are u a listener or adviser?

I think I am more of a listener I rarely really talk alot unless I have something to say I feel is valuable but for some reason all my friends through the years came to me for advice so they thought I was a good adviser but personally i think I am more of a listener

I think I am more of a listener. I try not to give advice because I am not sure I will be able to give the good advice all the time. But if i would have my way, I would not listen also because I don't like to hear bad news and stuff like that. I would rather hear good news, jokes and stuff like that. But if the bad news comes, then i guess I have to just listen.

I know it myself that am really a poor listener-you ring me on the phone, before you tell me exactly what you want to say, am already taking over the talking from you! Once someone who had little credit on his phone rang me and as usual i took over the talking and his credit went off before he could tell me why he rang-he had to send me an sms to ring him back which I did-I was almost going not to listen again until he cut me short to say he had an urgent infor to pass on before I could give him a listening hear. Well about advise, yes , I can try but listening!

I am more of an adviser, because I get bored in just listening. Some people say that I am hard-headed, who only believes on myself. I always try to stick to my views, especially when I know that I have a good point about the situation. But there's also a time where I keep still, depending on what they are trying to convey.

Actually I am both, I am human and I have my ups and downs but I must say I do both very well. I used to be invited in a radio station here in our place to listen and give advices to people with problems and I was good at it. Maybe I should make a website dedicated in helping people. mmmmm.... its not a bad idea thou.

Both. See, I listen first then give advice afterwards.

You know, I am pretty good at both of them. But, I prefer to listen more than give advise anyday, though.

I can understand that. I too am a good listener. And like you Im always aking for advice from my friends. And also from the people of mylot. They have some pretty good advice here.LOL

I try to give advice but I am a better listener also. Sometimes my advice isn't that great so I just sit back and listen

i think a great adviser is also a good listener. how could one advise someone if you are a poor listener of the problem being narrated to you by a friend, a relative, or confidant? i might say i'm a little bit of both. but i'm poor adviser when its me who has a problem.

Hey. Im probably a bit of both, but then I listen to alot of friends or family who need advice and sometimes this can be draining... But I always listen to them and if they ask me what I think, then I will tell them what I think, but for them to choose there own decisions and makethere own minds up...

as for me i'd incline to listen more than giving out advices due to the fact if you gave bad advice may simply devastates the whole situation or deteriorate what is going on behind the curtain which you have not been informed or aware of. at time it is for the best not to mention a thing

I'm a person who can be both depending on what situation I'm asked for. If my close friends asked for my advise I can give one after listening to their problems. And if I feel that they just need someone to listen from all their sobs and hang-ups I'm offering both my ears and my shoulders. (,")

i think im a good listener. same with you, o love listening to my friends problem though i gave some advise which i think is not that good at least i tried to gave some good advise to them.

hallo zer0charly, i think i have to listen more to give any advice.i have to see the problem deeper to examine and it takes me a while to help my friend for clearing the view of her/ him then i can point a target for solution.

I am more of a listener most of the time, but I also like giving advise to all people who are in need of one, and most of them value my advices also a lot..

I'm a really good listener, which is lucky, because my wife is a really good talker, lol! Seriously though, I am a good listener, and have a shoulder to cry on if that is what is needed. I can give good advice if it is needed, but prefer to let a person get it all off their chest and hopefully feel better afterwards.

It can be both? :)

Considering that this is partof my job, I would say both. To be a good advisor, you have to be a good listener. Very rarely is the first symptom of the problem the path to solution. Many times, it takes digging to get to the root cause and for people that requires listening.

I give great advice, whether I listen to it is another story.... I can relate and without bias, find what would logicly be best, but when it comes to listening to myself, for some reason it's different...maybe I'm wrong...