a lot of sibling rivalry between them, they are always fighting over silly things, each have times when they think they are being picked on by all the others. The list goes on. Hopefully when they are all grown, they will get on well. My eldest, who has left home, is a lot more tolerable now of her sisters and brother. Best wishes to you, argie

In some families whom I know, the parents are always striving to bring close bondage between their children. In some, they are responsible for rivalry, inequalities etc. We are family of 9 and most of the time, there is cordiality between them and mainly due to money matters and trivial issues, there is conflict between them. I love to maintain good, sincere relationship with all the family members,.

Ya, me and my sister used to fight a lot when she was at home. But after she got married and moved out, we became very close. I would do anything I could for her. She is almost certainly the closest member of my family to me. I love her dearly, and at the moment she's having a rough time, and I wish I could help her in some other way... But sibling rivalry is pretty common... We are so different though, that we are never compared.

Between my two older sisters there is a little rivalry. My middle sister seems to have married the perfect husband and my other sister has married the perfect loser. I lived with my older sister for a while, so I know just by watching her actions how she feels, but it is one of those things that is not talked about and I don't much blame her for it. My middle sister's husband is a hard working provider and an elder at our church. While my older sisters husband is a very sickly drunken loser, who sits at home and smokes all day and is an extremely bad influence on his kids, while my sister goes to work all day. So I suspect anyone would feel the same.

In my family, I have two brothers and two sisters. Both my sisters are the older ones. Although we have all grown up now and each of us have our own homes and families, I can recall that in my younger days when we were still at school, we were a very close-knit family. We never really competed with each other to see who stood up more than the other. My parents loved us all just the same, and didn't have favourites. But we all know that among the five of us, my elder brother was the more brilliant one. He did very well in school, obtained two scholarships, and studied overseas. Now he is a professor and the president of a university. While the remaining four of us didn't achieve the same level of success, we all nevertheless studied until university and had good careers, so in that sense, that didn't give rise to any kind of sibling rivalry amoungst us. We had a very strong bond when we were young, and have kept that bond going strong even until today.

i did it once with my three kids. but my only daughter resented it when i favored her kuya, my second son, you know my daughter is the youngest of the three and she wanted always to be the center of attraction. but as they grew older and more mature in their outlook of life, they are now very close to each other....

Yes! Me and my brother fights in many instances. I grew up away from my dad because my dad is working abroad, and my mom, who is left with us is making my younger brother as her favorite. I hate my mom when she compares me to my brother and always giving him the best love and stuff. On the other hand, I am getting attention from my Grandparents. But still, it is different from the love I can get from my real parents. Now, I got used to this stuff and just ignore them.

yeah.this happend to me too.when i was child my mom was comparing me with my brother.i too really hate that becoz he always do better than me.Now it is OK we two have settled in different fields and my mom has no chance to compare us .heheh

Sometimes with my two daughters but it's only a kid fight coz my eldest is almosts a teenager and she have more patience with her younger sister. But I think they will not have more fights and became a competition someday. Because I know they really love each other.

yes it does well it use to anyway I am always tring to be better then my sister and I want my parents to know that I am better then her and she tries to do the same thing we always end up fighting to we dont get along that well which most of the time it isnt my faule and actually hers and hate it when my parents think its mine fault most of the time and I hate it when they think shes so perfect and how she does nothing wrong I cant stand that I guess we still do have a sibling rivalry but it use to be a lot worse when we were kids.

I have twin daughters who have 9 years gap to the youngest. I thought sibling rivalry would not happen to them because they have very big age gap. I even thought they would be matured enough to handle their sister's tantrums and attitudes towards them. Whenever I buy a simple stuff for my youngest daughter, the twins tend to ask me why I haven't bought them. This happens not only when buying things but also on matters concerning food, dresses, who I wake up first, who's gonna feed the fishes. I keep on explaining that I don't have favorites and i treat them all equally but it seems there has been sibling rivalry over them.

It used to exist when we were kids. I have an younger bro, who is not as smart as mein academics. So he was always jealous of me. I was jealous becuase, i was the person who was told any kind of work in the house. I used to complain, why isnt he given any work to do. Now no longer we fight on those silly issues. I like him a lot. I support his education. He looks upto me for nay kind of help without any hesitation. Its good now. What i feel is, once you grow up, one would never face any problem with their sibilings

There is no rivalry as such. My brother and me both play badminton and also compete in tournaments. There is only rivalry on the court and not outside. I think parents should never compare their kids with either the outsiders or amongst their own kids. This is the major reason to spark hatred among the siblings. I do not care if someone is comparing me with someone else who they feel is superior to me coz I know that I am unique and no one else can replace me. Parents must be neutral while dealing with their kids' success and failure. Equal importance must be given to all the kids no matter whether they perform well or not in any particular field.

no not really cause I have one younger sister and she is 10 years younger then me

No firstly parents should never compare there own kids and neither with others kids..!! I hate it a lot. In my family its opposite ..!!I have my big brother and he kind of tops in every field..!! Like studies,love,friends,trust of my parents,and many more..!! I was kind of hell lot of discouraged and it made me feel that I am unwanted in my family and nobody needs me ..!! But now as I am grown up I know what kind of game is it ..!! And now we are again in competeition !!

No, never I have an older and a younger brother, we did fight between ourselves when we were younger, but now that we are older we get on really great, its unreal.

when we were in our elementary and high school days,there was a rivalry between me and my sister..though it is not always that we were compared to each other, but for me it is not healthy,coz i always beleive that we have different personalities.

I grew up with a sister two years younger than myself and we used to argue all the time. Even if there was nothing to argue about, we used to find it. Now that we are both grown up and more "sensible" we are best of friends :-)

first, admire you have someone to share and compete...i am the only one in my family,sometimes feel quite lonely. but i dont like the parents compare their kids...since each single one is unique in her/his own way...the comparison base on no reason.they cannot expect two kids or more to do the same thing at the same time.